I'm Pregnant!

[JeffsGirl]

Yep Yep!

I am too excited! A little unexpected yes, but very much wanted! A friend told me this was a great sight to meet other pregnant teens. I have an amazing boyfriend whom I love very much. Everyone is excited about the new baby coming! We are going to fix up a house to live in. That is our summer project and we are having a blast doing it.

I am 2 months along and doing great so far but I am just beginning.

Any other pregnant teens here?

 

[heron]

Hi, Jeffsgirl,

Be careful of fumes when you're painting, and dust when you're drywalling. The heavy lifting instructions from your doctor are more important than you'd think... it's easy to miscarry even when you didn't seem to strain yourself.

So glad you were able to find a house. Life will change drastically --
it will be hard to squeeze in your other life plans, so just take things patiently as they come.

Blessings on your year!

 

[BrittneyNoel]

My prayers are with you, dear. I pray that you and your baby will both be healthy.

I hope that you are praying as well. God will be there for you no matter what to help you and your family through this. You are very young and this will not be easy. Parenting is hard work. I am not here to condemn you. Neither should anyone else but you should get your life on the right track not only for you but for your baby.

Train a child up in the way he should go and even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Check over in the teens section and you may find some support there.

May God bless you.

 

[JeffsGirl]

Hi, Jeffsgirl,

Be careful of fumes when you're painting, and dust when you're drywalling. The heavy lifting instructions from your doctor are more important than you'd think... it's easy to miscarry even when you didn't seem to strain yourself.

So glad you were able to find a house. Life will change drastically --
it will be hard to squeeze in your other life plans, so just take things patiently as they come.

Blessings on your year!

I am not doing much work myself. hehe. Its just minor stuff like painting and we are going to put in new flooring. My cousins and Jeff and his dad and my dad are going to be working on the house while us girls prepare for the baby! ha! Jeff won't let me do anything anyways. I say I am thirsty and ask if I can get him something while I am going to the kitchen and he is in there before I can finish the sentence. haha! So not complaining but I told him he better save that energy for the last months of the pregnancy!

 

[sreno7]

Did you think that perhaps you are unwise in continuing to have premarital sex (which I assume you are doing as you didn't metion marriage) I know it is a little like shutting the barn door after the horse is out but what do you believe the Bible says about you living together outside of marriage?
I would never suggest an abortion or any other thing about the baby. That is for you and your family and God to discuss.

 

[heron]

have always been taught the past was the past and the only thing that matters is what you are going to do in the future.

That's important -- with the baby growing inside you, you don't need extra stress chemicals floating through your system. There's enough to think about and prepare for without dwelling on regrets.

One of the things you want to think through realistically before it hits you -- a baby continually needs to be with an adult, every moment of the day. That means that if you want to work, you both will need a rotation system with hours, or need help with sitting from grandparents. Sitters are so expensive that it's unlikely you will be able to net more income than you pay out.

It will be easy to feel guilty about not being able to handle the schedule, especially when you're tired, so figure out some of it now.

Colleges have online programs now, which you're probably aware of since you've home-schooled. Go to petersons.com, or lifelonglearning.com for a great database of distance courses. I did one of my degrees with a baby on my lap... it wasn't easy at all, but the distance format really helped.

Jeff won't let me do anything anyways. I say I am thirsty and ask if I can get him something while I am going to the kitchen and he is in there before I can finish the sentence. haha! So not complaining but I told him he better save that energy for the last months of the pregnancy!

What a guy! You are so fortunate that he is so thoughtful!

Other people are concerned because they know that the stresses of life can really tear a person down... some are trying to prevent the pain of living out rough circumstances. Life continually brings situations that we never thought we'd have to handle, no matter how ambitious and conscientious we are.

It's hard to raise kids, even if you're making gobs of money and wait until you're 35.

Out of all the "do the research" situations we face in life, pregnancy is probably the least researched and the most common life-changing situation people jump into (or fall into). The choice never goes away... kids will always be there, just growing older and older.

But you're right, you need to work with what you have in front of you, and keep moving forward. You might want to look for some mother's/play groups well ahead of time (I know, it sounds silly and stodgy right now) -- it's nice to have a place to go when you feel cooped up or isolated, or the days blur from one into the other.

Expect to be tired, expect to be stretched beyond your old limits, expect unpredictable expenses... and just handle them with prayer when they come. You'll do fine.

 

[sreno7]

Jeffsgirl how old are you? I know a young lady who got pregnant at 15 and had the baby just after she turned 16 she is very well able to care for a baby however her life prepared her for it. It is not the ideal situation but she is doing really well. She spends alot of time staying with her boyfriend's family but I think she is more mature than the baby's father.
IF a girl is 13 or 14 there are physical concerns as well as the concerns about her maturity in caring for a child.

 

[Glorianna]

This thread has been moved from the Parenting - Parenting Teens subforum.

 

[seamonster]

Congrats on your pregnancy I hope everything goes very well for you!

 

[hisbloodformysins]

Yep Yep!

I am too excited! A little unexpected yes, but very much wanted! A friend told me this was a great sight to meet other pregnant teens. I have an amazing boyfriend whom I love very much. Everyone is excited about the new baby coming! We are going to fix up a house to live in. That is our summer project and we are having a blast doing it.

I am 2 months along and doing great so far but I am just beginning.

Any other pregnant teens here?

I was a pregnant teen, got pregnant when I was 16 also but had a misscarriage, and I see it/ saw it as a gift from God, because I was not ready! I discourage teens from getting pregnant, having a baby is a big responsibility that I almost wasn't old enough for when I was 23 and married with a college education and a stable husband......

That said, congratulations! My biggest encouragement to you is that "life is what you make it" and I hope you continue to have a positive attitude about not only your pregnancy but everything else in life. That is the greatest gift you can give your child and the best thing you can do for yourself. Good luck!

HB