In need of some spiritual guidance

[Cassandra]

Lately I feel like I cling to my positive experiences and memories like a shipwrecked sailor clings to a plank of wood floating in the middle of the ocean. And with my sister home from school it feels like my plank of wood is starting to decay. I love my sister dearly, but lately she has been carrying around such terrible, negative energy. I don't even like to be in the same room with her. Today I went out and didn't even want to come back home because of the energy she has brought. It's like an invisible gas that's threatening to seep into my pores.

What should I do?

 

[Radagast]

Hoping you find peace.

 

[ephraimanesti]

Lately I feel like I cling to my positive experiences and memories like a shipwrecked sailor clings to a plank of wood floating in the middle of the ocean. And with my sister home from school it feels like my plank of wood is starting to decay. I love my sister dearly, but lately she has been carrying around such terrible, negative energy. I don't even like to be in the same room with her. Today I went out and didn't even want to come back home because of the energy she has brought. It's like an invisible gas that's threatening to seep into my pores.

What should I do?

As a child of the Kingdom, you have access to an infinitely great source of positive energy--God's Love working in and through you by means of the auspices of the Holy Spirit.

Given the amount of negative "energy" your sister is exuding, my guess is that she is in a lot of pain for some reason and probably needs all the Love and Prayers you can bestow upon her--24/7.

BE WITH HER AS GOD IS WITH YOU!

A BOND-SLAVE OF CHRIST,
ephraim

 

[Cassandra]

As a child of the Kingdom, you have access to an infinitely great source of positive energy--God's Love working in and through you by means of the auspices of the Holy Spirit.

Given the amount of negative "energy" your sister is exuding, my guess is that she is in a lot of pain for some reason and probably needs all the Love and Prayers you can bestow upon her--24/7.

BE WITH HER AS GOD IS WITH YOU!

A BOND-SLAVE OF CHRIST,
ephraim

How do you help a difficult person? In the case of my sister, when I try to help her she just blows me off. Then she goes and complains about how no one will help her. She cries all the time, then insists that nothing is wrong. She's had a lot of problems that I won't go into...but I don't know how to help her at all with her being so difficult.

 

[ephraimanesti]

How do you help a difficult person? In the case of my sister, when I try to help her she just blows me off. Then she goes and complains about how no one will help her. She cries all the time, then insists that nothing is wrong. She's had a lot of problems that I won't go into...but I don't know how to help her at all with her being so difficult.

As you may have guessed, there is really not very much YOU can do to help your sister in a situation such as you describe. The secret to being of helpful service to you sister is to allow God to use you as a conduit of His Love. The methodology to allow this to happen in to keep your sister constantly in your prayers, asking God to bless you to be an intermediary between Him and her according to His will.

If you are able to detach enough from your own thoughts and feelings about what is going on, God, through His Holy Spirit will be able to use you as an instrument of His peace by guiding your interactions with your sister so that they can become spiritually therapeutic rather than adversarial.

Sometimes, in situations such as you describe, the best thing to do is just to "be with" her without trying to offer advice or "fix" her problems. Just manifest a loving concern for your sister, share your non-judgmental presence, and allow God to do the rest.

A BOND-SLAVE OF CHRIST,
ephraim

 

[Notedstrangeperson]

Take her somewhere she likes, even if it means putting up with her complaining. Try somewhere public but not TOO public; perhaps a riverside or park.
When you're in a quiet spot, force her to talk. Don't let her blow you off - hopefully if you're in a semi-public place she won't try to 'escape'.

If that doesn't work, maybe try involving her in some large project (i.e. painting a room in the house, building something etc.). When she is tired she might be more likely to talk to you.

I don't know how unhappy she is - whether she is clinically depressed or just moping about - but try not to be too snappy, even if she irritates you. Which she probably will.

 

[Soul_Searcher]

Hi Cassandra,

It sounds like your sister, despite her complaining, is the type that revels in misery. If you have made attempts to talk with her, and she has rejected them, then it's up to her to seek help, not up to you to give it.

I like "strangeperson's" advice above; try that too. But I'm thinking it's more a matter of removing yourself from the problem. If she's around and starts whining and complaining, just tell her, "I love you and I support you, but I cannot help you if you don't want it." Then just walk away. If she screams, tell her that you will talk with her ONLY if she's civilized and ready to take responsibility for her life.

Good luck.

 

[salida]

I would pray for your sister and show her your christ like spirit. Ask her that if she wants help that she must open up and let you in like an adult. And to stop crying and whining like a 1st grader.