I'm a Christian with Asperger's seeking advice

[Lioness901]

To make a very long story short a couple years ago I filed with Inland Regional in California (where I live now) to get help cause I have mild Asperger's. So they re-diagnosed me I had already been diagnosed at least twice in Canada (born in Canada) but Inland Regional would not recognize it cause it was done in another country. So I co-operated got re-diagnosed went through the whole process which took a very long time. Inland Regional is very famous for putting things off. But I was patient with them. So they said I wasn't sever enough and told me to go the The Department Of Rehabilitation said they could help me with getting a job and going to college and things like that. So I co-operated went through their process and got re-diagnosed again and they gave me vocational training. I really got excited when vocational training started cause I thought it meant they were gonna help me. So last week I had a meeting with them they agree I have Asperger's they agree I need help and they want to help me but they can't without Inland Regional agreeing with that as well. So now they say I have to go back to Inland Regional start all over again a fresh case and be re-diagnosed again. I really don't wanna go through all that again. So I'm trying to think of how I can support myself. I don't have my GED I wasn't able to complete high school when I was supposed to and I can't afford to try again. I don't have any degree's any anything. I don't have any experience in anything. I chose never to volunteer cause I knew Inland Regional would ask (and they did) and their thinking is if you can volunteer you don't need their help and I didn't want to lie cause that's a sin. I don't care if you call it a little white lie to me a lie is a lie and its still a sin and its still against GOD and I refuse to do that. I'm unable to tell time and count money though I have tried to learn it I do have a learning disability with numbers. I'm unable to drive cause of my slow reflexes. So I'm thinking of maybe working from home. I have tried Avon twice in the past and failed miserably both times. First reason being is no one can afford extra's like Avon right now. Next is my neighborhood is literally full of Avon ladies who've done Avon for a very long time. And with Avon you have to love the product your selling cause of my Asperger's I'm unable to love objects. The last thing is my trouble with numbers that I have. I'm very Spock like cause of my Asperger's which also made selling Avon hard for me. I can't even love nature like other people can when they look at flowers and sunsets and stuff like that to me its all just there. But I would still like to try another home business where I don't have to love a product and where I wouldn't have much competition and where I would be selling something people need not extra's and where I can be my Spock like self. Anyone have any ideas for me?? I been googling since yesterday and I'll keep at it and if anyone has any ideas for me please let me know. Plus I need to get out the situation that I live with and have been living with for multiple years. I live with a bi-polar manic-depressive alcoholic step-dad an alcoholic mom and and a severly autistic brother. My step-dad is also very controlling and manipulative and verbally abusive. He calls us all 80 percent alot. His favorite saying is "agree with me or be wrong." He only listens to you if agree with him or complimenting him otherwise he tunes you out. He's also a perfectionist and he thinks he's perfect and he thinks he knows everything. When hes mad or drunk or no reason at all he'll slam doors, bang things and yell. There is no way to determine what he'll do next we all walk on eggshells constantly. I'm made to stay at home to watch my brother alot so that my parents can go out and drink. Someone must always be around to watch my brother cause he has sever autism and he does wonder and he is unable to look after himself on his own. He'll be going into a special home one day. In this house where I live I have no opinion or say on anything. I've been brought up with "you don't say no. You don't argue. You just do as your told." And its still that way today. I been going to Celebrate Recovery multiple years now to help me deal with this stuff. I'm not allowed at all to talk about my faith inside the house in anyway shape or form and if I do I get such a tongue lashing. So since the Bible tells me to honor and obey my parents and since I love GOD I do as my parents ask. I can't keep living in this situation though I want to work and move out I really do. Even if though I lived in the most healthy situation ever my parents won't live forever to support me I mean we all like to think we got years to live but we dunno that for sure. Even the Bible says we won't live long and no one knows when their day will come. My Church knows about all this and are in prayer for me. I wanna support myself but I dunno how so if anyone has any ideas please let me know.

 

[rich1540]

I was just about to log out and depart, when i saw your thread.

We need to know what interests you at the moment. What do you find really fascinating?

 

[Lioness901]

To me your question is illogical because it really doesn't matter at all what interests of fascinates me. Lets say for instance I'm really interested in being a doctor I'm not but lets just say I am. Well as you can clearly see being a doctor is impossible for me. I'm already 27 years old. I don't dream anymore it is pointless and illogical. I'm only interested in what will make money so I can move out.

