Is an emotional attachment strong enough to distract an engagement?

[Linet Kihonge]

I have this guy who met his girlfriend some years back and they dated for close to four years before getting engaged. However, Pete (not his real name) met another girl along the way who was easier to be with. They would chat about anything, share a couple of laughs and bla bla bla. So the issue is, ever since Pete met the new girl his focus changed dramatically. He had already set a wedding date with the fiancee but since that time he's been postponing it. The cliffhanger on this issue is that he's been buying commitment rings to the fiancee and promising heaven and earth despite creating new wedding dates.

My question is, "Would the emotional attachment be strong enough to change his mind about his vow of marriage to his main girl?" If you are a guy, "Who would you go for?"

 

[Travelers.Soul]

If his actions and attitudes have changed that drastically then it may be better for everyone involved to step back and reassess the situation/relationship. In the long run it may be wiser to call the wedding and engagement off.

 

[look4hope]

Not a guy here, but if you don't mind a neutral opinion--
If the guy is torned, and unfocused about the whole situation, then perhaps he should take a break, think hard about both women involved and come up with the best unselfish solution. Will it have a fairy tale ending? Maybe not. Maybe yes. There's always that 50/50 chance of anything.

 

[Tigerfan01]

Not a guy here, but if you don't mind a neutral opinion--
If the guy is torned, and unfocused about the whole situation, then perhaps he should take a break, think hard about both women involved and come up with the best unselfish solution. Will it have a fairy tale ending? Maybe not. Maybe yes. There's always that 50/50 chance of anything.

I agree with look4hope. Definitely take some time now before making the decision to marry someone you're not 100% sure about. It will be better for everyone involved if you make a good decision now as apposed to later. Things won't be "perfect" either way, but just decide who he is willing to take the good AND THE BAD times with. Pray on it.

 

[JAM2b]

I'm not a guy either, not that I thought you were fooled by my avatar

I think the responsible and honorable thing to do is for him to have very honest conversation with the fiance. She needs to be fully aware of the nature and depth of the friendship. Pete also needs to consider which is more important to him, the friendship or the future marriage. If letting go of the friendship is something he is unwilling to do, then he needs to inform the fiance, and allow her to make a choice about moving forward or not. If this marriage is worth sacrificing his friendship, then he needs to be prepared to let the friend go, or put new boundaries and limits for himself and his friend.

Niether option is wrong. But, I can't help but wonder, if the friend is easier and more enjoyable to be around than the fiance, then why is he marrying her? Why would anyone want to marry someone they do not enjoy as much as they enjoy other people?