INTJ Single Christian Men...?

[musicchick581]

I'm having difficulty finding an attractive and healthy INTJ man who is Christian. I realize this is the type least likely to believe in Christianity but am looking for an NF or NT to connect with. I've found NF types in the past too emotionally demanding for me and I crave the connection I only find from intuitives...particularly Ni dominants. So where do these INTJs hang out?

 

[RC1970]

I'm an INTJ and I think you are correct that most INTJ's are not Christian. In fact, most of my NT friends are not Christians.

INTJ's probably hangout in libraries or bookstores. Maybe a Christian bookstore would be a good place to start.

 

[Citanul]

I can tell you where this INTJ man can be found more often than not, which is at home, but that doesn't really help you.

One thing I will say is be careful not to get too hung up on the personality type. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having a preference, but making it an absolute criterion is probably going too far. A guy being an INTJ is no guarantee of success, nor does it mean that things can't work out if he's not.

 

[blackribbon]

If you are INTJ woman, I suggest that you not marry the same personality type. It is usually better to find someone to balance out your personality - otherwise you get double the weakness of each personality type. I think this goes doubly for an INTJ. Personality style isn't a way to pick a spouse but rather one tool to aid in self awareness and learning how to interact with others. It should be used as a way to learn about others and not a way to separate and isolate into a world where you don't have to relate to all of God's children.

 

[OcifferPls]

I don't know if I trust the projections on that one tbh. I've heard that opposites attract, but as an INF/TJ, I personally get along better with more introverted types, and can even end up being the more extroverted one around them.

I just dislike being the center of attention in a crowded room, preferring to be orbiting a community, which always places me in the introverted scale on these tests. I've also fallen hard for another INFJ once, although she disliked the sameness (whether the recommendations from the experts had anything to do with that I do not know). They say that INFJ's need to recharge, and I can associate with that. Extroverted energy constantly bombarding you as an INFJ can be taxing.

 

[blackribbon]

I don't know if I trust the projections on that one tbh. I've heard that opposites attract, but as an INF/TJ, I personally get along better with more introverted types, and can even end up being the more extroverted one around them.

I just dislike being the center of attention in a crowded room, preferring to be orbiting a community, which always places me in the introverted scale on these tests. I've also fallen hard for another INFJ once, although she disliked the sameness (whether the recommendations from the experts had anything to do with that I do not know). They say that INFJ's need to recharge, and I can associate with that. Extroverted energy constantly bombarding you as an INFJ can be taxing.

An opposite personality doesn't always have to be an E with an I...nor a complete opposite...and there are extroverts that are only mildly extroverted and are not a constant bombardment of energy...also, there are difference between sexes that are not personality tied. I just don't think looking for a personality type is really a good primary screening criteria.

 

[exitstageright]

If you are INTJ woman, I suggest that you not marry the same personality type. It is usually better to find someone to balance out your personality - otherwise you get double the weakness of each personality type. I think this goes doubly for an INTJ. Personality style isn't a way to pick a spouse but rather one tool to aid in self awareness and learning how to interact with others. It should be used as a way to learn about others and not a way to separate and isolate into a world where you don't have to relate to all of God's children.

But,if two people have the same positive attributes,would they not get along better? Many marriages break up because of bickering,fighting,and not seeing eye to eye. How can a husband and wife bond,when there is always a "war" going on? Some people just cannot make love and fight at the same time. Well,at least I cannot do both. For example,if both were punctual,one would not frustrate the other by making one always late.If both were frugal,the couple would not be drowning in credit card debt.Being in debt causes stress. If both liked to travel,they both would get excited when the vacation date draws near.
I would just love to spend time with a lady,that shares my passions in life. That is one reason that I am drawn to artistic women. That is why I love to go on singles cruises.Because, we both get excited about the same things,such as music,dancing,sight seeing,and going to Broadway-type shows. I would get bored with someone ,such as a stay at home,who would rather stay home,and watch DVDs of "Leave It To Beaver." By the way,I do like "Leave It To Beaver."
Of course,I would not want someone who has the same weaknesses as I do.
And,if GOD was not merciful,he would have made 90% of all of us with INTJ.

Opposites are like bank with drawls. Similarities are like deposits.

