I'm getting married!

[Kakadu]

ok, so i proposed on monday

...and we have 9 months to get ready for the wedding. now a lot of it is all the personal stuff of numbers, and food, and where, and yadda yadda
but the reason why im posting this is...
i LOVE Jesus with all my heart, and i know its only because of HIM that i am able to marry such a wonderful woman of God.

so this wedding is going to be Christ centered. and my question is, what tips can i get for having a wedding with God, what resources are out there, and any other things that you might be able to add...thank you all in advance....

 

[desi]

Have it at church instead of at the courthouse like I did.

 

[HeatherJay]

Congratulations, Kakadu . Here, have some blessings! Don't get too caught up in the wedding planning...it's so easy to stress out. The important part is the marriage, and you sound like you're on the right track. God bless you and your wife to be .

Love, Heather

 

[enslow]

Thank God every night before you go to sleep.

Enslow

Oh yeah,


Congratulations!

 

[lucypevensie]

It's great to see "Christ-centered wedding" in your post. Think of what that means.

When I got married I tried to focus on keeping things Christ-centered too. I believe it resulted in me spending much less money than the average wedding costs.

My advice is: spend more money on your honeymoon than you spend on your ceremony and reception combined. How many people will remember the beautiful flowers, the bridesmaid dresses, the chicken dinner, etc??? Not many will remember those things one month after the wedding. But you will always remember your honeymoon. The honeymoon is a great time for the 3 of you (bride, groom, and God) to establish your relationship.

Just throwing out my favorite advice

Congratulations!

 

[Job24]

RUN WHILE YOU STILL CAN..... YOU STILL HAVE A CHANCE......

just kidding.. congrats and make sure it is not a 50/50 cut with your wife it is a 100/100 give and take.. sometimes she needs you 100% and sometimes you will need her.

one night my wife went to boston to spend time with a friend up there and I had the whole house to myself for the whole night... I got home, ate my Ramon noodles and realized how much I depended on my wife for love, support, and a decent meal... well I cook to but she is definatly better.

anyway, make sure you make her feel appreciated because if you get the right one then it will be a glorious adventure....

God bless.

 

[GREG]

Communicate everyday.....

 

[willing to believe]

My advice, as I'm going thru my trials and tests is, as my daughter once told my husband and I, learn how to fight, get to what's wrong without yelling.
Don't take for granted that the other person will be around forever. Treat each other as on the day you two were married. Take time for one another and for God's sake listen to what each other has to say.
If ............

 

[Kakadu]

Thank you all very much for your wonderfull advice...i already feel the pains of wedding planning, it's a good thing that i don't have to get 'too' involved. but then again, i don't want my wife to be, to get too caught up in it too. and its funny, i was just thinking the same way about the honey moon bit, only i didn't take the whole idea that no one will remember into thought...it's very true and makes it all the more likely that i will choose that idea...

 

[chriso]

Congratulations Kakadu!!! Married life is great. Always put the Lord first in your relationship. Don't get too caught up in the actual wedding concentrate on the marriage. Never go to sleep at night with unresolved conflict. Clear it up before you go to sleep. Always treat her with the same love and devotion you feel for her right now. Be united in tackling your troubles in married life and things will go better.

 

[Peter]

150 days prior to our wedding, my wife and I met and read a Psalm together. To this day, 17 years later, we meet mornings and read the Psalms and pray together.

We had a wedding that was full of prayer. And as part of the ceremony, our first act as a married couple was partaking of holy communion.

(For all my Orthodox brothers/sisters it was remarkable how it looked like an Orthodox wedding, and we knew NOTHING about Orthodoxy at the time. That came 14 years later!)

Focus your relationship around the reality of the eucharist. Remember that marriage is a picture of how Christ interacts and relates to His bride, the church. (Eph. 5)

God grant you many years!

Peace.

Peter