In a haze...

[Gnarwhal]

My wife and I decided to separate yesterday (Tuesday), I feel like I've been in a total haze since yesterday afternoon. We felt that we are two completely different people and there's not much hope of us changing into the kind of people that would be compatible. Basically we feel like we've compromised too much to be the sort of person the other wants, and it's cost us being true to ourselves.

This all sounds so much like cliché excuses for a bad marriage, but it's what we both felt. We're separated, amicably, and neither of us are really trying to assume what the end result is going to be.

I could use some help and prayer. I don't have any harsh feelings towards her whatsoever, actually I blame her mother for many of our problems. I've felt like her mom has tried to subvert our marriage from the beginning because I don't share her beliefs (about end-times and conspiracy theories, I would say the only thing we do agree on is Christ himself). "Unfortunately" my wife is so close to her family that putting up healthy boundaries has only ever failed, her mom has a hold over her that is disturbing at best.

I'm really feeling emotionless, on the one hand I feel a sense of freedom because this is apparently the only way to be rid of her mom from my life, but on the other hand the cost is great and it leaves me with a gaping sense of loss.

I don't really know how to explain what I'm feeling, but prayer would be appreciated...

 

[bertolt]

I'm praying for you.

 

[Anessa14]

adding my prayers-
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[UK Fred]

Praying here, too, Bourne.

 

[vcs]

Prayers for you and your wife.