I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years now, and like any relationship we have had our rough spells. I'm currently 20 years old and she's 17, and finishing up her junior year of high school. I'm a sophomore in college, and will be going into my 3rd year of 5 years of college here soon.
Anyways, I started dating her my senior year of high school, when she was freshman, because I noticed something different about her than all the girls I had previously talked to. We got to know each other and eventually started dating. Well, the summer came and I was definitely on the good side of her parents, especially her dad and step mom, as they invited me over almost every week, at least 2-3 times. Her mom liked me cause she noticed that I was respectful and a good boyfriend.
We had our temptations, and being her first real relationship, we failed them, by us talking about things normally I wouldn't talk about with anyone, being sex and other things. Someone in her family and searched her phone finding a text message that had some of that in it and reported it to her dad. Her dad put her on hard restriction, like not letting me go on dates with her for like 2 months, but I was at college, so I saw her once every 2-3 weeks. I got back on the good side of her parents again, but screwed up in the same fashion, but she didnt sign off her email at her mom's and we got caught. Once again, she was grounded, without a phone and all that.
I got back on her parents good side once again, and we went on a trip, that they invited me on, and her little 13-14 year old sister had been running her mouth about me, saying I was a terrible boyfriend, and a lot of untrue things about me. I never would have done this, but I snapped at her telling her to be quiet and put her in her place. I realize I shouldn't have done this and so everyone in her step mom's and dad's side of the family started making my relationship with her pretty bad.
In May, I sent a text message telling her that like any normal Christian teenager, they get lusted into doing things that they normally wouldn't want to do, i.e. foreplay, and touching while kissing. I told her I wasn't going to do that anymore as we had been doing that. Her step brother, which I know for a fact, searched through her phone again, and found it, telling his mom who told her husband that I had been talking about terrible things. They told us that we needed to take a break and for what was supposed to be 1 month, we split up for 4 months, end of May-September.
We got back together, and we seemed closer than ever, despite that I still talk about sexual things, not by text anymore, but over the phone. I know I would never act on these, and am not tempted by them, because I pray about them when I am with her. I see her 1 time a month, and since early October, I've seen her once. Her dad is a military man, who has his crazy rules, like until he trusts me, I can't have her ride in my car to go to dates. Also, coincidentally whenever I come home, I notice she is for some reason put on restriction, by either talking to me too late on the phone, or not having her phone on when she was with me, because it died.
I love her to death, and yeah, we have our flaws, but I was wondering if I could get some advice on my situation and some prayer about it? We. together, are so right for each other, and with my entering my 20s, I am starting to think about who's that girl gonna be, and I could see myself marrying her, and when I have her parents favor, they are the nicest people towards me and treat me almost as good as my parents do. I'm having a hard time trusting God that he'll fix my relationship, cause I want to get her parents to like me to let her go out on dates and such when I come home, or at least come over to their house like I used to.
Anyways, I started dating her my senior year of high school, when she was freshman, because I noticed something different about her than all the girls I had previously talked to. We got to know each other and eventually started dating. Well, the summer came and I was definitely on the good side of her parents, especially her dad and step mom, as they invited me over almost every week, at least 2-3 times. Her mom liked me cause she noticed that I was respectful and a good boyfriend.
We had our temptations, and being her first real relationship, we failed them, by us talking about things normally I wouldn't talk about with anyone, being sex and other things. Someone in her family and searched her phone finding a text message that had some of that in it and reported it to her dad. Her dad put her on hard restriction, like not letting me go on dates with her for like 2 months, but I was at college, so I saw her once every 2-3 weeks. I got back on the good side of her parents again, but screwed up in the same fashion, but she didnt sign off her email at her mom's and we got caught. Once again, she was grounded, without a phone and all that.
I got back on her parents good side once again, and we went on a trip, that they invited me on, and her little 13-14 year old sister had been running her mouth about me, saying I was a terrible boyfriend, and a lot of untrue things about me. I never would have done this, but I snapped at her telling her to be quiet and put her in her place. I realize I shouldn't have done this and so everyone in her step mom's and dad's side of the family started making my relationship with her pretty bad.
In May, I sent a text message telling her that like any normal Christian teenager, they get lusted into doing things that they normally wouldn't want to do, i.e. foreplay, and touching while kissing. I told her I wasn't going to do that anymore as we had been doing that. Her step brother, which I know for a fact, searched through her phone again, and found it, telling his mom who told her husband that I had been talking about terrible things. They told us that we needed to take a break and for what was supposed to be 1 month, we split up for 4 months, end of May-September.
We got back together, and we seemed closer than ever, despite that I still talk about sexual things, not by text anymore, but over the phone. I know I would never act on these, and am not tempted by them, because I pray about them when I am with her. I see her 1 time a month, and since early October, I've seen her once. Her dad is a military man, who has his crazy rules, like until he trusts me, I can't have her ride in my car to go to dates. Also, coincidentally whenever I come home, I notice she is for some reason put on restriction, by either talking to me too late on the phone, or not having her phone on when she was with me, because it died.
I love her to death, and yeah, we have our flaws, but I was wondering if I could get some advice on my situation and some prayer about it? We. together, are so right for each other, and with my entering my 20s, I am starting to think about who's that girl gonna be, and I could see myself marrying her, and when I have her parents favor, they are the nicest people towards me and treat me almost as good as my parents do. I'm having a hard time trusting God that he'll fix my relationship, cause I want to get her parents to like me to let her go out on dates and such when I come home, or at least come over to their house like I used to.
