Is God telling me?

[JonnClemmons]

Hey everyone! before I begin let me say I thank you for all of you that respond with any advice, it's very much appreciated!

So I have had a very close friend of mine for about 6 years now and about a year ago I started to feel (what I think) is God's voice/guidance telling me to wait for her (relationship wise) But this is what I am wondering. Will/would God actually be telling me to wait for this girl? because she has a boyfriend at the moment and has been with him for a little over a year now. Now I have liked this girl very much for about 4 years or so. She has known this but has never liked me the same way. So would God be telling me to wait for this girl even tho she is currently in a relationship? because as far as I know the Bible doesn't give any indication that God wouldn't do this.

Please cite scripture for if you say God would or would not. Thank you so much for reading!

 

[ChrisHolland619]

Since you already have feelings for her, one could question whether its God, or just you.

But honestly, no one knows that but God. Can He be telling you that? Of coarse. He's God. He can tell you whatever He wants.

But the best mindset is to wait on God, not the girl. Keep Him the focus, not her. Let Him draw you to who He wants. It'll happen. Trust me. It did with my fiancé. I waited and waited and waited and finally God dropped her in my life like a sack of hot potatoes.

But I let Him have the reigns.

 

[Pal Handy]

Wait for her?

Are you in a relationship now?

Probably not.... so what is the waiting for when you really
have no one else in your life to begin with..... so waiting for her
means nothing as you have no other prospects.

Of course I am assuming all this but I will continue my logic.....

So why would God advise you to wait?
If you have no other options, asking you to wait now makes no sense
because God wouldn't have to say anything at this time.

Here's what I would do....I would forget about this woman.

I would tell the Lord that I am willing that He be my guide
in life and I would ask Him to help me to live day by day and not in the future.

Living in the future will cause you grief and misery and will paralyze you because
you will not be able to let this go and trust in God as you should because this desire
will shape the way you think, act and will become an obsession.

Tell the Lord that you want His will to be done in your life each day and
that you do not want to live in the future but you want God to order your footsteps
each day.

While you are waiting on the Lord, pray and ask the Lord to make you ready for marriage.

Pray and ask God to bring the right woman into your life at the
proper time and pray for this woman that God will bring and don't
assume who it is but trust that God will make it clear at the proper time.
Pray and ask that He would have His way in her life and bless her while
you are allowing God to shape you and make you ready for marriage.

If you invite the Lord into this situation and forget about your
desire for this woman who is already with someone else and is not interested in you,
you will be asking God to bless you above and beyond what you could think, hope
or even ask for.

Living in the future will mess you up and cause you to miss what God
has for you day by day and could cause you to miss out on His plan for you.

If what you think you heard is from God then give it back to God,
surrender your life to Him day by day and walk with Him and He will
bring about His plan for your life.

If you are right and God is telling you that this woman will be your wife, you
still must surrender this desire to the Lord and give her up and let her go.
If you don't give this all back to God you will obsess over her and this
obsession will paralyze you and make you miserable and stunt your growth in the Lord.

If you are wrong about this and it is just your desire for this woman,
then you still must give it to God and trust that He knows what is best for you,
even if it means that you will not be with this woman.

Let her go.....either way...let her go.

God's way is best so either way you have to give this up to God and pray
that He would help you to let it go so you can live each day as He wants you
to live in His fullness for you as you walk in love and trust with Him day by day.

Matthew 6 Jesus speaking...
34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow,
for tomorrow will worry about its own things.
Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

 

[PoetSaskia]

I don't know what God is telling you but I know that He promised me a wife at a time when I didn't think I could ever be married. I had to go through some suffering, but it turned out better than I could have hoped. There was a scripture that I came to feel was just for me. In the story of the prodigal son, the father put a ring on his son's finger. That never meant anything to me until I came back to God. I used to think, what would I want with a ring? I don't like jewelry. But in my case it was a wedding ring, because He promised me a wife! I have never told anyone that. I don't know if God is telling you that, but I do believe it's possible, and I suspect that if she isn't the one, then He has someone even better in mind for you, better than you are hoping for, because that's how it was for me. Now I am so glad that none of my past relationships ever worked out and that I was never married before. One time, when a girl I was engaged to broke up with me, I wept and prayed, God, why did this happen?

 

[PoetSaskia]

But now I'm glad that it happened! My wife is so much better for me than that girl!
anyway, if someone told me they don't like me the same way, I probably wouldn't pursue them further. I would think it more likely that God would bring me someone else than to change that person's feelings. I personally wouldn't want God to change someone's mind about me in order for them to marry me; that just doesn't sound romantic or ideal to me. (Ask yourself if that's what you really want and you may find the answer you're looking for.) But I know some men are much more aggressive than me when pursuing women. Johnny Cash got his wife that way and they stayed together. But whatever happens with her, I think you are going to eventually be very glad that things worked out the way they did.

