Interpolitical Dating

[jwill03189]

A question to ponder.

I have dated my girlfreind for a little over 6 months now and our relationship is going great. We have so much in common, but there is one thing that comes between us every so often; our political affliation. I am a Democrat with Moderate to Liberal beliefs and she is a Republican with Conservative to Moderate beliefs. It's not a big dividing thing, it has not made us fight once. However, I am curious if anyone else is in this situation and how they are doing. Thanks!

 

[Audiomechanic]

I would say it matters...to me at least. I have my views, I love to debate, and I'm stubborn.

 

[seamonster]

My husband and I have very different political views, so if we discuss politics, we each listen to what the other has to say, and then drop it. We don't argue about it because there's no point in arguing -- it'll only cause strife. It hasn't negatively impacted our relationship or our marriage in any way.

 

[Carri20]

Political differences CAN be a problem. If one of you is a die-hard Liberal and the other a die-hard Conservative, each time you vote you'll be canceling each other out! I think the problem can be overcome though, if both people in the relationship agree to put each other before their political affiliation. This may mean agreeing not to vote, or agreeing not to discuss elections and issues as they pop up in the media. With lots of sensitivity from both sides, I believe a relationship can survive the difference.. But it will not always be easy.

 

[Rin4Christ]

I don't think its that important. I may be a little more conservative than my bf, but I'm not really passionate enough about politics to let it bother me. Any couple will have their diffrences, I would rather dissagree on politics than religion (though he is Catholic and i'm prodistant lol).

 

[ChildOfGod20]

it could work but personally i want my husband to have basically the same political beliefs as me because religious beliefs DO play a part in politics

 

[jwill03189]

Political differences CAN be a problem. If one of you is a die-hard Democrat and the other a die-hard Conservative, each time you vote you'll be canceling each other out! I think the problem can be overcome though, if both people in the relationship agree to put each other before their political affiliation. This may mean agreeing not to vote, or agreeing not to discuss elections and issues as they pop up in the media. With lots of sensitivity from both sides, I believe a relationship can survive the difference.. But it will not always be easy.

Hum, don't you think thats a little extreme? Not voting because of different political views?

 

[jwill03189]

My husband and I have very different political views, so if we discuss politics, we each listen to what the other has to say, and then drop it. We don't argue about it because there's no point in arguing -- it'll only cause strife. It hasn't negatively impacted our relationship or our marriage in any way.

That's really cool actually. It's the same way we handle our political differences too .

 

[bumblebee62331]

I picked "not sure" because it differs from couple to couple. Some couples can overlook their political views and live together happily. However, for some others who feel strongly about their views, it can cause problems.

I liken it to dating inter-religiously.

 

[jwill03189]

I picked "not sure" because it differs from couple to couple. Some couples can overlook their political views and live together happily. However, for some others who feel strongly about their views, it can cause problems.

I liken it to dating inter-religiously.

Agreed, it can be relative from relationship to relationship.

 

[Carri20]

Hum, don't you think thats a little extreme? Not voting because of different political views?

If you know your votes are going to cancel each other out, then no, I don't think it's extreme at all.

 

[chrchr]

Political differences CAN be a problem. If one of you is a die-hard Liberal and the other a die-hard Conservative, each time you vote you'll be canceling each other out! I think the problem can be overcome though, if both people in the relationship agree to put each other before their political affiliation. This may mean agreeing not to vote, or agreeing not to discuss elections and issues as they pop up in the media. With lots of sensitivity from both sides, I believe a relationship can survive the difference.. But it will not always be easy.

you can say that again. its not easy. but its a great learning experience, i think

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

I don't see that PA has to get in the way of a relationship...unless there are issues that you both are strong on...and don't agree on. Then there might be problems. However, with most things, I don't think it really matters unless you are big in politics.

 

[Leanna]

Interpolitical dating, as you call it, is not a problem ..... but if you have significantly different beliefs on certain issues that come up in a marriage that would be a problem. I will call that inter-moral dating/marriage.... its if you have different standards and expectations

 

[BeautyForAshes]

Political differences CAN be a problem. If one of you is a die-hard Liberal and the other a die-hard Conservative, each time you vote you'll be canceling each other out! I think the problem can be overcome though, if both people in the relationship agree to put each other before their political affiliation. This may mean agreeing not to vote, or agreeing not to discuss elections and issues as they pop up in the media. With lots of sensitivity from both sides, I believe a relationship can survive the difference.. But it will not always be easy.

I agree with you. If both people are fanatical in their opposing views, it can be a serious problem if they don't know when to quit (and put the other person before the political issue).

 

[Moluku]

I think it may matter on the stronger points of one's political party. If two people strongly disagree when it comes to their politics it could become a source of conflict.

 

[barefeetonholyground]

From what I've seen it can be a problem. Most of your political views comes from your life philosophy. It's hard to deal with someone close to you that sees the world differently.

 

[Ceris]

Like the diaper for adults, it depends.

 

[jwill03189]

If you know your votes are going to cancel each other out, then no, I don't think it's extreme at all.

One way or the other, chances are your vote would be cancelled out by someone you haven't met before if there is a person who voted differently from you, so i don't understand how that is going to help. Better to vote and be heard than to not vote at all .

 

[jwill03189]

From what I've seen it can be a problem. Most of your political views comes from your life philosophy. It's hard to deal with someone close to you that sees the world differently.

True your view comes mainly from your life philosophy. But I don't see how it can be a problem for adults who are mature and don't get offended by someone elses view . If I got offended by every offhand Conservative-Repub statement said by freinds, I would be a very miserable man .