You maybe perhaps the wiseist woman I have ever met in this forum.
, I don't mean to inflate your ego too much. Just want you to know that you are impressing me greatly in this thread. Actually alot of people here have. I didn't know that this many here believe in grace and how to live it the same way that I do, I'm greatly encouraged!
I used to be addicted to inappropriate content myself, and I'm not ashamed to talk about it because the deliverance from it is reason to glorify God, and isn't that the purpose?
One thing you said that hit the home run for me was when you said "it's a spiritual matter isn't it?", yes it is. It's easy for us guys to only see it as a physical matter, or rather a body and soul matter. We end up struggling with our minds and bodies believeing we have to change what we're doing. That we have to repent and just stop engaging in it. The word "me" comes up alot in this, we are in the "me" generation don't you know?
This is a spiritual battle though, it's not about us battling the demons in our minds, if that is what you are doing then you are already doomed to failure. The only way to gain victory over this is to not even be in the battle. Step out of it and into the open arms of Jesus and there is where you will find rest. Yes that means you have to engage in praying in the spirit, meditating on his word, it's all of those things you listed. The Spirit does the battle for us and only then will the battle be won. If we leave it up to ourselves and will power, you will fail. Yes the word tells us to use will power, in fact it's one of the fruits of the Spirit (self-control) but the way we get there isn't through our efforts in the battle over the flesh but our efforts in staying in his arms. He does the work and that is how He gets the glory. See, otherwise if you by chance win the battle over the flesh by your will power and self-control, all the glory goes to you.