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Interfaith Marriage
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iamorfuc said:
To be honest, it is not sinful, but it does make the the act of entering into marriage difficult. This difficulty is not apparent necessarilly in the beginning. However, when people are married, they "become one flesh". As such, it becomes alalogous to an individual who was somehow a member of two distinct faiths simultaneously. The fact is, different faith disagree somewhere (or they wouldn't be different faiths). This disagreement will invariably play itself out in the marriage if the members both take their faiths seriously (particularly when children are thrown into the mix). However, if one or both of the spouses do NOT really care about faith and religion, they will either rub off on the other spouse, or allow themselves to be converted out of indifference.
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Dawn Marie
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I would certainly be alright with it. Though correlation studies have noted that what appears to be the most succesful element to a good marriage, or "pairing" is similarities in beliefs and values.
That got a .8 or .9 I believe. Even higher then similarities in personalities (being messy, outgoing, etc.) which got a .6. And much higher then looks, that got .3. This information is courtesy of Jared Diamond in his book The Third Chimpanzee.
So it may be very risky, depending on how much your beliefs differ. Catholic and Protestant (depending on whether it was some rabid anti-catholic protestant) would likely make an easy pairing.
A devout fundamentalist and devout marxist may be a little messier as you can imagine. Especially seeing as both would merely go to their respective ideology/religion gatherings and hear about how evil the other is all day.
That got a .8 or .9 I believe. Even higher then similarities in personalities (being messy, outgoing, etc.) which got a .6. And much higher then looks, that got .3. This information is courtesy of Jared Diamond in his book The Third Chimpanzee.
So it may be very risky, depending on how much your beliefs differ. Catholic and Protestant (depending on whether it was some rabid anti-catholic protestant) would likely make an easy pairing.
A devout fundamentalist and devout marxist may be a little messier as you can imagine. Especially seeing as both would merely go to their respective ideology/religion gatherings and hear about how evil the other is all day.
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From personal experience I chose 'no'. IMO if you are serious about your faith - have read into it/studied it/ live it etc, it is better to be with someone who shares your faith.
I agree completely with what A_B_liever wrote in his post, namely that as soon as either or both spouses become serious about their beliefs it does cause conflict. I am very serious about my faith and my husband is about his. When we married he was new to his religion and I wasn't a Christian. Since we've been married he knows more about his faith and I got saved so now there are issues where we 'lock horns'. Alas though, our potential battleground will be when our baby is older. He wants me to lie about my faith to her and I can't lie about his - so hence the conflict.
There's more, but to just answer the poll this is my 2 cents
I agree completely with what A_B_liever wrote in his post, namely that as soon as either or both spouses become serious about their beliefs it does cause conflict. I am very serious about my faith and my husband is about his. When we married he was new to his religion and I wasn't a Christian. Since we've been married he knows more about his faith and I got saved so now there are issues where we 'lock horns'. Alas though, our potential battleground will be when our baby is older. He wants me to lie about my faith to her and I can't lie about his - so hence the conflict.
There's more, but to just answer the poll this is my 2 cents
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I said no. The reason being is because living with another Christian is much easier than living with a non-believer. My future spouse must be a Christian. That's the only requirement for me.
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A Devout religious person and a non-devout religious person would have a harder time being married to each other than two religiously devout individuals from diferant faiths. Granted, this assumes they are capable of respecting each others beliefs.
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It's hard to be married when you are walking down different roads. I'll say, no, we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
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tinkerbell
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Paul gives us council about this in 2 Corinthians 6:14. There he writes "Do not be yoked together with nonbelievers." (For the rest of the counsil read 2 Corintinans 7:1.) In the rest of the passage, it talks about not being unequally yoked.
To me, it is very important to marry someone with the same beliefs as myself. God is the number one thing in my life. This is obvious through my lifestyles. I could not marry someone who did not share the same joys and desires as I did. It would be even harder if they didn't understand. I need to marry someone with the same beliefs as myself as well. I want to marry someone who will be able to support me and point me to the cross in my times of need, not someone who will only confuse me in my weak position, or tempt me in other ways. Besides, I want to marry someone I can spend eternity with in Heaven.
To me, it is very important to marry someone with the same beliefs as myself. God is the number one thing in my life. This is obvious through my lifestyles. I could not marry someone who did not share the same joys and desires as I did. It would be even harder if they didn't understand. I need to marry someone with the same beliefs as myself as well. I want to marry someone who will be able to support me and point me to the cross in my times of need, not someone who will only confuse me in my weak position, or tempt me in other ways. Besides, I want to marry someone I can spend eternity with in Heaven.
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