I want to help anyone who's grieving and needs someone to talk to.

[godsgirl1209]

I'm quickly finding what it feels like to lose someone you love. But I know the help that just talking about it will do ❤️ Post to this thread or email me if you need someone to talk to or a bit of insight or even just a prayer. I want to help ❤️🙏

 

[angelsbookoflove]

Awesome!

 

[Susie~Q]

Today is the 2 year anniversary of my daddy's death, I am doing OK, but crying because I miss him so much. No one seems to care here, I told one lady in church, and all she said was "well, we all have our anniversaries, don't we?" She is supposed to be a friend, she did not even give me a hug after the service or say she was sorry for my sadness; man, it is lonely here, I have no one. My husband is trying to understand, but, it is not the same. I wish I had never left home, what a mistake I have made. My poor daddy would be so worried if he was still alive, I am ashamed of how I have been acting. I miss him so much. I feel like I am going to have a major anxiety attack, my head feels weird, I am having hot flashes, I feel light headed, etc, this stinks. I feel so alone. No one cares in this town, I have had strangers be more sympathetic.

 

[blackribbon]

look for a griefshare group...they are Christian and the program is offered through local churches...go to the website and put in your zipcode to find one near you.

People who haven't lost don't understand. This program is wonderful for giving you both permission to grieve and people to support you as you do.

www.griefshare.org

 

[Susie~Q]

The problem is, this lady has had a lot of grief, most here have had, but when it comes to me, they could care less, they sure care about my husband, Steve though, it hurts so badly. He is a native New Zealander however, and I am an American, I do not think that they like us Americans too much.

I will go to site and see what it is like, I doubt if they have anything in New Zealand though.

Hugs

 

[Susie~Q]

I just checked it, as I suspected, none here. Oh well, maybe Christchurch has some, but it is so far away, over 2 hours, and Steve really does not like me to talk to councelors, he only wants me to talk to his "friends" here and I do not feel comfortable with any of them.

 

[aflower4God]

Today is the 2 year anniversary of my daddy's death, I am doing OK, but crying because I miss him so much. No one seems to care here, I told one lady in church, and all she said was "well, we all have our anniversaries, don't we?" She is supposed to be a friend, she did not even give me a hug after the service or say she was sorry for my sadness; man, it is lonely here, I have no one. My husband is trying to understand, but, it is not the same. I wish I had never left home, what a mistake I have made. My poor daddy would be so worried if he was still alive, I am ashamed of how I have been acting. I miss him so much. I feel like I am going to have a major anxiety attack, my head feels weird, I am having hot flashes, I feel light headed, etc, this stinks. I feel so alone. No one cares in this town, I have had strangers be more sympathetic.

I just checked it, as I suspected, none here. Oh well, maybe Christchurch has some, but it is so far away, over 2 hours, and Steve really does not like me to talk to councelors, he only wants me to talk to his "friends" here and I do not feel comfortable with any of them.

((((((((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))))))) I am so so very sorry my dear sweet sister that you are having to go through this alone! I so wish I could be there to cheer you up! I can imagine how hard it is, as I miss my home state a lot as of late cause I miss my father dearly as well. PLEASE KNOW I will keep you on the top of my prayers and KNOW that you are a HUGE BLESSING to me any many!

 

[Susie~Q]

Thank you so much, Angela, your friendship is so precious.

I wish you were here too, we would have lots of fun, LOL.

 

[aflower4God]

Thank you so much, Angela, your friendship is so precious.

I wish you were here too, we would have lots of fun, LOL.

Amen to that!!!!

 

[blackribbon]

I realized that you were in New Zealand after I posted that .... however, google "grief groups" or "grief support" and your area and see if anything pops up. Groups are different than counseling because you are just supporting each other. And honestly, sometimes the best support comes from strangers...it just is how it is. ((hugs)) I hope you can find some people who understand.

 

[chrisstavrous]

I'm quickly finding what it feels like to lose someone you love. But I know the help that just talking about it will do ❤️ Post to this thread or email me if you need someone to talk to or a bit of insight or even just a prayer. I want to help ❤️��

Yes help me, I am deeply wounded and cant recover, and yes I tried god.

 

[bethrow]

Yes help me, I am deeply wounded and cant recover, and yes I tried god.

Hi...I'm in Melbourne too.
When I hear that people have "tried God" what does that mean? I'm not trying to be rude I just don't understand. Maybe you could explain a little more.
Will be praying for God to touch your life and give you direction.

