I really want some christian opinions on this...

[Mysterious_soul]

Sorry if this is in the wrong board.

I'm just wondering, are sex dreams ok? I mean ok as in "right in God's eyes". I heard of it being a natural thing but I'm unsure. So I'd like some opinions from a christian view.

Thanks!

 

[wayfaring man]

Hey mysterious ,

What we dream about is usually tied to what we think about while we're awake .

So a dream about sex , in that sense would be an extension of our preoccupation with sexual fantasy .

And in such case one should be on guard , for those fantasies not only can easily be wrong in themself , they often lead to sinful acts .

Because lust isn't satisfied with moderate behavior , that's why they call it lust .

If you are referring to what is called " a wet dream " , one that was not consciously induced from spending our waking hours indulging lust provoking fantasies ; then it may still be sin , but it's our flesh sinning , not our mind and spirit . As I believe the Apostle Paul may well have been referring to , at least in part , when he wrote :

Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. <-----> Romans 7:17

For who is our " I " ? Is my body my " I " ? Am " I " my body ?

No , we are a bit of God's Spirit in a body , which makes us a soul .

Our soul is our individuality as one created to be in God's image .

That is our " I " .

So , sex dreams which we do not assist in the having , should not be defiling to the conscience , as would sexual fantasy which we pursued or failed to resist while awake . But they still evidence the selfish / sinfulness of our flesh , only not in a condemning way to our soul .

I hope you can understand what I'm referring to here .

Peace In The Beloved .

wm

 

[bliz]

Can you control what you dream about? I have met some peolpe who claim that they are able to do so, but I have never had any sucess. Do you think that God is going to hold you accountable for something you have no control over?

Further, sex dreams do not necessarily have anything to do with sex or desire for sex. For example, a friend of mine was bothered by a whole series of homoerotic dreams. Very distrubing. But when she mentioned it to a therapist she was seeing after the death of her mother, she learned that such dreams are quite common after the death of the same sex parent. She did not have any sexual interest in her mother, but the intensity of her loss and pain were delt with in dreams that were intense.

I suggest that you not worry about it.

 

[livin4thebigman]

Wow....well first off, I'd have to say that I'd pretty much disagree with wm in almost all that he stated. (My time is limited right now so I do not have the time to go in depth.)

You cannot control your dreams and therefore cannot be held liable for them. However, if you are constantly having pornographic dreams and are involved with pornography, then I would imagine it's safe to say that you are helping to steer your dreams to contain more sexual content.

It's true, we do dream about what happens in our daily lives. If this dream was a once and done thing, I wouldn't worry about it. If it is consistent, then I would encourage you to take a look at your life and see if you're constantly feeding yourself sexual content.

Good luck

-Matt

 

[needhislove]

I have read that sexual dreams are often not about sex at all, but about feelings of closeness toward another person. Since sex is one of the most intimate things we can share with another person, it seems perfectly sensible to me that that theory could be true. I also don't think you could be held accountable for your dreams, since you can't really control them,but I would say be careful what it makes you think about when you wake up. If you need to pray to get the thoughts out of your head upon waking, get to it. If it's about somebody that you know, it could just mean that you are feeling close to them in a nonsexual way. Just my thoughts.

God Bless

 

[jay1_z]

well first off, I'd have to say that I'd pretty much disagree with wm in almost all that he stated.

What u posted wasn't too far off from what WM was saying. I for one agree with him. I do believe that our dreams reflect what is going on in our daily lives.

I suggest that you not worry about it.

I think that it is something that you should pay close attention to.

I do agree with bliz, on one point. Not everything that we experience in our dreams have the same meaning in real life. My sister's pastor's wife has the gift of dream interpretation. I was told, for example, that when you are in bed with someone (not sexually) it means that you have, or can have, a spiritually intimate relationship with that person.

Mysterious_soul, my suggestion to you (if it means anything) is to ask God what to do to stop these dreams, because He, and maybe you, are the only ones that will know what is causing them.

God Bless!

 

[D-Lisch]

Well, since you can't really control what you dream about... then I guess I'd say that it's alright... unless you're fantasizing before you go to sleep, then I'd say it's a carry over of your consciouss thoughts... but that's just me.

 

[TheMainException]

If you can't control them, I guess that it is probably not your fault...as long as these sex dreams aren't controllable, then it's not really you who is putting them together, but I would pray sincerely that they would be taken from you so that if it is a sin, you wouldn't be having to deal with it anymore.

 

[Johnnz]

Most often sexual dreams, which for guys can result in sexual release (wet dreams) are pretty normal, provided the person is not obssessively into sexual material.

For most guys the 'wet dream' phenomenon stops when they have a regular sexual relationship.

John
NZ

 

[Mysterious_soul]

Thanks for the responses you guys! I think I'm understanding what you guys are saying. Basicly it's ok...as long is it isn't out of my own fantasy?

 

[Samuel0310]

Personally, I somewhat agree with D-Lisch; our conscious and subconsious thoughts/longings during the day will somewhat affects the kind of dreams we have at night. I'm no expert in dream interpretation or dream control, but like the bible says, we just need to do our best in capturing our thoughts and make it obedient to Christ, even the smallest thought...for fire starts from the tiniest sparks...