I wish...

[Lioness901]

I wish I didn't have Asperger's. I wish I could have feelings for nature and music and clothes and cars like other people do instead of being completely blank. I wish I could be emotional at weddings, graduations and funerals like other people. I wish it was ok for me to be attracted the single man at Church that I am attracted to but for me it is a bad thing. Its a bad thing because of my Asperger's I am not fit for anyone ever. Also my sister in Christ at Church has confirmed that this is a bad thing. He is not married and is around my age and he is very nice to me very much a gentleman and hes funny he makes me laugh. He is a good friend and I think he sees me as just a friend I don't know that for sure though. Nothing wrong with friends can never have enough friends I'm just wishing it wasn't a bad thing that I am attracted to him but wishing for a thing does not make it so. It would be best for me if I were never attracted to anyone and that no one was ever attracted to me. Please pray that GOD take away my attraction to this man as its a bad thing. I know there is a prayer forum and I've already posted a prayer request for this there I'm just venting a bit here and I hope that's ok and not also a bad thing.

 

[Bookmaker]

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God formed you just the way he wanted.

If I might suggest, casually let the gentleman know you are interested. Perhaps there is a blessing there.

 

[Odetta]

Why is it a bad thing? Many people with Aspergers go on to have good romantic relationships. You're not broken.

 

[FergusonTO35]

I totally understand what you are going through, been there many times. I will say from experience, you need to make your feelings known to him. You could do this through a friend if you are too shy. If you do not, then you will always wonder "what if..." When I think back on my single days I recognize that many women were expressing interest in me but I was too dense to recognize it and too scared to talk to them. It is certainly possible that he has some feelings for you but is too shy to express them or is completely unaware of how you feel.

I suspect that having a crush on someone is alot more intense for AS people than the general populace. One bit of advice, which you may have already figured out. If someone you have a crush on is unquestionably not interested in you, it is alot better for you to move on and minimize your contact with that person. There is nothing you can do to make them change their mind. Even if they are nice about it and still want to hang out or whatever, it's much healthier for you not to do it. Keeping an unsuccessful crush burning is going to cause all kinds of hurt to you. I know this from personal experience.

 

[FergusonTO35]

Dont Know Why This Giving Me Duplicate Posts...

 

[dayhiker]

901 ... as you learn about people there will come a time when having a crush on a guy will be right for you. I really don't think its right for you to think that will never happen.

 

[MoeSzyslak]

Why is being attracted to a single man a bad thing. I have AS and have been married for 16 years. I would do it again given the option. I am not one of those people who whine about being married.

 

[iluvtheSims]

I'm married and I have a baby