 

[blackribbon]

But,if two people have the same positive attributes,would they not get along better? Many marriages break up because of bickering,fighting,and not seeing eye to eye. How can a husband and wife bond,when there is always a "war" going on? Some people just cannot make love and fight at the same time. Well,at least I cannot do both. For example,if both were punctual,one would not frustrate the other by making one always late.If both were frugal,the couple would not be drowning in credit card debt.Being in debt causes stress. If both liked to travel,they both would get excited when the vacation date draws near.
I would just love to spend time with a lady,that shares my passions in life. That is one reason that I am drawn to artistic women. That is why I love to go on singles cruises.Because, we both get excited about the same things,such as music,dancing,sight seeing,and going to Broadway-type shows. I would get bored with someone ,such as a stay at home,who would rather stay home,and watch DVDs of "Leave It To Beaver." By the way,I do like "Leave It To Beaver."
Of course,I would not want someone who has the same weaknesses as I do.
And,if GOD was not merciful,he would have made 90% of all of us with INTJ.

Opposites are like bank with drawls. Similarities are like deposits.

If both are "frugal", then nobody spends any money and they don't get to experience the things in life that do cost money.

If both are loose with the finances, living on the edge, chances are they will be broke and unhappy.

A good marriage is a balance and that balance is achieved by finding someone who balances out your weaknesses and shortcomings. The relationship is kept strong by both parties recognizing the strength of the other and through mutual respect. And everyone has weaknesses that need to be balanced. The only person who didn't is Jesus and He stayed single.

If you really want to compare a relationship to a bank account, then the true comparison would in a "same-same" relationship, there would only be withdrawals or deposits...but a health account needs both. Two same people are never exactly the same and you won't know how to cope when you do have differences (two frugal people saving for entirely different reasons and neither ever being allowed to experience the joy of that savings).

 

[dayhiker]

I have a GF who loves to spend money. Life is short she says! Well, I spend plenty of money, but I don't spend it on things that are trivial like she does sometimes. She is giving me a vacation for my birthday. I think she has spent an extra grand because she wants me to sit beside her on the plain flight rather than meeting at the destination. To me that is foolish. But since that is what she wants, that is what we are doing.

 

[blackribbon]

I have a GF who loves to spend money. Life is short she says! Well, I spend plenty of money, but I don't spend it on things that are trivial like she does sometimes. She is giving me a vacation for my birthday. I think she has spent an extra grand because she wants me to sit beside her on the plain flight rather than meeting at the destination. To me that is foolish. But since that is what she wants, that is what we are doing.

That has nothing to do with "personality type".

 

[Bass4Jesus]

I had to look up those acronyms to see what this was all about. I used to be heavy into I.T. and, man, I thought Gartner's Magic Quadrant was bad.

Back when I was growing up, it was a lot simpler: If you met someone single who owned a condo, and a car that was less than four years old, didn't smell too bad, and didn't act like an ax murderer on Oxy, then that was marriage material, and you should chase it and get a ring on it pronto or else get left out. At least that's the advice they gave you back then. I didn't take it. Thank you Jesus.

 

[exitstageright]

If both are "frugal", then nobody spends any money and they don't get to experience the things in life that do cost money.

If both are loose with the finances, living on the edge, chances are they will be broke and unhappy.

A good marriage is a balance and that balance is achieved by finding someone who balances out your weaknesses and shortcomings. The relationship is kept strong by both parties recognizing the strength of the other and through mutual respect. And everyone has weaknesses that need to be balanced. The only person who didn't is Jesus and He stayed single.

If you really want to compare a relationship to a bank account, then the true comparison would in a "same-same" relationship, there would only be withdrawals or deposits...but a health account needs both. Two same people are never exactly the same and you won't know how to cope when you do have differences (two frugal people saving for entirely different reasons and neither ever being allowed to experience the joy of that savings).

But,what if they are both saving for the .......same reasons? I did mentioned that if they both were lose with money,that is not a positive trait. I am frugal.However I have a balance to the way I handle my money. For example,I have saved a percentage of my money,for retirement. I have also budgeted money for my vacations.Since I was 19 years old,I have been successful in handling my money.
What is ironic is that my first wife always said that I was cheap. My second wife once told me,"You spend money like a drunken sailor!" Now,if I am cheap,how in the world can I spend money like "a drunken sailor"? Lord willing,I will retire,at 62,in March.I can do that because my car is paid off.My credit cards are paid off.I do not medicate myself using "Retail Therapy" or shopping. I have no student loans to pay off. I put myself through college by working two part time jobs.Therefore,I have "paid my dues ". And,last but not least,I do not have any children to put through college. So maybe it is a good thing that I am single.
I realize that no two people will be exactly the same. But,the more positive things a couple has in common,the less frustrated they will be with each other. And life is so frustrated enough,without having to come home to a spouse in which one cannot have an effective communication,which is the same as one talking to a wall.

 

[Philomatt]

I think you're getting way to caught up with the personality types. The test isn't a perfect representation of a person. It's mostly how the individual sees themselves at that time.

But, if you are trying to find Christian individuals that will have deeper conversations. I would recommend looking into bible study's that focus on apologetics.