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The most fundamental things are where it's at, and they bridge other things. As for the rest, wait 15 years and then who knows where you'll be?invisiblebabe said:
Take care. -Keil
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The most fundamental things are where it's at, and they bridge other things. As for the rest, wait 15 years and then who knows where you'll be?invisiblebabe said:But fundamentally (esp. in terms of worldview, theology, and interest/knowledge of such things....also experiences to some degree....ie i could not imagine myself with someone over 8 or 9 yrs older.... I think we should have more in common than not.
Tuffguy said:I need an extrovert and someone that can communicate openly, freely and without worrying about the consequences. Introverts drive me nuts because 50% of the time i can't really tell what they are thinking. When you ask them what they are thinking they take lots of time to gather their thoughts in order to express themselves well. I'm impatient and this drives me nuts. I always have my thoughts on the tip of my tougue ready to come out.
Haha yes, exactly... 'cause the littler things are easily subject to change... foundational temperament characteristics and values, to a greater degree, are not.The most fundamental things are where it's at, and they bridge other things. As for the rest, wait 15 years and then who knows where you'll be?
I meant that when people define themselves as their greater selves, then they leave less room for adjusting. Example, I have two notions of myself - one internal and one external. The internal notion is essentially "that which has choice" the external notion includes my physical self, segments of my mind which are denyed choice, my history, my personality, etc. - essentially myself as society sees me. I'm still me insofar as my internal self is perserved at some level, my external self since I don't completely think of it as me can be adjusted. By narrowing my notion of self, I can broaden the attributes of myself that I can change - bleh.fishstix said:Wouldn't narrow terms be more constraining?
A weakness is defined by the self ultimately. It would seem that both partners would idealy have identical notions of weakness then, and both be working to resolve these weaknesses. I think an identical spouse could actually have the exact same "wants" yet have different thought processes (approaches) due (I think) to doubts/undefined threads of perfection.It would be nice if we could just get rid of all our weaknesses, but that isn't going to be fully completed until heaven. And it really would be easier if when a hard time comes for one person the other can be strong for them rather than both of them falling apart at the same time.
I have to chuckle and smile - it's much easier to be philosophical when you're younger (and I do enjoy being philosophical myself from time to time).... However I have the tickling feeling that those days will come when you will find you and your wife up at different times, and surely from time to time down together, whether it's diaper time, or the 'frig door breaks, or simply exhausted together. And then there are the times when she finds philosphical exasperating and just wants someone to listen and understand how she feels. It's not so philosophical then!waterbear said:A weakness is defined by the self ultimately. It would seem that both partners would idealy have identical notions of weakness then, and both be working to resolve these weaknesses. I think an identical spouse could actually have the exact same "wants" yet have different thought processes (approaches) due (I think) to doubts/undefined threads of perfection.
Aussie_Gareth said:My ideal spouse:
Like me but has enough of a difference to keep things interesting
Strong in the areas I am weak
Kind
Gentle
Strong believer in God
Knows how to treat a guy right.
I don't need to dream anymore because I've found her.
No! Having some differences keeps things interesting. I'd like someone who is somewhat similar to me, but I don't want to marry a male clonewaterbear said:Would your ideal spouse be like you in every way except gender and appearance - why or why not?
That's the perspective in a husband-wife relationship. The wife's advantage is that she doesn't have to carry the load herself, not that she can't.Thithy said:Oh please no. I need someone more organized than me. Someone that can make decisions. Someone to plan things. Not that I can't, I just would prefer not to.
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