i think i did something dumb

[gordonshumway]

hey this is my first post here - i just figured it would good for me to ask other christians this question

the other night i was with my girlfriend of about 5 months, we were just sitting there and then i just blurted out that i love her for the first time, i have no idea where it came from- i mean i've felt this way for awhile but i think that that shouldn't be said very early - anyways all she had to say was "awww" and then "really?" i don't think she was very happy that i said that - we havn't had many problems in our relationship so far but i'm afraid that i may have just started a big one, but she says that there is nothing wrong, but i'm not real sure what's goin on, i think i screwed up big time

if you have any advice i would very much appreciate it

 

[LN]

you didn't do anything dumb.

sometimes people come to loving somone before the other does. there is nothing wrong with that.

my husband told me he loved me and a few months afterwards I felt as though I could respond back. We have a great relationshiop.

 

[Lecarde]

I said it a week after my girlfriend and I got together. Theres nothing wrong with saying it as long as its true.

 

[msjones21]

Perhaps she comes from a family that doesn't tell one another "I love you". She may have a difficult time reciprocating the emotion. If she didn't act appalled and she says there's nothing wrong then you probably didn't upset her by saying it. Besides, love is a gamble. You take risks. You stepped out on a limb and said "I love you". The fact that she didn't say "I love you too" doesn't mean she doesn't feel the same way. Give her time and don't make a big issue about it. Don't pester her and ask her if she feels you did the wrong thing. Just give her some "breathing room" on using the "L" word back and see what happens. Whatever you do, don't stop saying it just because she doesn't respond the way you feel she should. If you truly love her then let her see your example and eventually she may be able to ease into saying it back. But for now just keep up the good work and see what she does. Good luck.

 

[DaveKerwin]

it may tell you her side of the relationship.

If I was you, I would as her if she does nto feel comfortable with the exchange of such strong words. If she does not, then you can respect that. I did not tell my fiancee that I loved her until I proposed, so it really depends. I would not say you made a dumb move, you were only being honest. I felt love for my fiancee before I told her, LONG before I told her. Just have a talk with your girlfriend about it, and set up some boundaries.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Dude, no matter what happens or how things go, you didn't do anything wrong.

If anything I admire you for having the guts to let it out. If you think it made things weird, talk about it. That's the key is to talk about things, being honest when you do, and keeping your cool through all of it.

 

[SirKenin]

Hai, you had the guts to stand up and speak your mind. Good for you. You didn't do anything wrong. She probably didn't know how to respond. Give her time.

She didn't smack you did she? Run out the door leaving a river of tears behind her, never to contact you again? You did fine.

Send her some flowers. Carnations aren't overdoing it.. Her favorite colors, or yellow if you're not sure.

 

[Warrior Poet]

I think thats the way to go.....sometimes people plan it out look for the right time an moment they try and make it perfect IMO that takes away from it all. To blurt it out when you meant to say..."you are soo cool".... I think if anything you did it the most admirable and genuine way you could......without thinking about it.

Warrior Poet

 

[Mrs K 2004]

I admire you for putting your feelings out there Telling her how you feel may have scared her initially; especially if she's not from an open family!

I wish you the best of luck with her