 

[chrisstavrous]

Hi...I'm in Melbourne too.
When I hear that people have "tried God" what does that mean? I'm not trying to be rude I just don't understand. Maybe you could explain a little more.
Will be praying for God to touch your life and give you direction.

It just means even though I have done my best to follow and believe in jesus I ended up worse for wear.

 

[bethrow]

It just means even though I have done my best to follow and believe in jesus I ended up worse for wear.

Have you accepted Christ as your personal saviour? Were you once a believer and now maybe you don't believe? I don't know you or your circumstances, but I do know that when we accept Christ as our personal saviour even Christians don't know "everything" and either they get hurt by other Christians ir are spiritually attacked by the enemy. Satan does not want us serving or walking with Christ. He will do everything in his power to make us turn away.
Do you believe in your heart that Jesus died for you?
I think for alot of people who say they "tried God" they can also mean they didn't really fit into a church mould.
It's about a personal relationship...not just going to church.
I could be way off here, but I can see that you are searching.
Are there scriptures that you don't understand? I'm happy to help. I have to say that I'm no bible scholar and there are things that I can't answer as eloquently as many others, but I know what God has done for my life.
I didn't actually start walking with Christ until I moved to Australia. I'm American and grew up in church and hated it and most Christians actually. I was hurt time and time again in the church...but after 10 years God lead me back and I've learned to move forward and forgive those that hurt me in the church. I've lived in Australia 12 years and it's been some of the darkest days of my life, but I was still able to see God's hand.

Praying for you today.

 

[mkgal1]

It just means even though I have done my best to follow and believe in jesus I ended up worse for wear.

I'm sorry you're hurting.

Beth is absolutely right----God wants a relationship with us----not for us to perform good deeds for Him (He's already paid the price for our sin).

Isaiah 61:1 says,

"He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted"......God cares about you. He *wants* (I believe) to bind up your heart.

I don't know if you're interested in looking up some passages, but in case you are, here's a list:

Genesis 16:1-13

Genesis 39:11-23

Ruth 1:3-18

2nd Samuel 12:15-25

 

[chrisstavrous]

Have you accepted Christ as your personal saviour? Were you once a believer and now maybe you don't believe? I don't know you or your circumstances, but I do know that when we accept Christ as our personal saviour even Christians don't know "everything" and either they get hurt by other Christians ir are spiritually attacked by the enemy. Satan does not want us serving or walking with Christ. He will do everything in his power to make us turn away.
Do you believe in your heart that Jesus died for you?
I think for alot of people who say they "tried God" they can also mean they didn't really fit into a church mould.
It's about a personal relationship...not just going to church.
I could be way off here, but I can see that you are searching.
Are there scriptures that you don't understand? I'm happy to help. I have to say that I'm no bible scholar and there are things that I can't answer as eloquently as many others, but I know what God has done for my life.
I didn't actually start walking with Christ until I moved to Australia. I'm American and grew up in church and hated it and most Christians actually. I was hurt time and time again in the church...but after 10 years God lead me back and I've learned to move forward and forgive those that hurt me in the church. I've lived in Australia 12 years and it's been some of the darkest days of my life, but I was still able to see God's hand.

Praying for you today.

Yes of course I accepted jesus to the best of my abilities and I did all I could do to live for him. But I noticed that faith and my mental illness didn't mix. I asked god to help me remain mentally stable while I was a christian but I just got worse.

 

[chrisstavrous]

I'm sorry you're hurting.

Beth is absolutely right----God wants a relationship with us----not for us to perform good deeds for Him (He's already paid the price for our sin).

Isaiah 61:1 says,

"He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted"......God cares about you. He *wants* (I believe) to bind up your heart.

I don't know if you're interested in looking up some passages, but in case you are, here's a list:

Genesis 16:1-13

Genesis 39:11-23

Ruth 1:3-18

2nd Samuel 12:15-25

How do I have a relationship with god when my mental illness contorts my thought processes, processes that are required for a realtionship to be stable in the first place.

 

[bethrow]

A mental illness isn't your fault. God knows this. He knows your heart.
If you have accepted him as your personal savior...it is done. You are saved. He knows your heart and your concern to be able to have a relationship with him in spite of having a mental illness.
Maybe it's just baby steps that you need to take. Just start by thanking him for something each day. Just little things. Maybe trying to take on too much is overwhelming and it feels as if it is setting you back.
He knows what you struggle with. I don't believe God is a tyrant when someone seeks the holy spirit.
I do believe the enemy can attack anyone who is seeking even a person who has a mental illness.
Will continue to pray for you today.

 

[chi_cchick]

Go to blahtherapy.com, there are people who you can talk to in real time that are seeking help.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

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