Introvert or extrovert?

timewerx · Feb 10, 2016

Willis Gravning said:
Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
I read a comment (not here) of someone who complained he didn't feel comfortable in church because he was an introvert while most of the people there were extroverts. It causes me to wonder if church attendance is more attractive to extroverts. I was raised in a fundamentalist type church and I remember everyone gathering into groups and conversing after the service while I, being more an introvert, kind of quietly sneaked away. My dad is an introvert and church always made him feel uncomfortable.

I'm a little less of both and more of a madman. I know I sometimes look and act so silly like I have lost my mind but who cares?

I'm a little nervous around strange people but being nervous excites me so....

GrimKingGrim · Feb 11, 2016

Introvert but I can be slightly extrovert in a social setting but my default is introvert

PsychoSarah · Feb 12, 2016

In between. To most, I appear extroverted, however, I hate being around large groups, despite being all over the place to interact with people. It gets exhausting, and I could never handle it on a daily basis.

Yet, I am rarely nervous about talking to people, despite having a social disorder that increases the likelihood of social blunder.

Noxot · Feb 16, 2016

i'm a black hole and I find churches to be social gatherings that i can't relate to and I do not take pleasure in doing such things however I delight greatly in other aspects of the church such as the thinkers that belong to the church. if i want to feel nervous around a bunch of people that i don't know then i will go to a bar. the esoteric is much more pleasing than the exoteric. intimacy matters so much more than being around strangers. I don't want to know a lot of people, I just want the right people.

HermanNeutics13 · Feb 21, 2016

I would say I have always been an extrovert but recently have been forced to become more of an introverted extrovert. Partially based on where I live and partially based on the fact that I appear shy if I am not interested i your conversation. It can also take me time to warm up to someone, but I have generally regained my energy by being around people. As for if church is more comfortable to extroverts I have heard theories on that. IN the end I do think it proves all people have a natural inclination to be at least slightly introverted, meaning humans must be around other humans from time to time.

GrowingSmaller · Feb 24, 2016

I think there are social dimensions, I am shy with women and open to men for example. Even though I am heterosexual. At a chess club Id feel awkward, at a computed quite cool. Id chat to strangers on a bus, but people are quite private.

GrowingSmaller · Feb 24, 2016

PsychoSarah said:
In between. To most, I appear extroverted, however, I hate being around large groups, despite being all over the place to interact with people. It gets exhausting, and I could never handle it on a daily basis.

Yet, I am rarely nervous about talking to people, despite having a social disorder that increases the likelihood of social blunder.

Similar here.

GrowingSmaller · Feb 24, 2016

Honeybees in a colony regulate hive temperature due to diverse response thresholds.

http://www.asknature.org/strategy/958ba5b01d37e6de7841c4b5d6bf9740

Ie if all flapped their wings at once, at the same tiime, thered be no subtlety in the temperatire regualtion. All flap at once and theres a sudden breeze....

But with bees flapping according to diverse thresholds, some will flap and then more and then more, as the hive achieves stability in a more sensitive manner.

Neochristian · Apr 9, 2016

Introverts 4 life!

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juvenissun · Apr 10, 2016

Willis Gravning said:
Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
I read a comment (not here) of someone who complained he didn't feel comfortable in church because he was an introvert while most of the people there were extroverts. It causes me to wonder if church attendance is more attractive to extroverts. I was raised in a fundamentalist type church and I remember everyone gathering into groups and conversing after the service while I, being more an introvert, kind of quietly sneaked away. My dad is an introvert and church always made him feel uncomfortable.

I reasoned that there should be more introverted than extroverted in a church. The symptom is that there are more quiet people than talking people in the church.

FrumiousBandersnatch · Apr 10, 2016

juvenissun said:
I reasoned that there should be more introverted than extroverted in a church. The symptom is that there are more quiet people than talking people in the church.

The difference between introversion and extroversion is a little more subtle than whether you're quiet in church...

sarah_beloved · Apr 10, 2016

I'm definitely an introvert! Church service itself doesn't bother me, because it's a mega church and no one really knows who you are, so there isn't much fellowship. The "say something nice to the person next to you" part makes me cringe so I usually just smile and say hi.

There is however a weekly small group fellowship which I attend, otherwise known as care group. This is the one which makes me feel uncomfortable, to say the least. I honestly detest making small talks especially. Drains the life out of me. Not that I don't want to, or that I don't care. But it's just, ugh. It is improving as I get to know a few of them better, but surround me with new people and you'll see me blending in with the wall again.

Anyway, just adding on: I generally don't have issues approaching people if there's a need to. I also used to be one of the best in my class in public speaking. So introverts doesn't have to mean shy and quiet

LaSorcia · Apr 10, 2016

I am definitely introverted, too. And glad to be. It used to tick me off that E ppl are called social butterflies, and I ppl are called wall flowers. I decided to just call I ppl flowers. And you know what? Butterflies NEED flowers just as much as flowers need butterflies.

I do like talking to ppl, but yes, I find small talk so tedious and vapid. I know there needs to be some bridge between hello and an in-depth conversation though, so I've learned to do it in my own way, rather than being subjected to a barrage of the standard small talk, which usually consists of what, to me, is nebby questions.

Neochristian · Apr 10, 2016

I recommend the author Susan Cain. She wrote a book about introverts and the extrovert ideal called QUIET. Check it out. Very well done.

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juvenissun · Apr 10, 2016

FrumiousBandersnatch said:
The difference between introversion and extroversion is a little more subtle than whether you're quiet in church...

It depends on where and when in the church. The pastor is certainly not necessary extroverted when he preaches.

Neochristian · Apr 10, 2016

Also you guys should know there are such things as ambiverts.

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bhsmte · Apr 10, 2016

Neochristian said:
Also you guys should know there are such things as ambiverts.

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What people should realize, is personalities are not as simple as; introvert or extrovert. Everyone has a combination of different traits, that tend to come out, under certain circumstances, with one trait, possibly being the dominant one.

Neochristian · Apr 10, 2016

Susan Cain defines it differently. She says introverts get energy from solitude and extroverts get energy from company. She also says introverts are often hyper-sensitive (physical, not emotional). That means introversion is more of a physical condition than a personality trait.

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GQ Chris · Apr 10, 2016

I am a Social introvert. Means I like going out, but I don't necessarily like chatting everyone up. There are a lot of D-bags out there.

Runswithdogs · Apr 10, 2016

Introvert here.

Really though, being introvert/extrovert doesn't have as much to do with how you are around other people.. Both can be perfectly fine dealing with people on a day to day basis.

Its more to do with what makes you feel refreshed/relaxed etc..
So an extrovert will find something like going out to party/function or interact with others to get recharged whereas an introvert would seek out solace. quite or nature time etc to recharge their battery's.

Its also on a sliding scale...
More extroverted, tend to be louder/more outgoing, life of the party types.

Somebody like me who is mid range introvert can interact with people just fine but if im in a crowded are I start getting twitchy & very busy scenarios can actually bring on low level panic attacks (Dont go shopping 24th dec!) where I Have to get outside/fresh air. & Id rather pull my teeth out with pliers than go to a concert or the like. Drop me in the middle of the woods though & im happy

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