 

[rich1540]

I'll rephrase that. What do you consider yourself good at doing? What are your hobbies?

I ask because people like us (I'm borderline autistic- not aspergers but sort of similar) tend to have obsessions. We can be quite good at those obsessions.

Are you good at putting things together? Do you like interacting with old people? Do you like computers? Music? Etc etc.

 

[Lioness901]

I'm good at things that are routine, repetitive and require no feelings. In a structured and quiet environment with no distractions at all. When I need to concentrate any and all sound distracts me from what I'm doing even normal like a plane going over head. It doesn't hurt my ears but it distracts me and it can me forget what I was doing. The job I was best at was during my vocational training and I was taken to a Wal-Greens warehouse and there was a tote room. The noise did bother me until they gave me earplugs and when I put those in I was fine and all I did was clean the the totes and put em on a belt that sent em to a machine. That's it and I liked it. It was repetitive and I didn't have to love the tote to do it. I haven't found anywhere else where I thrived so well. But gotta qualify with Inland Regional and the Rehab to get that job as it is set aside for those with special needs only.... It's not a job but I'm told I'm gifted in my blog that I do. I only update it when I feel lead by the Lord. Here's a link to it http://theworldofmismatchedsocks.blogspot.com/

 

[rich1540]

Do you like listening to music? Music with the right in ear earphones can block out a lot noise, plus you get the enjoyment of the.music. I'd be crazy without music [and Jesus of course]. I too enjoy repetitive manual work where i can let my brain roam freely. Ive had plenty of jobs like that.

Do you enjoy physical exercise?

 

[Lioness901]

I like listening to music but not when I have to concentrate on something cause it distracts me. I have to have literally no sound at all in order to concentrate and work cause any sound at all distracts me and I forget what I'm doing... Well for physical stuff I go for a walk every night. That's about it.

 

[rich1540]

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So sorry about your home situation and that i can't be more help. I thought that given my background i could. Pardon the crappy response but I'm out and about and my phone keeps reloading and losing what I've already written. Hopefully somebody will come along who can give you better advice. I will pray for you in addition to my generic Lord's Prayer.

 

[Sandycane]

Here's one site I'm looking into myself:
Teletech
They have available customer service reps who work at home on their own computers. My computer flunked (WindowsXP) so, I have to buy a new computer to finish the application process.

... I don't know how good I would be at it since I usually come across as being harsh or blunt, but I think I could make myself act the part.

There is another online site I used to work for... I can't think of the name right now, but I'll try to find it. They pay people to write articles for web sites. I did that for a while, but my grammar isn't very good and the writing didn't come easy to me... they pay per word, so if it takes you an hour to write something that pays $2, it's not worth it.
If you have good grammar skills, you might like this.

I found it in my favorites:
(It won't let me post a link) Google: Textbroker.com

I liked it, they were helpful and paid on time.

My circumstances are different from yours, but I still have the same problems with finding work.
Finding a job I can do at home, or anywhere that I don't have to directly be around people would be great.

Good luck to both of us!

 

[Our_God_Reigns]

As an Aspergers adult can I say just one thing.

If anyone tells you you do not love then they are simply wrong. Aspergers people have great love, we only find it difficult to deal with the social interactions of Neuro Typical people. NT people tend to try to make us into them. We are simply different and very tolerant of differences. Unlike some who judge us.

There are many famous Aspergers people, Bills Gates, Albert Einstein etc. It is something to be celebrated.

 

[MDCSWildcats86]

46/m/Oklahoma, diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome in 2007.

The doctor who diagnosed me said I may have had it all my life, but not knew it.

 

[iluvtheSims]

Do you like the Sims? Have you ever tried playing? Your post is tldr;....

 

[Hebraic]

I too have Asperger's, but I am more mild than some because of the great lengths that my Mom took, when I was young. Although I have never been officially diagnosed. However, one thing that I most certainly benefited from is speech lessons. But sometimes, I like to get my thoughts out too quickly and that does not work too well in most occupations. Some people with Asperger's do well in retail despite some of their set-backs and some people with Asperger's can do certain kinds of mechanical work given the right environment. But it all depends on what skills and hobbies, you currently have.