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I will finally admit it

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I will finally admit it. I have a crush on someone who is no longer with us. From what I have read, he was a nice person. I wish I the opportunity to meet him. I am saddened that he is no longer with us. He was handsome and from what I read, pretty talented. I am sure he would have been an interesting guy to meet. I need to, however, recall that I need to get over my crushes.

I don't that crushes are a bad thing, but I guess they can turn into something idolatrous or an obsession. I find myself attracted to him after his death. I was shocked when I first heard about his death. Watching his movies and such made me appreciate him. However, watching his headstone was sobering and it brought me back to reality. He is not coming back. He is never coming back. He is only alive in our hearts. The fact that he had so much to offer makes me sad. Life seems so unfair at times.

As someone who is also bipolar, could this crush also be an obsession? I tend to get obsessed over men. I am just wondering this because I read about someone else who may have been obsessed with a person who was a musician who has died. This person has had problems because of this obsession. What would be the difference between having a crush and having an obsession? I saw him in a dream one night this week.

Does this crush make me look crazy? It seems to have no merit or without logic, but sometimes I feel like maybe I am in love with this guy, but I barely knew him or have seen most of his work when he was alive. How strange is this crush and how do I overcome it? I am an adult over the age of 30 and the person I have a crush on died in his 30s. Is it normal to have a crush on someone who is dead first and foremost and is it also normal for a person over 30 to have an adult crush period?

Could this be a symptom of bipolar? I have been diagnosed as having bipolar disorder over 20 years ago and I have a history of having crushes and obsessions even up to now. I cry about him. I have been asked what is wrong with me but I am afraid to tell her about it for fear that I will be considered crazy. Sadly I will meet or truly fall in love so why do I have these crushes and obsessions?
 

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I would not consider it a symptom of bipolar, but a symptom of a co-morbid condition. I would speak with your doctor/therapist about this. There is no shame in it, even when it becomes problematic that it is certainly not healthy.
 
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