In Love....

[trottca]

As Christians we are supposed to do all things in love and that love is supposed to be a reflection of Christ. I understand that. I want to know what love is because I don't think that love is all fluffy, soft words, everybody loves everbody attitude - it is also correction and guidance.

When Jesus turned over the tables in the temple because they had turned His' Father's house into a marketplace was that not love? That was love for His Father and an intolerance for waivering from what should be. When I correct my child it isn't because I don't love her it is because there is a path she needs to walk that she strayed from - if I didn't bring her back it would be an act of laziness and a display of how much I care.

 

[trottca]

I can't believe that no one has an opinion on this.

 

[iamjcs]

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a = definition of love
4 Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
7 Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. 8a Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end].

Pr 13:24 Those who spare the rod hate their children, but those who love them are diligent to discipline them.

Pr 5:23 They die for lack of discipline, and because of their great folly they are lost.

De 21:18-21 18 If someone has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey his father and mother, who does not heed them when they discipline him, 19 then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his town at the gate of that place. 20 They shall say to the elders of his town, "This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a glutton and a drunkard." 21 Then all the men of the town shall stone him to death. So you shall purge the evil from your midst; and all Israel will hear, and be afraid.

 

[kat]

I don't have kids myself but I definitely believe parents need to be strong enough to show "tough love"... You all have heard of that from Dr. James Dobson?
So many people out there think they are being loving by making it easy for their kids or giving them what they want all the time but when they grow up they have it hard and don't understand responsibility and consequences... and sometimes aren't appreciative and get attitudes that they expect stuff given them

I have seen parents give in when a child is pouting or screaming (which I know would be easier because then you quiet them down) but that teaches them to be spoiled brats or to whine to get their way, know what I mean? I'm just going by what I have seen, not picking on anyone and I know I have never been there as a parent....
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Love in a relationship is commitment, communication, and work... its when you think of the other person not just yourself. Its when you get so aggravated with him or what he does or a habit and you are still kind and don't blow up at him... its when I am so sick of him leaving the toilet seat up but I just put it down instead of grumbling at him. its when you know the other person is tired and don't put expectations on them and do a little something nice for them. It is when you are there to listen to him, and stand beside him, and let him feel like the king of the world, allow him to be imperfect and lift up the good things about him, it is setting aside what you would like to do sometimes...(these are some of the things I think of off hand when I think of being new in my marriage)

Does everyone know what codependency is? That is not love....

Has anyone else read the five love languages? This book is incredible to explain how people show / need love in different ways...
1. Physical touch
2. Affirmations
3. Quality time
4. Acts of service
5. Gifts

For example, my family doesn't give hugs and affection and quality time and that is how I feel loved.... they give gifts and do things for me - that is their way of showing love but then I feel unloved but an understanding of it all makes you understand they just show it differently...

I don't claim to know everything just thought I'd throw all this in... sorry it wasn't written more elequently (did I spell that right?)
=0)

 

[swee]

What is love anyway? *scratches head*