Interesting question about friend who wants to get drunk

Are you able to find out why she really wants to get drunk?
Are her parents alive and do they know about this?

asianchexmix said:

So I have this interesting situation here. Say a friend is wanting to get drunk and is underage. Now, if she decides to go to a party and get drunk and that's her decision....as a Christian brother, you would try to convince her not to. But if she insists, what would you do? I want to protect her from not being taken advantage of and I'm obviously over the legal age. Would you consider being drunk in your presence, while I am sober, just to make sure she doesn't get into any trouble that may haunt her. This is definitely getting into gray area and I really don't know what to say.....thoughts?

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If I was you and I knew underage drinking was going to go on, I would call the police and let them know the time and place of the party. Then nothing can happen that you are afraid of, other than she will regret ever being there. You can make an anonymous tip from any pay phone, just say it is a viable tip and make it a 911 call, then it has to be investigated. Just hang up and leave the pay phone when you are done, since a police car may show up to see who called at that phone. Be smart, be wise and just stop the craziness of the rebellious youth, because otherwise if you say nothing she will think its fun and go to more parties so will other underage youth, then someone dies from drugs or a car accident and you did nothing. To prevent crime and prevent bad things from happening, you have to act. She won't listen to you because she thinks it will be "Fun" to party, but if she finds out it is not fun and its a nightmare, she will think twice next time and maybe not go. But at least you did your part. Her life is still her choice, but you can do something to save a life, maybe even hers. God Bless.

Edit to my last post. Since I didn't check to see where you were from, your police number is different from America's most likely, so sorry about that. haha. Anyway, dial whatever number for the police there in your area. Anyway, the choice is yours.

Edit Edit.. number 2. Anyway, also if she is not a Christian then its hard to convince her otherwise unless you just tell her horror stories about other youth who die in car accidents, get raped, get drugged up, die of an overdose, or just fights break out and people get shot, etc. If she is Christian, then remind her of her Christian morals and values she should be standing by. Christians don't go to parties unless they are looking for trouble. God Bless.

What is your relationship to this girl? Why do you care?

Find out where the party is and call the cops.

This was fine in the old days, when the cops would've just poured the stuff out or "confiscated" it to drink on the coop; but in this Enlightened Twenty First Century the result is more likely that sll involved will be charged with Underage Consumption, thus getting a juvenile record; and any adults present likely charged with Furnishing Alcohol to Minors.

If I was going to drop a dime - or however much it takes if there are any pay phones left - it would be to her parents, well in advance.

Just let it go, man.

You have already done all you can do by voicing your concerns to her. You have no other responsibility to her IMO.

It sucks to watch others do destructive things to their lives though.

If she gets date raped or dies in an alcohol related car wreck our friend here might feel bad if he doesn't do everything he can to try to help now.

Fallen - Or... none of that could happen. And then he'd just be interfering with a not-completely-wise-but-still-relatively-innocuous evening.

asianchexmix said:

So I have this interesting situation here. Say a friend is wanting to get drunk and is underage. Now, if she decides to go to a party and get drunk and that's her decision....as a Christian brother, you would try to convince her not to. But if she insists, what would you do? I want to protect her from not being taken advantage of and I'm obviously over the legal age. Would you consider being drunk in your presence, while I am sober, just to make sure she doesn't get into any trouble that may haunt her. This is definitely getting into gray area and I really don't know what to say.....thoughts?

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Ultimately your friend has to make her own decisions and live with the consequences of those decisions. As her friend you should discourage her from doing anything reckless and certainly discourage her from doing anything illegal but unless you're going to chain yourself to her then you can't force her to look after herself. Sooner or later she's going to be in a place where you can't protect her and unless her desire to get drunk (why does she specifically want to get drunk in the first place?) has passed it will find an outlet one way or another.

Sometimes attempts to protect people can simply enable their recklessness. If you were to go to this party with her and watch over her she might appreciate your caring presence, but at the same time she might figure that nothing untoward happened (not realising you were the reason why she stayed safe) so you were obviously being overcautious and get drunk somewhere else where you can't protect her. Then the next time she could get more drunk and have someone take advantage of her. A lot of people have a very naive "it will never happen to me" outlook and a few drinks can only enhance that feeling that bad things can't happen to us.

If she does get drunk and you are with her be aware you don't fall into troubles yourself. If she is drunk and starts hitting on you there will quite possibly be a temptation to go along with her, in which case you end up becoming the danger you warned her about.

If she's planning on driving to the party (or, more specifically, driving back from the party) then I would say there is a much stronger duty to take steps to prevent her from driving. If she wants to go and get drunk it might be against the law but ultimately it's only herself that she's putting in harm's way. The minute she gets behind the wheel under the influence she puts unknown numbers of innocent people in danger.

I think when you care enough or Love someone that you will go out of your way to correct them, to try and bring reason to them, even stop them from making a mistake when they are entering a dark area that offers no help for them and they will be alone when something happens. Especially a child or teen. There are Christians in the world who are putting their lives in danger just trying to help, correct, and Teach the Wisdom of Jesus. For you know once that if she finds enjoyment in those dark places, she will be like a dog returning to its vomit or a fool repeats his folly.

Perhaps going over some of the dangers with her may help her make a wiser choice. Yet, if she says she wants to have fun, that this is fun, fun this or fun that, then all you can do is tell her parents or call the police and say where the party is or if you wish, just let her go and if she dies then she chose her fate. If she gets HIV/AIDS, she chose her fate. If she kills another while driving, she chose her path. IF she dies from a drug overdose, she chose her fate. How much do you really care for her that you will do what it takes to keep her safe? If we care enough about someone, we will do what we can to help them and correct them. If we didn't care, we would do nothing and let them face their fate. If I have the power to do something, I always do, even if they hate me for correcting them or they hate me for stopping them. At least I did what was right, because I cared. God Bless.