If any one can give advice or just encouragement

[FunniCheri]

I've been serving god for awile in my past and slipped away and feel like I'm beeing led back to him but I'm going to have a hard time leaving a guy I loved for 8 years. And he insist he don't believe in god and I thought it he may change. But it only made me fall worse with him in his addition to porn and he's cross dressing and now he's on a dating site.I've noticed He's starting to be very controlling .I can't live like this any more. But I love him dearly. And now think I need to leave need good prayers and words of encouragement. Thx with all my heart. Cheri.

 

[jackndbox]

Cheri;

I understand how difficult it is to seperate yourself from someone or something that seems so important and so needed. Ive lived many yearsd away from God myuself and find giving up things from the past difficult, but there is never a wrong time to do the right thing. I hope you will find the strength to do what you need to do to come back into fellowship with God and trust that He has a better relationship plannedf for your life, one that compliments you and your walk with Him.

 

[FunniCheri]

Yes back sliding got so easy. A bit hard to get back with the hard fall i got my self into. And my man insist he's wants nothing to do with it god. And wish I didn't fall and fall in love with a non believer. I sure got sucked in to the dark side. And I allways still had my hand dipped in to god still. But now I think the dark side is taking over my family and my man and I now think I need to move on. Get away from all this dark side stuff. I might be getting help in a move to my own place. From a therapist and gods help of course. So I thank every one for there prayers and encuragement.

 

[jackndbox]

I know what you mean about the darkside Cheri and I am so glad you are moving away from it. Please keep us updated will you? Im new here myself and hearing from others with similar struggles helps me to not give up.

 

[FunniCheri]

Just to let u all know. I can't figure out why I cry all the time about this. And I wish I was able to get out sooner then later. Because he's getting worse in controlling
me and being on bad sites and seeing and doing this I front of me hurts so much . Why he's being this open in front of me I'm not sure but It sickens me. He does not want me no more I think. But yet he's always so lovey dovey every day to me. And wants sex and acts like nothings going on.I'm so confused. I cant move back with my parents not allowed in there building and i have only 2 friends and they can't help. So lord do ur Devine work. Any ways I do apologize to u all in here and most import to god. That I'm struggling to have the faith in this.......GOD I WANT OUT AND I NEED THE MONEY AND UR DEVINE LOVE AND TOUCHING HAND IN THIS MATTER IN UR WONDERFUL NAME JESUS AMEN.

 

[jackndbox]

Dear Cheri.

I am continuing to lift you up in prayer, and will do so gladly. Please remember Proverbs 3:5-6 that says to trust in the Lord. Please keep us updated as you are able. God bless you!!

 

[athenken]

Here is something that I had to come to a realization on concerning an old roommate of mine. Am I more of a positive influence on him, or is he more of a negative influence on me? The realization I came to was the latter.

When you come to that realization you have to take a step back and look again at the purpose of the relationship. It may be hard, but in order to keep yourself from falling further there are times you need to either limit or cut off your relationship with those people who are more of a bad influence than you are a good influence.

What you will find is that they will most likely not take it well, but God will reward you for making this tough choice and doing the right thing.

Consider Romans 8:28 in regard to this situation.

 

[jpcedotal]

Choosing between God and someone you love or at least loved at one time....that's tough.

Praying for ya. My Dad and Mom are like that and I can see hate growing and growing and growing...

 

[Roseheart]

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Definitely praying for you. Somebody once said to put all your troubles and worries in a bag and send them up to God, and he will solve them for you. I know that's easy to say when I'm not in the same situation that you're in, but it's helped me in the past and I hope it will help you. Is your therapist still helping you to find a place? Once you get through this troubled time, your faith will be strengthened.

God Bless You.
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[someguy14]

Maybe you could ask God to provide a way to rid the situation and pain it's causing, in personal prayer.
Give it all to God, like in 1 Peter 5:7.
Your aware it's wrong cause it hurts so much. If your married, he's commiting adultery, and that is grounds enough to leave. Pray to God and ask Him to provide a way for you.
God bless.
God protect us.

 

[saved24]

I've been serving god for awile in my past and slipped away and feel like I'm beeing led back to him but I'm going to have a hard time leaving a guy I loved for 8 years. And he insist he don't believe in god and I thought it he may change. But it only made me fall worse with him in his addition to porn and he's cross dressing and now he's on a dating site.I've noticed He's starting to be very controlling [bless and do not curse].I can't live like this any more. But I love him dearly. And now think I need to leave need good prayers [bless and do not curse]and words of encouragement. Thx with all my heart. Cheri.[bless and do not curse]

I sure do feel for you. I think a lot of what you are going through is emotional abuse. He is hurting you by controling you and what he does online. I would advise you to go to a social worker or a home that protects women (women's shelter) or see a Pastor from a church who can set you up in a Godly home until you are able to care for yourself. The Lord wants good for you and I pray you will get out of this situation soon.

God bless.

 

[rturner76]

It's been a couple days since you've been on but I hope you can see these messages soon. You are in a crisis situation sweetheart. Did I read that there are children in this situation? Do you trust your parents with the children? If you do, I believe the best thing is to let your therapist know you are in danger at home and use those words, I am in fear for my safety at home. He doesn;t have to hit you to make you feel unsafe. You feel unsafe in your spirit and he is controling you. Forcing you to watch him gratify himself with pornography is a form of sexual abuse pure and simple and you are in an unsafe place. Your tears are your friend. It is your body and spirit's way of telling you something is wrong. Just like when you hurt your body and it hurts. It's no different, this is hurting you and you need to get out now. Even if that means a half way house or a hospital bed I'm sorry to say it's an emergenct. Maybe I'm over reacting but it's what I see. Sorry if I sould like I want drama but I want your saftey first and foremost.

Praying for you and your health. Don't be afraid to call 911 if you need to for real.

 

[elenore]

you have to forgive him and yourself. abuse is a cycle. he has to want to change, and until that happens, he'll continue to do what he's doing and most likely just get worse.
you can't fix him.
loving him isn't enough because you've already done that. if he doesn't respect you he won't love you very much. but you'll make a convenient place to vent his sin. the more you put up with his garbage, the less he'll respect you and the worse it'll get.

 

[elenore]

PS. If a man decides to take out his anger on a woman. When he's beating her up is he going to be saying things like -
'I'm a failure, I have no self control, I'm wicked, I'm foolish, I'm unforgiving, arrogant, selfish and uncommitted to fixing my problems etc'.
No.
He's going to be saying things like 'you're the problem, you failed me, you let me down. You're arrogant, selfish and uncommitted to making me and this relationship work'.

Obviously the actual words will be different but you get my drift.

Emotional abuse works the same way, it just takes different forms.

 

[Criada]

Sweetie, you need to get out of that situation.
If you have nowhere else to go, please consider a women's refuge - you are being abused, and you need to get away from this man.
I know you love him, but he won't change as long as you stay - maybe you leaving will make him realise how much he needs to change.

Praying for you

 

[VincentHChough]

Dear FunniCheri,

You should look for help at your church. If you don't have a church, find one fast!

In your prayers ask God to show you what to do.
You are in a spiritual battle... ask the Holy Spirit to fight for you. You can't do it by yourself. Jesus is your strength and your Champion. Let Him do the fighting.

And find help from friends. Go back to your family. Ask them to forgive you.
I will pray for you too.

Blessings,
Vince