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[thisisjustme]

Hi, I have never done this before, but here we go.
I am an 19 year old guy who is just a bit confused. I sometimes have thoughts about guys as well as girls. I am kind of in denial, cause these thoughts have been ongoing since I was young. I just wanted to know, what does god expect me to do, I believe that I don't choose to like a guy, but this has been programmed into me since I was a child. I can remember my first experience when I was 7 years old, touching with another boy, I was so innocent, how could there be any choice of me liking another boy? Now I am 19 and there is times where I have sexual thoughts about girls and guys, and I wonder, why did god give me this feeling for boys in my head, Then say if you act on it, you are sinning. I have read everywhere, and most people say this is a choice. Yes I have a choice to not act on these thoughts. BUT why these thoughts in the first place? Why make me suffer like this, Why can't i have the regular life like everyone else where they are just straight.

 

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[Krissy Cakes]

Here is a forum that might pique your interest.. Men's Corner - Christian Forums men's forum
You won't be able to see it until you request for access here: http://www.christianforums.com/t7393465/

God Bless,
Krissy_Cakes

 

[Krissy Cakes]

Hi, I have never done this before, but here we go.
I am an 19 year old guy who is just a bit confused. I sometimes have thoughts about guys as well as girls. I am kind of in denial, cause these thoughts have been ongoing since I was young. I just wanted to know, what does god expect me to do, I believe that I don't choose to like a guy, but this has been programmed into me since I was a child. I can remember my first experience when I was 7 years old, touching with another boy, I was so innocent, how could there be any choice of me liking another boy? Now I am 19 and there is times where I have sexual thoughts about girls and guys, and I wonder, why did god give me this feeling for boys in my head, Then say if you act on it, you are sinning. I have read everywhere, and most people say this is a choice. Yes I have a choice to not act on these thoughts. BUT why these thoughts in the first place? Why make me suffer like this, Why can't i have the regular life like everyone else where they are just straight.

This question would be for a Chaplin. Please PM one of them. AMR , drstevej or eldermike

I hope you find the answer your looking for. I'll be praying for you.


God Bless you

 

[iloveflipflops]

Welcome to CF thisisjustme!

 

[moosh101]

Hi.

I have experienced a very similar issue as you and have felt both confused about what God thinks of it, and how it 'fits' into a Christian life.

This issue has caused quite a lot of grief in the Christian community, especially the issue of Gay ministers in the Church. There have been arguments on both sides and some church groups, such as the Methodists here in New Zealand, lost many members when the Church accepted Gay Clergy.

I personally feel that the most important thing is to develop a rock solid relationship with God. One that is based on reliance, trust and an understanding that God has your best interests in mind. God has the power to shape you into the Christ-like Christian He wants you to be, if you are willing to let Him. God will guide you in every area of your life and will be your best friend- He certainly is mine! Sure, there will be struggles along the way and temptations will occur, but if we fall, we can be assured that God will pick us up and put us back on the right track. In the end, this is the only thing that matters - every other issue regardless of what it is, is not really an issue when you have the Creator of the Universe in your corner! Focus on God, ask Him for guidance and support when you need it and you will begin a journey of astonishment, amazement and wonder!

May God bless you in all you do.

Love,

Shane.

 

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[Criada]

Hi, I have never done this before, but here we go.
I am an 19 year old guy who is just a bit confused. I sometimes have thoughts about guys as well as girls. I am kind of in denial, cause these thoughts have been ongoing since I was young. I just wanted to know, what does god expect me to do, I believe that I don't choose to like a guy, but this has been programmed into me since I was a child. I can remember my first experience when I was 7 years old, touching with another boy, I was so innocent, how could there be any choice of me liking another boy? Now I am 19 and there is times where I have sexual thoughts about girls and guys, and I wonder, why did god give me this feeling for boys in my head, Then say if you act on it, you are sinning. I have read everywhere, and most people say this is a choice. Yes I have a choice to not act on these thoughts. BUT why these thoughts in the first place? Why make me suffer like this, Why can't i have the regular life like everyone else where they are just straight.

First of all, welcome to CF

I'm sorry that you are struggling with these thoughts. Remember, though it is a sin to act on them, it is no worse a sin than any other - and temptation is not sin.
Everyone has their own temptations - for some of us it is this one, for others it may be a temptation to gluttony, to gossip, to aggressive behaviour. They are all the same, all temptation - and God has promised that He will give us strength to resist.
It helps to find someone who you trust and to whom you can be accountable.

