I'm not sure how you're supposed to respond to a thread like this....

[The 301st Spartan]

...It's more just to finally say it, and get it off my chest. It's about a girl, so I will probably end up just looking even more stupid.

I go to a very small school, only 19 people in the entire 8th grade. There's this one girl there who I've like since right before Christmas break 2008. 2009 Christmas break, I finally got up the courage to ask her out, and she said yes. I was happier than I think I have ever been my whole life, at least that I can remember. Stuff started to come up however, and we had to cancel the date. I was fine, and simply rescheduled to sometime after winter break. 2days before the end of winter break, I find out from her that she thought we were just going as friends, and when she realised I liked her, she stopped talking to me and pretty much ignores me. I try to talk to her on Facebook, but I can never tell if she's just talking to not be rude, or not. I'm always the one now who starts the conversation, and lately when I see her in the Facebook chat, she logs out not too long after I log in. The things is, not only did I lose what I thought was my girlfriend, I lost my FRIEND. I'm starting to suspect that I have self-esteem issues or something, because I can't help but blame myself for all of this. If you've read all the way to this point, thank you for your time.

 

[Mela Monkey]

That happens sometimes when one person likes another, but the other doesn't feel the same way. I don't think there's any way of getting her back as a girlfriend, but you can at least try to be friends.

It sounds like she is over-reating to this, but I don't know her side of the story, so I really can't say much about that.

Just tell her you want to be friends and nothing more, i'm guessing you have already tried that though, and it hasn't worked. If it's that case, I don't know if there's much you can do. Except always being kind to her.

Don't blame yourself for this. It's not your fault she freaked out. Rejection can be hard, but try not to let it get you down. I would ask God for help.


Btw, it's not a stupid thing to ask about. people have problems like this all the time.

 

[teaspill]

You've learned a very valuable lesson for next time: always make sure that your intentions are clear, especially before you begin to allow yourself an emotional attachment beyond an idle crush.

 

[The 301st Spartan]

Yeah, but I was constantly saying stuff that I don't think anyone could mistake for anything else. I refered to it once to her as "asking her out." I don't know, maybe she's mean and thought it would be funny to fake it or something.

 

[HarborOrange]

You never know.
I mean, this one girl led me on that she wanted to go out with me, and she said she liked me. I asked her out, she accepted, the same day she dumped me for my friend, and then dumped him that day to go out with a college guy. Some girls just enjoy messing with guys. But then again, I should've seen it coming, being older now, I know that she definitely is not my type. Not even close. I'm glad she dumped me. She wasn't worth it anyways.

 

[Unfit'for'swine]

Sounds like she has ice water in her veins.

 

[x.miranda.x]

I am in a sort of similiar issue. I used to be really good friends with this guy, then another person came in a spread a bunch of crap to him that I was saying all this stuff, and asking him out, which I wasn't... but we were best friends, and now haven't spoken in 3 years... ---But I would write her a letter or an email, telling her how you feel about all of this, and that you want your FRIEND back, and not your girlfriend. And tell her how much she meant to you as a friend, and if she would please just talk it out...--- I would go for it, because personally, I know how much it hurts... Good luck!!!