I'm curious, would you personally marry a non-virgin?

[InnocenceCannon]

Would you be bothered by this by any means?

This question is for virgins, as a non-virgin answering this question kinda defeats the purpsoe.

 

[SnowyMacie]

I'm replying to just subscribe to this thread.

 

[Sketcher]

It would depend on the circumstances. Not all non-virgins have the same past, let alone the same present. Would I be bothered? Yes. Could I get over it? Again, that depends on her circumstances. Would I prefer someone who was also a virgin, who had all the same good qualities? Absolutely.

 

[Perhaps Today]

I would have no issue marrying a non virgin. I desire to marry who God has in store for me, virgin or not.

 

[Blank123]

I'm not concerned about his sexual past. Only his views on sex in the present. So yes I would marry a nonvirgin.

 

[BlueJay83]

of course.. why not?

life is what it is, you live and learn.
If you wait for all the conditions to be perfect, you'll never get anything done.

 

[Mess]

I can't say it wouldn't bother me at all. In a sense it would bother me, but if I wouldn't walk out on her if I think we'd be great together, and if I'd think we'd be able to built a great future together. Besides, she'd need to be forgiving towards me, because I've got quite a past myself. Sure I'm a virgin, but got enough other things in my past, including sexually. So yeah, might need some time to give it a place, especially if she'd wait till the last possible moment to tell me something like this, but I think I'd marry her.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Whatever works.

 

[FlyingLeadChange]

I probably wouldn't... because for me sexual purity and commitment is something I really value, and I'd need to know that the person I married cherished it as a gift from God as much as I did.

Reading over that I feel like I'm somehow a horrible person... ugh, I dunno, maybe I'm too judgmental. If God gave me a clear commandment to do so, I would of course.

 

[Sketcher]

Reading over that I feel like I'm somehow a horrible person... ugh, I dunno, maybe I'm too judgmental.

Eh, I think the people who would judge you for it are too judgmental.

 

[scotty81]

no

if I could hold out why couldn't they

 

[Going Merry]

Would you be bothered by this by any means?

This question is for virgins, as a non-virgin answering this question kinda defeats the purpsoe.

Yes I would marry a non-virgin.
I plan to as we speak.

 

[r035198x]

I plan to as we speak.

You are posting this from a wedding aisle?

 

[Keachian]

Well, I see no reason not to, after all I very much see my role as a husband set out for me in Ephesians 5 and if I can't accept my bride in the same way that Christ accepted us, I'm not following him very well am I?

 

[crishmael]

A person's worth is not defined by their past or present level of sexual activity. If I love someone I will marry them. End of story.

 

[Fenny the Fox]

I would say yes. I personally think the current is what matters most, not the past. So long as they are not sleeping around and all now, then I don't think it would bother me too much that they are no longer a virgin.

 

[Zenaida]

Virginity is a non-issue.

 

[SOLDIER ❤]

I rather he be vegan. , but If he's not and he's christian and has changed I'm not going to stomp and wale about it. Everyone has a past. Who am I to stomp love because of it. I'm more concerned that he is healthy and he loves me.

 

[IamStefanie]

I probably wouldn't... because for me sexual purity and commitment is something I really value, and I'd need to know that the person I married cherished it as a gift from God as much as I did.

Reading over that I feel like I'm somehow a horrible person... ugh, I dunno, maybe I'm too judgmental. If God gave me a clear commandment to do so, I would of course.

You are not judgemental, you have your own beliefs. And because you have kept yourself to purity, then you want the same. That's understandable. But keep in mind that many who did not keep themselves to purity did not know the value of their bodies. Many come into Christ after making those kind of decisions (losing their virginity prior to marriage or have been married before). Or others were violated in ways they could not control. That's another convo tho that I won't get into. But again, you're not judgemental...it's so cool that you and others have kept yourselves pure for marriage. God bless you all!

 

[Saucy]

Well, I've saved myself for marriage and would prefer to marry a virgin who waited and thought it was special (like me) to save themselves for the one person they were going to share the rest of their lives with.

And before, when I was younger in my faith, I would not marry someone who wasn't a virgin. I was a bit more judgmental back then. But I know people make mistakes. I also know not everyone was a Christian from childhood and grew up in the faith. I didn't. I wasn't "saved" until I was 19 and I had many opportunities to have sex through high school and didn't take them. Because even when I wasn't a Christian, I felt that sex was special and shouldn't be shared with just anyone.