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I'm bisexual, I hate myself and I need your advice

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I really detest myself right now simply for the fact I am bisexual.

It's not a recent problem either- I had lesbian feelings starting when I was 15 and it's continued for 5 years.
I really feel guilty, as though I deserve to be punished, and I can't reconcile this with the fact I'm Christian, going to church and being a worship musician.
As a result it's added to my depression and I don't want to have a relationship with anyone because I feel like I'm betraying something.

Does anyone have any advice? Bear in mind my own family don't know about this and I don't feel I can tell them.

 

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I am so sorry you feel that way.

Sexual attraction to the same sex is not a sin per se, it's what you do with it that makes it a sin--or not.

Here is what I would do--Go to the Lord. Tell Him about all of this, then cry out to Him and ask for help.

He will help you, I promise, He will. He will give you wisdom, and also, more important, He will let you know that regardless of how you feel about yourself, He loves you.

God loves you. No matter how you may feel, He still loves you. You are His precious daughter, and He loves you.
 
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This is not a choice you have made, sister, it is a temptation... and temptation is not sin!
You are precious and loved, God knows your heart, and sees your desire to please Him despite your feelings.
Praying for you, sweetie...
will PM you later.
 
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Hating yourself is not the right 'approach' -if 'approach' is the right word-...(I have to be careful because the last time I replied to a question about bisexuality it was removed!).....God can be trusted with your needs. God doesn't hate you so why should you? I am a married man but still I struggle with sexual feelings that are not right. Its confusing and frustrating and will probably always be so but I do believe that God can be trusted. I believe that instead of trusting in my own wisdom and seeking to fulfil my needs myself, I must trust him to fulfil them. You need to find a way to do that as well. Hating and despising yourself are feelings that never come from God so you should put such thoughts out of your head. I would strongly advise trying to find a 'sexual mentor' a person, probably significantly older than you who you can confide in and indeed confess to. Trying to cope in isolation really tough I think. God wants you to be happy! Quoting Adrian Plass (Christian Author in UK): "God is nice and he likes me!" and (Bible quote but forget where its from) ..."He can do more than we ask or imagine"
 
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From what I know it is quite common to have feelings towards the same sex, and it is more common for women to fantasize about this. I read a article some days ago, and actually it is one of the most common sexual fantasy's women have. So don't feel like you are some lost sinner on the outside of the rest of the society, and certainly don't feel that you have to avoid getting a husband because of this. There is more sins in the minds of people than people usually admit, and if someone would judge you then it would only be because they wanted to hide their own sins and put themselves above you, even if God says we are all the same and have the same value.

God bless you.
 
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Don't hate yourself!

I often hate myself, but I figure that the world is already filled with murderers and thieves and people who would be happy to exploit or destroy me. there are enough enemies out there prowling and waiting to destroy us, the LAST thing any of us need is to be enemies to ourselves.
 
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