I'm feeling burnt out

[writewords]

I am hoping to get some opinions:

When my wife and I got married, we agreed upon the biblical, traditional marriage agreement. I would be and am the head of the household, spiritual leader, bread-winner, etc. This has been our arrangement since we got married in 2010.
It has been a difficult two and a half years. I graduated from seminary in 2014, and have been looking go a ministry since the very end of 2014. I have been turned away from position for which I am over- qualified. Moved multiple times. I give good, articulate interviews.
I am in a dead end job, and honestly I am so burnt out from looking I really don't care anymore. I cannot stand this dead end job, it makes sad and tired. But I am just too tired to do anything about it. I also have disability and it also adds to the situation.
I feel the only way to help the burn out is to stop working (my occupation) for a while. My Mrs and I have talked about her getting a job. The spiritual head of household, etc. would not change, just income part. Not sure how I feel here. Thoughts?

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

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[johndoo]

I guess the real question is how does she feel?
I'd be hesitant to quit your job until she is firmly planted in a job and sees if she likes it and gets paychecks coming.
There certainly isn't anything from the bible that says women can't work.

 

[Mytreasuremyreward]

You might consider looking into a missionary or outreach option. You could head that front and your wife could back you up and be involved in fundraising, communications, etc. I realize this isn't the advice you were probably seeking but I just felt it worth sharing. This would still keep you in your field per se and provide something for your resume in the future. Maybe you are meant for something different at this time and you need to dig deep into something other than working inside of a church. Your wife could certainly work somewhere, but still look to you for guidance in the household.

 

[akmom]

I don't want to derail your thread, but one thing really caught my attention. Maybe it was your word choice. You said you have been turned away from [ministry] positions for which you are over-qualified, even though you give good, articulate interviews. If I understand you correctly, I'm a little perplexed by your statement. What makes a person over-qualified for ministry? Is it not more of a calling than a profession? Being able to interview well, and being articulate, are great qualities. But when a church selects a pastor, I don't think they're really focusing on the resume. I think they are looking for humility, passion for the Lord, and a love for His people. I don't mean to state the obvious, but reading your post about being "over qualified," "burnt out" and concerned about maintaining rigid family roles... it doesn't paint a picture of humble, passionate or having concern for people. It sounds more like the values of education, success, and cultural traditions.

That said, you might very well benefit from taking a break from your current dead-end job. But I might suggest that you give your wife time to get adjusted to any new job before you quit yours. That way there is less pressure and fewer surprises. Coming back into the workforce after a hiatus can be rocky.