If it is in God's will..

[MentalSoliloquy]

How do you know if a relationship is in God's will...?

If you are both Christian and have a healthy loving relationship...Is that enough?

Or do we pray and pray till God gives us a yes or no answer?

I'm kind of confused right now...

 

[peanutbutter12]

I think we are arrogant people to believe we know God's will for our lives. I mean, how many friends do you know that have said something along the lines of "Wow, God willed me to be with this most awesome person and I love him SoOooooOoOOoOooOO much." only to find out 3 weeks later they broke up? This goes back to what I posted yesterday about knowing what love is. Love is a decision, not a feeling. If you have an awesome relationship that is going fantabulous and you put each other above yourselves and God above all, then good on ya. If you are truly happy and in a great loving relationship, more power to you. You're doing good. What more could you ask?

CJ

 

[Peter_in_Christ]

How do you know if a relationship is in God's will...?

If you are both Christian and have a healthy loving relationship...Is that enough?

Or do we pray and pray till God gives us a yes or no answer?

I'm kind of confused right now...

Pray and allow things to flow naturally, get to know one another a friends, be yourself and talk... notice how we as christians interact with one another... and also none of us is perfect.

Try not to think about it too much as we tend to create mental images in our mind what we like that do not necessarily relate to reality. When we allow things to flow naturally things will fall into place in time, it does also mean that you'll have to be active in the body of Christ serving one another.

Keep on Keeping on...

God bless

Peter

 

[MentalSoliloquy]

If you have an awesome relationship that is going fantabulous and you put each other above yourselves and God above all, then good on ya. If you are truly happy and in a great loving relationship, more power to you. You're doing good. What more could you ask?

CJ

Yes we do...

What more could you ask?

CJ

Thats what I want to know...


and Peter_in_Christ we have been building a friendship up a little over a year now...He is my best friend...we did not jump straight into romance (and even as a couple in a romantic relationship we are in a LDR). Its not me thinking about it too much, its my SO, because God hasn't given him a straight forward answer per se, he is confused because he loves me but he does not want to do something that will displease God (that is although we have a great relationship that is Christ centered, God's plan is not for US to be together) so hes praying (as am i) for some sort of clarity...it has just affected him tremendously, he is so worried.

 

[MentalSoliloquy]

Not sure if this will affect your answers but we met online... after a while of talking we decided to meet...after 2 failed attempts (something always came up) time passed and we both became re-commited Christians within a week of each other (without each other knowing)... a few days later, there was a ticket for him to come visit me... we met... we had a wonderful time together (it was all very innocent)...

 

[KristianJ]

we have been building a friendship up a little over a year now...He is my best friend...we did not jump straight into romance (and even as a couple in a romantic relationship we are in a LDR). Its not me thinking about it too much, its my SO, because God hasn't given him a straight forward answer per se, he is confused because he loves me but he does not want to do something that will displease God (that is although we have a great relationship that is Christ centered, God's plan is not for US to be together) so hes praying (as am i) for some sort of clarity...it has just affected him tremendously, he is so worried.

Your SO can take comfort in the fact that even though there may not be a clear cut answer to his prayers yet, it will come, because God will answer those prayers. We can't presume what He will do - that's why it's always important to allow yourself to embract the fact that God's will is perfect and just, even if it might cause short term anxiety and pain along the way. Encourage him to not be worried about each move he makes and whether it might be displeasing to God, because in the end, we're all capable of doing things like that - but God is faithful and quick to forgive if we confess those things (as I'm sure you know well). He has nothing to be worried about whatsoever

 

[Spoilt Victorian Child]

How I determine it's God's will:
-be as in-tune with his will in general through prayer, reading, and having godly mentors
-apply Biblical principles to analyzing the relationship (would it put God first, etc.)
-enjoy the freedom God gives us to like someone for personal reasons!

Keep in mind that I believe that God is absolutely sovereign, so His Will is whatever happens. What you call "His Will", I think of as simply obedience.

 

[Johnnz]

Beneath the wonderful feelings there needs to be a solid core of shared beliefs, values and broadly based goals i.e a really good friendship. Not rushing into a quick decision, allowing time to discover things about each other, having a respected person to talk over you relatonship with from time to time all contribute to a growing settledness (or otherwise) about marriage. It is seldom a "God told me" experience, just a growing peace. When other's you know and respect, and parents too are happy you will feel more secure in your decision.



John

NZ

 

[Peter_in_Christ]

I agree with Johnz...

 

[Jerrysch]

Beneath the wonderful feelings there needs to be a solid core of shared beliefs, values and broadly based goals i.e a really good friendship. Not rushing into a quick decision, allowing time to discover things about each other, having a respected person to talk over you relatonship with from time to time all contribute to a growing settledness (or otherwise) about marriage. It is seldom a "God told me" experience, just a growing peace. When other's you know and respect, and parents too are happy you will feel more secure in your decision.



John

NZ

There is wisdon in what you have written!

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

I'm a strong believer that God doesn't have that one perfect person for someone. I believe that it's our choice and He gives us several options.

I think that the advice that you've been given already is priceless. Love is a decision. It's a commitment. When you wake up every morning, you make that decision to love. You can't rely on feelings and emotions.

How do you know if a relationship is good? Do you encourage each other? Do you give 100% and want to give that? do you care more about making that other person happy then yourself?

That's one thing that I've found in my current relationship. Our attitudes are different. Our focuses are different. Instead of ourselves, we've been trying to find ways to make the other happy. I say "we" because my boyfriend and I have both experienced this. So it's a sign to us that we have God's blessing in this. (God's blessing and God's will are two different things.)