Insights into Relocating, Please

[gypsygirl]

I am at a bit of a crossroads in my life and would welcome some wide insight from other singles over 35. As a single woman with no kids nor a significant other, I am desiring to possibly relocate to the country of Mexico, particularly Puerto Vallarta. Why Mexico? It's cheap, I can work as a massage therapist (recent massage grad), and NO SNOW and NO GRAY SKIES!! Also, part of me is fed up with the traffic, rat race and crass consumerism of the U.S. and I love the southwest culture as I grew up in San Diego.

My mom and I live together, and she will be retiring in a few years and needs to live somewhere cheap with warm weather (Florida is out due to oppressive humidity all summer long). At this point in my life, I would love to marry but I don't forge my life around randomly dating boys who can't behave like men, nor will I abandon my mom who can't afford much.

Has anyone ever lived in Mexico? Any practical insight or words of wisdom are appreciated.

 

[dayhiker]

gypsygirl,
Bring from New England, I don't know much about Mexico. But I would say search the exPat community information on the web about living in Mexico. That should help a lot.

 

[Alienated]

I have a mexican friend that moved here, and he still has relatives there if you have any questions, I can ask him. I was just asking him yesterday about the women there. He said it's getting violent all over there.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Mexico is pretty much a failed state with drug gangs everywhere. There are reasons many Mexicans are eager to leave home and come here. Have you thought of places in the Southeast U.S. that are at a higher elevation so the climate is warm but not overwhelmingly hot? I am thinking north Georgia, the northwest part of South Carolina, western North Carolina (I have never been to Tennessee but there might be places there). I would not suggest Atlanta or Charlotte but maybe a mid-sized city would be a nice balance. Just a thought. I know that is not like the Southwest U.S. but there are places that are affordable and liveable.

 

[Alienated]

Hey Doc

The weather here changes allot and fast, but I'm right in between the North snow storms, and Sothern heat. But we do get tornado's....

I take it that humidity doesn't bother you, since you are sticking to the East. I grew up in Utah, and back then a humid day was 17%. By the time you could make a sandwich and eat it, the bread started getting crusty.

Tennessee is REAL green, life everywhere, keep moving or the vines will get ya !

I wanted to move back out west, maybe Flagstaff area. That was when they had a construction boom, glad I didn't now....

And Northwest Arkansas has just been rated 1 of the most affordable places to live.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

I really like Arizona. I have been to Flagstaff and Sedona (the Sedona area is nice but Sedona itself is too touristy and New Agey, if you know what I mean). I lived in the Tampa FL area for some years and hated the heat and humidity. I am in north Florida, almost to the GA line and we have four seasons here unlike, say, Miami. The summers are still oppressive. So by comparison somewhere in the mountains of NC isn't too bad. Still humid. Maybe not way up in the mountains where it would be snowy. I don't know. Anyone wanting it to be sunny like Arizona would be disapointed. I have been to Flagstaff in the summer and it was nice but I think that would be too much snow for me in the winter.

 

[dayhiker]

When I think of location I want to go to, its like nothing comes to mind. I guess its because as nice as places can be, what really makes a place or not is if I can fine people that I really enjoy hanging out with. Places are nice for a while. Love seeing new beautiful places. But after a while its the people that make or break it. Oh, and one has to be able to afford the place.

 

[gypsygirl]

All of your comments are appreciated. Admittingly, something very, very off has occurred in my life over the last several weeks since I've posted this thread. It could be viewed as a negative terrible circumstance at which I'm horrified to even remotely conceive as a possibility of having finally come into my life, but non-cynics might be joyful about it. Uggh! How does one even begin to admit that she could love another human being? Romantic love cannot occur!!!! How dare it even consider rearing its horrific appearance! It is so very wrong to even just barely glance at him with nonchalance and yet are too embarrassed and vulnerable to finally give him "the look" that could say more than a million words ever might. None of you could ever grasp how evil and wrong this is! He canNOT ever, ever reciprocate lest... He can NEVER EVER get this! I want to be an old maid spinster forever!!!! How could cushioned convenience and careful avoidance ever escape me in such a manner???????

This afternoon I promised for these...NOTIONS and horrific considerations to be gone and to finally eradicated such absurdity. Tomorrow, he will no longer be .... ugg... must I continue to work around his beautiful perfect fallen humanity? God! Yet, right now, at this very moment, I am already saying to Him .

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Oh, my. What is wrong? Is he a priest? Is he married? Is it just that you want to stay single? I don't quite follow, but then I am the King of Cluelessness.

 

[dayhiker]

I agree that is hard to follow with the missing data. But then I assume you wrote it that way out of a need to express your situation but not really reveal your situation.

 

[Life2Christ]

What is the matter??

But I ditto Doc about Mexico. Do not Enter!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I agree regarding the criptic post that we can not possibly understand. The implication that of course none of US could possibly understand what you are going thru is ludicrous, IMHO, but I can't really make heads or tails of your last post. Something about a guy that you apparently like, that can't like you back for whatever unsaid reason and all this is upsetting to you. That's all I got out of it.