Remember, God loves you - enormously and unconditionally, and He is for you, not trying to trip you up.
It's a difficult struggle, especially when you are young and hormones are affecting you greatly - but you are no worse than anyone else, and you have all that you need to be strong.
Praying for you - if you want to talk to someone who has faced a similar issue, please PM. I don't have all the answers, but I can listen
God bless you brother - it must have taken a lot of courage to post this.

 

[Nathaniel Ellis]

Do not feel bad about having sexual feelings twards guys. it is not a sin it is simply a phycological quirk. God did not give it to you and you did not choose it. You would have to talk to a christian counselor to figure out exactly were it comes from, you may have simply inherited it. everyone struggles with things and what you struggle with is no different to God than what anyone else struggles with. Just don't make your struggle part of your identity. You are not gay or bi and the feelings are not sin but acting on the feeling is. just the same as if you were to do sexual things with a woman outside of marage.

Since your struggle with this is not different to God than my struggle with lusting after women the remedy is the same. check out this thread on evercoming Lust. http://www.christianforums.com/t7514549/

scripture tells us that when men do sexual things with men than they suffer in there personalities. I experienced this in my own life. I have never been atracted to men but in 1st grade i played sexual games with my naighbor and i grew up looking gay.
the good news is that this is not who we really are and as we live our lives in Jesus Christ he transforms us from Glory to Glory. now i do not look gay or feel oquard anymore because God has gradually transformed me as i spent my life phocusing on Him.

this is why making this problem part of your identity is the worst thing you can do. so don't let this happen no matter how much our culture or the demonic try to lable you.

Just tell them....
2 corinthians 5:17
He who is in Christ is a New Creation behold the past is gone and all things have become New

He Transforms me form Glory to Glory.
2 corinthians 3:18
But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as from the Lord, the Spirit.

you have the power to believe anything you want. Belief is nothing but a choice. You may have to fight for what you Believe but no one and nothing can take away your ability to Choose. When we choose to believe Truth than Gods will is manifested in our lives. when we choose to believe a lie the enemies will becomes manifest. most people believe whatever is ezest. But in order to live in victory we have to believe what is true no matter how hard it might be. but the more we Chose to believe it the stronger we become. just like lifting weights except you are excersising you will instead of your muscles.

Awesome so Rise Up Mighty Warrior. The Victory is Yours for the Taking! All Glory be to Our Lord JESUS CHRIST!

 

[JCFantasy23]

Hi, I have never done this before, but here we go.
I am an 19 year old guy who is just a bit confused. I sometimes have thoughts about guys as well as girls. I am kind of in denial, cause these thoughts have been ongoing since I was young. I just wanted to know, what does god expect me to do, I believe that I don't choose to like a guy, but this has been programmed into me since I was a child. I can remember my first experience when I was 7 years old, touching with another boy, I was so innocent, how could there be any choice of me liking another boy? Now I am 19 and there is times where I have sexual thoughts about girls and guys, and I wonder, why did god give me this feeling for boys in my head, Then say if you act on it, you are sinning. I have read everywhere, and most people say this is a choice. Yes I have a choice to not act on these thoughts. BUT why these thoughts in the first place? Why make me suffer like this, Why can't i have the regular life like everyone else where they are just straight.

Did these thoughts just suddenly begin, have they been going on the past few years, or since childhood?

I thought I was bi-sexual at 19 too. I started having thoughts about 14 and they ended in early 20s. I think it's much more normal than people giving it credit for to be hormonal changes and normal curiosities at that age. I know I've read numerous articles, especially for women being attracted to other women, that many times it is a natural curiosity but does not always mean you are homosexual.

Not saying this is the case for you but as real as it may seem, there's always a possibility it will cease too. I'm sorry about the anxieties you are facing with it, I'm sure it must be very stressful.

 

[Fire Angel]

I would like to go on the Women Who Struggle forum. Could you please let me know, I do have some issues in life.
Thanks

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

I would like to go on the Women Who Struggle forum. Could you please let me know, I do have some issues in life.
Thanks

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Just post a request to join here If you have trouble accessing the Women's Forum - post here
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[Fire Angel]

Thank you so much.