"I want to get to know you better"

[PeculiarTreasure]

Guys, if a girl said this to you would you find it flattering or would you run in the other direction?

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Guys, if a girl said this to you would you find it flattering or would you run in the other direction?

For most women, I would be flattered.

 

[Jerimi]

It really depends on the situation, Often times, a girl will say that after I ask her out and that usually means "Let's just be friends". In that case I throw a miniature temper tantrum and then we go for ice cream.

If a girl comes up to me and says that out right, it usually means she wants something more and it depends on how I feel about her, where I am at in my life and what has happened that day. Usually I don't run for the hills but I have been known to be a bit aprehensive.

I suppose the biggest question is, if a girl asks that question and the guy DOES run for the hills, should the girl be upset. I say no. Any guys who can't handle a little conversation or is too immature to live without assumption is probably not the best kind of guy to be around anyway. Shows too much insecurity.

 

[Wren]

I'm not a guy, but---- I would just like to say that if a guy PM's me with "I want to get to know you better", I would be totally open to at least being friends with them (well most guys, to be honest). I can't imagine it being a problem for someone if you are open to being friends with them, it's not like you're saying "why hi there, I'd like to have your babies" .

 

[JonMiller]

flattered?

JM

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

It really depends on the situation, Often times, a girl will say that after I ask her out and that usually means "Let's just be friends". In that case I throw a miniature temper tantrum and then we go for ice cream.

If a girl comes up to me and says that out right, it usually means she wants something more and it depends on how I feel about her, where I am at in my life and what has happened that day. Usually I don't run for the hills but I have been known to be a bit aprehensive.

I suppose the biggest question is, if a girl asks that question and the guy DOES run for the hills, should the girl be upset. I say no. Any guys who can't handle a little conversation or is too immature to live without assumption is probably not the best kind of guy to be around anyway. Shows too much insecurity.

Thanks for sharing! I'm currently on a Christian dating site and I've emailed a few guys just saying something like "hey, I liked your profile and would like to get to know you better" and I never heard from them again or they wrote me back like once or twice and I never heard from them again. I just don't get it.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

I'm not a guy, but---- I would just like to say that if a guy PM's me with "I want to get to know you better", I would be totally open to at least being friends with them (well most guys, to be honest). I can't imagine it being a problem for someone if you are open to being friends with them, it's not like you're saying "why hi there, I'd like to have your babies" .

That would be my reaction as well.

I think for now I'm just gonna keep quiet and see what happens.

 

[Luther073082]

As an engaged man I would probaby have to make sure they know that I'm engaged. And of course I would not go with them on anything anywhere near resembling a date.

 

[Jerimi]

Thanks for sharing! I'm currently on a Christian dating site and I've emailed a few guys just saying something like "hey, I liked your profile and would like to get to know you better" and I never heard from them again or they wrote me back like once or twice and I never heard from them again. I just don't get it.

Two reasons why I don't like dating sites.

1: Too impersonal

2: Too impersonal

Call me old fashion but I enjoy going out and meeting people face to face. Talking to them in person makes it much harder for them to hide behind a mask or persona that doesn't fit their true self. I know this may seem odd but some of my best friends are people I met randomly at bars and clubs. As a matter of fact, I don't think I have ever met anyone online that I have met in real life save for a friend I met on XBOX live and happened to live in the same state. Odd part is that he we still called each other by our SN instead of our real names. People give us funny faces.

Go out and meet people. Find a meetup.com group if you really want to split the difference. I am sure there is a group about something that interests you. Find one and join up. Then you get the common interest out of the way and can get to know the person easier.

Just remember that fear is self created and so it is also self controlled.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Two reasons why I don't like dating sites.

1: Too impersonal

2: Too impersonal

Call me old fashion but I enjoy going out and meeting people face to face. Talking to them in person makes it much harder for them to hide behind a mask or persona that doesn't fit their true self. I know this may seem odd but some of my best friends are people I met randomly at bars and clubs. As a matter of fact, I don't think I have ever met anyone online that I have met in real life save for a friend I met on XBOX live and happened to live in the same state. Odd part is that he we still called each other by our SN instead of our real names. People give us funny faces.

Go out and meet people. Find a meetup.com group if you really want to split the difference. I am sure there is a group about something that interests you. Find one and join up. Then you get the common interest out of the way and can get to know the person easier.

Just remember that fear is self created and so it is also self controlled.

I agree totally! I live in a small town however and seriously there's nowhere to go to meet people. That's why I've resorted to online dating.

 

[Jerimi]

I agree totally! I live in a small town however and seriously there's nowhere to go to meet people. That's why I've resorted to online dating.

Hmmm. I see. Well then there is only one other option.


Road trip.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Hmmm. I see. Well then there is only one other option.


Road trip.

Seriously, because there's nobody in my town for sure.

 

[Jerimi]

So let's go through a quick check list.

Put an 'X' by everything that you have on this list

[]Car
[]Crazy Friend
[]$200 in Cash
[]Sense of basic cardinal directions
[]Road leaving town in any direction
[]Sense of adventure
[]Serendipitous faith

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

So let's go through a quick check list.

Put an 'X' by everything that you have on this list

[]Car
[]Crazy Friend
[]$200 in Cash
[]Sense of basic cardinal directions
[]Road leaving town in any direction
[]Sense of adventure
[]Serendipitous faith

LoL! Sadly I have everything but the two main things! Cash and a reliable set of wheels!

 

[Jerimi]

Start walking. Road trip Old School style

 

[crishmael]

Flattered as long as she didn't mean it in an "I'm gonna dissect you" kind of way. But I suppose the pouch of medical tools would pretty much give that away.

 

[KingCrimson250]

Depends on who the girl is. With some girls it's genuine, with other girls it means she's painted a target on you, which always makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. When you're meeting a girl for the first time, there's generally no way to tell so I'd generally just roll with it, unless she doesn't feel genuine.

 

[WileyCoyote]

Guys, if a girl said this to you would you find it flattering or would you run in the other direction?

Depends on the girl.

 

[Inkachu]

I had a guy tell me lastnight that he could fall in love with me. This dude doesn't know diddley-squat about me, other than the very basic basics. In a case like this, that sort of comment is an instant "HECK NO" in my mind.

 

[Jerimi]

Wise men say, only fools rush in....

Ok so I won't finish that... but you get the point music fans.