 

[tturt]

If you believe Yahweh is speaking to you about this, don't look at things in the natural to verify if it's Him speaking. I would pray about it but not dwell on it. Also, I would begin to prepare for this next stage by reading books on creating Godly marriages (Eph 5:33); communication (Eph 4:26), and finances (Rom 13:8). Love and Respect by Emerson, Five Love Languages by Chapman, How to Hear God in a Noisy World by Serputis which has exercises and ways to check for accuracy, etc. Unsure on what Scripture you want posted. John 10:27 "My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:"

A communication tip based on Eph 4:26 - A couple agreed that they both apologize before midnight the day of the disagreement.

 

[DiscipleHeLovesToo]

Gen 24 speaks about the choice of Isaac's wife, which seems to have been made for him by God (although it's important to note that the Bible doesn't specifically say that she was God's choice for Isaac, but merely relates what Abraham's servant believed). at this time, there's no indication that anyone other than Abraham believed that they could hear directly from God; so the common approach was to ask for a sign, but we know that we can hear directly from God through His Spirit within us, so seeking signs is no longer appropriate (Mat 12:38-41).

Jacob had to wait 7 years for his wife Rachael (Gen 29), although he seems to have chosen her - but his choice could have been based on God's leading as well.

Boaz seems to have chosen Ruth (Ruth 4), but his choice could have been based on God's leading as well.

personally, i believe God would certainly know who will be the best spouse for each person, yet the free will of the individual can refuse God's leading - so even if God knows that you two are each other's ideal spouse, that doesn't mean that one of you will choose to not follow God's leading.

three times over 20 years i had what i still believe was a 'word from God' about my own first true love being His choice for me. she chose a homosexual lifestyle, so it hasn't come to pass. in the meantime, i married someone else of my choosing, and we almost destroyed each other before she left and we divorced.

so the only advice i can give you is to hear from God and follow His leading as best you can.

when confronted with a situation for which there is no specific example to refer to in scripture, we should follow the still, small voice inside (Rom 8:14); using peace to rule as to what that choice is, and seek first the kingdom of God while we are trying to tell which choice has that peace (Mat 6:33; Luke 12:31; Col 3:1-15). the problem is that it is extremely difficult to hear from God when the consequences of missing His leading are substantial, as it is in marriage. so my best advice for you is to start exercising your ability to hear from God in small things where the consequences of missing Him don't seem substantial - such as how much toothpaste to put on the brush. then when faced with a decision like this, it will not be so seemingly impossible to tell which voice is His.

 

[jsimms615]

Just my opinion, but it sounds more like wishful thinking than anything that God is really saying.

 

[Humble Pie]

I'd be surprised if God's telling you anything of the sort. You should find your own girlfriend.

 

[TheDag]

There is no scripture that will give a clear answer as to if God is saying this to you. However I firmly believe that he can and does at times. I had my entire life mapped out other than the day I would die and there was no room for a girlfriend in my plans. I met this girl who had decided she would shut herself off from others because people only hurt you and she didn't want to be hurt again. Well we got together and I'm sure it was God. In any case I once prayed to God to come second in a race (I thought asking for first would be greedy). Next day at the school athletics carnival I came second. I was beaten by one of the few people in the school who was actually slower than me and it is the only time in my life I have beaten my brother in a race. So I think God cares about the small stuff. If this is God then focus on God and doing what he wants you to do right now in your work or study or whatever you do during the week. If it is God's plan then he will make it happen.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” Exodus 20:17

 

[ChrisHolland619]

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” Exodus 20:17

Very true, but that is part of the Mosaic Law. I'd feel better about the reference if it was from the mouth of Christ, not the law of sin and death.

But before faith came, we were kept under the law, shut up unto the faith which should afterwards be revealed. Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith. But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster. (Galatians 3:23-25 KJV)

For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. (Romans 8:2 KJV)

 

[paul1149]

The first step is to be willing to follow what God tells you to do (John 7.17).

Keep abiding in yieldedness, and seek the wisdom of God as James describes in jas 3.17-18.

Then give it time. If it's God, the right doors will open and the right doors will shut. Don't try to make it happen on your own. If nothing seems to be happening, keep abiding. Be faithful in the little things, in the here and now. They may look to have nothing to do with what you want, but if it's God in the end you will see how the Master weaver has formed His intricate pattern perfectly.

If it's not God you will have the peace to walk away and look elsewhere, or even to be called to celibacy. But give it the test of obedience and patience.

 

[JonnClemmons]

Thank you everyone! All your advice has helped me greatly I really appreciate all you taking your time to write such long answers!

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Very true, but that is part of the Mosaic Law. I'd feel better about the reference if it was from the mouth of Christ, not the law of sin and death.

But before faith came, we were kept under the law, shut up unto the faith which should afterwards be revealed. Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith. But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster. (Galatians 3:23-25 KJV)

For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. (Romans 8:2 KJV)

Are we still under the law? > Sabbath Truth

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Also: in Matthew 5:17-18 Jesus says, "Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. I tell you the truth, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished."

God's Ten Commandments

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Or this: Romans 13:9
New International Version (NIV)
9 The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,”[a] and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

Is it very loving to wish someone else's girlfriend is yours?

 

[Bettys60]

If it's God's will, it's in His hands.