Insulted by a friend..

[Denmark]

Today in school I was talking to my friends. We were having fun and telling jokes. Now my friends knows that I am "different" in a way and they also know that I'm a Christian.

One of my friends said to me: "You see Jesus isn't real and even if he were, he would be mean to create you and make you a re*tard"

This really offended me. Not only did he point out my challenges to everybody but he also mixed it with my faith.

How should I respond to that?

Thanks and please pray for me.

 

[Purge187]

No true friend would do that.

By all means forgive him, but ask him not to do that again.

 

[Letter Never Sent]

Sorry to hear, it is a very harsh insult!

I'm not sure you can respond to that, in fact you probably did the right thing by not saying anything. If they saw that it really bothered you they might find it funny and do it more.

Kids say dumb stuff all the time, you just have to roll with it. Just forgive, try to forget, and pray for them.

I've said my share of dumb things and have even found it funny to mock Christians, but here I am today a Christian. So there's hope for them too.

 

[Sabertooth]

I would gone a different way. I would have pointed out that we are ALL re*tards until we turn our lives over to Him...!

 

[dayhiker]

I'd have said something like, God created me so you would have someone to insult. I found that took the fun out of their teasing and they would stop doing it.

 

[ASDResearch]

Well, your friend is misguided using that R word. By clinical definition, that word is to describe someone of low IQ. However, many people on the spectrum have average to even superior IQ! In fact, there are lots of "big name" people in this world who has or is suspected of Asperger's, where would we be without them? (i.e., bill gates, mark zuckerberg, albert einstein, satoshi tajiri (creator of pokemon), to name a few)

 

[FergusonTO35]

I have to wonder just what kind of "friends" those are. My experience as a youngster with AS tells me that alot of people out there will tolerate your presence and even act nice to you but are really not your friends. In general they reveal their true intentions by taking advantage of you or not being there when you really need a friend. Its probably very difficult for you to discern, even as an adult its very hard for me most of the time.

In my adult life I get to know and observe someone for a long time before I put my trust in them. Sometimes this is not even enough. I can think back on very recent situations involving people that were very nice to my face but behind the scenes were going against me. It hurts but I don't really know what else to say. In God we trust, all others pay cash!

 

[FergusonTO35]

I have to wonder just what kind of "friends" those are. My experience as a youngster with AS tells me that alot of people out there will tolerate your presence and even act nice to you but are really not your friends. In general they reveal their true intentions by taking advantage of you or not being there when you really need a friend. Its probably very difficult for you to discern, even as an adult its very hard for me most of the time.

In my adult life I get to know and observe someone for a long time before I put my trust in them. Sometimes this is not even enough. I can think back on very recent situations involving people that were very nice to my face but behind the scenes were going against me. It hurts but I don't really know what else to say. In God we trust, all others pay cash!

 

[sunshineforJesus]

I am so sorry to hear that and know what its like to be picked on by people.
I was picked on constantly even as a little kid,because of learning disabilities.
After a while it does stop though,Nobody ever picks on me anymore now that I'm all grown up.

 

[grandvizier1006]

I hope you've left these so-called friends. I never had to deal with this sort of teasing but it just makes me mad hearing about it. They insulted your condition AND your faith at the same time. If someone did that to me (I'm also a Christian with Asperger's), I'd be furious.

A real friend would never say that to you. I suggest getting someone you can trust to sort of help you "gauge" your interpersonal relationships. That would have helped me when I was your age (not to sound like an old man).