I scare people

[Jesse12]

I have Tourette syndrome, strong case of OCD, phobias, anxiety attacks and some autism.
My obsessions get real bad at times. I'm a single man. I have had only one girlfriend(she used me though) in my 36 years.
When I meet a girl who I think is pretty, I scare the heck out of them. I don't mean to, but something about me really scares them.
Friends tell me I act to excited. Half the time I don't know how I come across.
I have had girls file reports against me numerous times, on various jobs and I have been kicked out of stores and told to never come back.
I know it's wrong and I pray, but I struggle with hatred towards some types of woman. I feel they are heartless, and only know how to get freaked out and complain about me. I have come to understand through friends observations certain pointers of where I go wrong. I'm working on it and trying to fix it.
Right now I'm having this urge to hate woman(the diva type). I don't want to go there, but all this stuff adds up. I don't have the urge to hate all woman, but the good-looking diva type I feel anger towards.
Pray for me. I just went through another comjplaint this week.
I HAVE NEVER SEXUALLY HARRASSED ANYONE! I HAVE NEVER EVEN TALKED ABOUT SEX WITH GIRLS! OR EVEN WANTED IT.
Yet I have seen guys sexually harrass woman, and the woman approve and play along with them.
Everywhere I go I scare woman. Even if they don't complain or say anything, I can see it in their eyes. There is an intimidation factor.
My presense makes girls feel uncomfortable.
I live in South California, I have visited other states and countries. No where on earth have I seen more stuck up, arrogant, woman, than in South California. I don't intend to flame, not all socal woman are like this. AGAIN I DON"T MEAN ALL WOMAN IN SOCAL

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

Anger will never profit you man, I know things are tuff but you can not turn to hatred and anger, these emotions do not offer peace or comfort and they are the complete opposite of Jesus. I have a hard time talking to women too, but you just got to keep it cool man, girls don't like to be made to feel nervous around guys, its a natural reaction for them to run when they feel nervous. Also if you aren't already you should get involved in church, girls there will not be so stuck up and self absorbed as some may be in California. Also maybe you could get in a church singles group. God bless you. SoS

 

[Jesse12]

Anger will never profit you man, I know things are tuff but you can not turn to hatred and anger, these emotions do not offer peace or comfort and they are the complete opposite of Jesus. I have a hard time talking to women too, but you just got to keep it cool man, girls don't like to be made to feel nervous around guys, its a natural reaction for them to run when they feel nervous. Also if you aren't already you should get involved in church, girls there will not be so stuck up and self absorbed as some may be in California. Also maybe you could get in a church singles group. God bless you. SoS

20 years ago I was involved in a church singles group. I talked to a girl who was in the church qouir(forgive me for butchering that word) a few times, she seemed nice. I never tried to hit on her or anything.
One day, when talking with her about everyday stuff she burst out crying.
She was bawling. The youth pastor confronted me and accused me of harassing those girls(though I only talked to that one).
I was devastated! I had no idea what I have done. I just wanted to go to church and worship God.
To this day, I am perplexed, at why she accused me of harassment.
I was very hurt by this. I have found it's even worse in the church.
I'm scarred to talk to christian girls. I used to think God's people where loving and accepting, I learned the hard truth that day.
In fact, just last week it was a Christian who threatened to report me, then added , God Bless You at the end of her email.
She then had a guy call me and make a personal threat against me. I thought he wanted to kill me.
Unfortunaltely, I have found Christian woman to be more hateful and untolerant towards me.
There are some Christians who really shine, and are my best friends. They have the love of Christ. I wish all Christians where like that.

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

What is it that these girls accuse you of? If you don't mind me asking. Do you think it may be something that you do, that you don't remember doing?

 

[Jesse12]

They say I scare them. I might not know how I come across to people.
friends have giving me pointers.
For example, when I see a pretty girl I say hi, and wave, with a big cheser cat grin.
When I introduce myself to woman, I get excited and talk fast. They might mistake me for being a pervert. People read to much into things in California.
In Texas, or Israel the people are more innocent.

 

[Jesse12]

The Christians on this site seem nice. That's why I like to come here

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

Please do not take this the wrong way or anything as that I am trying to come down on you or something (only trying to help), but if I may, I would say that maybe you are coming on a little too strong, just because you see a pretty girl, that does not mean you have to go and talk to them, you can't be sure of there current mental state or where there at in life at that time you come and talk to them, they may not want to be bothered by anyone.

That's not to say that some women are not stuck up, they are, actually a lot of people, men included are stuck up, self-centeredness is a sinful and depressing state, they should be pitied and prayed for, don't let it get too you man, you live in the most materialistic place in the world and also one of the most sinful (coincidence?) they care nothing for God or for there fellow man and they need to be saved like all of us.

But if I can offer any advice to you it would be to respect the space of people, they may not be so excited to meet someone new as you are. Maybe you could try to let the girl talk first and you listen for a change, ask the Lord for peace and that he calms your mind so that you don't get so excited and that He would teach you to use this energy you have to be a blessing to others, God bless bro.

 

[justpassingthrough21]

nicely said soldier

 

[shelovesChrist]

God has someone for you . the more you get rejected, the closer youare to finding her. don't give up. and ask Him to help you heal from the past so when she comes you can focus on loving her

 

[shelovesChrist]

ask Him to help you forgive those who have hurt you. so when she comes you can focus on the future, and leave the past in the rearview.