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I'm getting a new heart!

memoriesbymichelle

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For 2014 I have decided I am getting a new heart!


OK not a flesh heart of course, but I am going to really really try to approach this year with a new heart, a new outlook, a new confidence in myself and God.

So who is with me?


As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. [Proverbs 23:7]
 

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Michelle .... I am starting to see that new attitude already. For me this new heart really started almost 2 yrs ago. But this year was really the year that it has really kicked in so while its still me, I'm also different. One lady who has known me in person for 14 yrs now said I look completely different to her. She says I'm confident and comfortable in my skin with a great attitude that I didn't have before (back when I was married). I didn't realize that I'd changed that much! Her observations were that I had!
 
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That's most excellent dayhiker! I am trying to think in terms of how other people view me somewhat. What I mean is for example, I'm going to that wedding. I am not comfortable with my figure, but it is what it is and I know other people will not be the least bit concerned with my figure so I quit dwelling on it, and I'm just going to go and be me!
Funny I was watching one of the "little" people shows. The Roloffs (I can't recall the name of the show) but for some reason it struck me that we cannot all be who or what we want to be. Like they cannot be tall and lean, and not everyone can be a supermodel or have that figure. And while they can't change who they are, they still exercise and live their lives. The guy has to walk with crutches and was having some serious pain on the show. So I have to accept I can't be who I want to be either. I can still strive to be the best ME I can be.

And then after I was reading this morning I was writing in my journal, and for some reason I was just so thankful that someday soon, we will not have to "strive" anymore. And what I mean by that is the kind of striving that makes us feel like we are on the treadmill and can't get off. It will be glorious and I can't wait!
 
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Sometimes yes and sometimes no for me. If I can make myself slow down to look at the situation/person and think first, that's half the battle for me.

Wouldn't the world be a much better place if we all could see people as Jesus sees them?

Like the angry customer at the store yelling at the clerk. Maybe her son is dying of cancer and she just came from the hospital.

Or the person mad because they didn't get that promotion which now means they cannot pay their mortgage and their house will be forclosed on, but nobody knows that.

We don't know what is going on in other people's lives or hearts and THAT, IMO, is part of the problem.
 
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Michelle, I am glad. You always seem to look for the best in others, now do that for yourself. I remember your post where your son said you were the best mom in the world and you recounted how you were trying to analyze that when you know you should just enjoy moments like that.
 
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Thank you Dr.

I AM very analytical. I am always asking the why questions, or trying to figure out why this happened or maybe that happened because THIS is going to happen. Of course I'm not usually right LOL.

Sometimes I wish we had a room we could go into where there would be secret viewers on the other side and get their "real" reaction about ourselves because even our friends are never completely honest with us, right?

I feel like the best mom in the world would be the Proverbs 31 woman, which I am certainly not to her standards. But I am glad my son thinks I'm the best for him, we just always know where we lack, ya know?
 
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Sometimes yes and sometimes no for me. If I can make myself slow down to look at the situation/person and think first, that's half the battle for me.

Wouldn't the world be a much better place if we all could see people as Jesus sees them?

Like the angry customer at the store yelling at the clerk. Maybe her son is dying of cancer and she just came from the hospital.

Or the person mad because they didn't get that promotion which now means they cannot pay their mortgage and their house will be forclosed on, but nobody knows that.

We don't know what is going on in other people's lives or hearts and THAT, IMO, is part of the problem.

Well,if we all could,think like Jesus,act like Jesus,and treat everybody like Jesus would,we would not need Jesus,now would we? Just a thought,IMHO
 
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That's most excellent dayhiker! I am trying to think in terms of how other people view me somewhat. What I mean is for example, I'm going to that wedding. I am not comfortable with my figure, but it is what it is and I know other people will not be the least bit concerned with my figure so I quit dwelling on it, and I'm just going to go and be me!
Funny I was watching one of the "little" people shows. The Roloffs (I can't recall the name of the show) but for some reason it struck me that we cannot all be who or what we want to be. Like they cannot be tall and lean, and not everyone can be a supermodel or have that figure. And while they can't change who they are, they still exercise and live their lives. The guy has to walk with crutches and was having some serious pain on the show. So I have to accept I can't be who I want to be either. I can still strive to be the best ME I can be.

And then after I was reading this morning I was writing in my journal, and for some reason I was just so thankful that someday soon, we will not have to "strive" anymore. And what I mean by that is the kind of striving that makes us feel like we are on the treadmill and can't get off. It will be glorious and I can't wait!

As far as physical appearances go,my friend thinks that he is too fat to attract any woman. I said," M.....I am not going to buy that lie! On my singles's cruise,we are all in our late forties,fifthies,and some were in thier sixties. At the introduction party.all of us,within about 5 minutes,did not pay any attention to the outside of us. All of the women did not look like Barbie,and all of us men did not look like Ken.There was a guy who was bald,and he weighed more than you. The women loved him.Why?,because he was a ......gentleman.We all asked the question ,"Why can't we find friendly and accepting singles, like our group,at home?"

Speaking for myself,I can have just a good of a time at a local dance,as I can have on a cruise ship. But,on a cruise,more people are enjoying themselves. One,lady,that I was dancing with on the eight and final night,told me,"S........I wished that I had met you earlier." I told her,"Well, I have been on this ship for eight nights,just like .....you.":)

Well today, eighteen days later,she e-mailed me telling me how much she enjoyed cruising with me. The best thing is that she also lives in...........California.

So,I am getting a new heart also. Just because a lady tells me that she is not interested in me,it does not mean that I am ugly. And,if she is attracted to me,I just hope that she is not.......married.:cool:
 
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Being like Jesus ...
I start by realizing that I can't be all things to all people. Actually I'm quite finite so I have major limitations. Now God can be all things to all people and can give beyond measure from his unlimited resources. Not me so I don't try to. So I look to see what I can give. Then I give that.
The 1st thing I give is friendship. Just being with them. Listen to the story of their life. Share the story of my life with them. This seems to be a very big gift in my mind. How many people can meet some one who will take time to listen to them tell their story and accept them as they are. It seems that when I accept them for who they are, they accept me for who I am.
One example is when I was on the cruise B wanted to be friends and even romantic with me. So I friended her, She has over the top personality, she wanted a lot, and I gave her what I could a few hours we spent together. At the end of the cruise she asked of we could be BF/GF. But I had to tell her I didn't want a long distance relationship and most importantly I had to tell her that I couldn't meet all her needs. But I also told her what I could give her. Since I didn't have anyone that to take on vacation I offered a week of vacation and to keep in touch by email. So with that start we have had a very meaningful relationship over the last few months.

That's how being like Jesus is manifested in my life.
 
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LOL .. exit that is too funny. I'd hope she isn't as well.

By the way,W,my youngest brother,told me that one of the Deacon's wives at his church once told him this. She told him,"W..... if I was not married,I would be all over you!"

The men in our family may have something special.But,we are attracting the wrong women. I have no answers.:confused:
 
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Well, exit, I don't have words on how to get you attracting the right women.
The deacon's wife knows how to give a compliment. I've given that type of a compliment in the past.

So how far away does this Calif. woman from Singles Cruise live from you?
 
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