I thought my problem was undercontrol for a while until today. Today I lost control. I already see a therapist and a psychiatrist, but I think I need more help. My parents have known about my problem in the past, but think its completely eliminated now. What should I do? Should I tell them so i can get help? I'm afraid 2 because they might send me away again.
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It's okay, everyone has setbacks. You can do this. If you think your parents would be sympathetic then tell them, i think you know best on this. Could you bring things up with your therapist and psychiatrist? I know that when i had a therapist i was scared to talk openly, but it's a good idea to be honest about your feelings. If the help you're getting now isn't working for you, i'd bring it up at your next appointment and see if things could be done at all differently.
Hope it all goes alright, someone else will probably pop along with better advice than me. Take care xx
Hope it all goes alright, someone else will probably pop along with better advice than me. Take care xx
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Wow...man...I always find it rough when parents send their kids away for help...it rubs me the wrong way a lot of times. Why did they send you away? Do you know? Have you talked to your counselor about how to or whether to approach your parents about the issue?
Don't kick yourself for slipping up...if you do that, you'll just keep on feeling rotten, and there's never a need for that. I used to beat myself up so bad when I would make mistakes, do something dumb, whatever...and then I'd be down and out for the whole day...and it just wasn't worth it. I've learned to just ease through the crap I do and learn from it without the miserable after party in my head.
And it doesn't hurt to say this: Everybody slips up. We are HUMAN. If we're perfect, it's because we're dead. The only perfect people on earth...are...well...not. No one's perfect and we are only perfected once we leave this world. But lean on God and keep going, it gets easier and the time between slipups will keep increasing until you don't slip up in this area ever again. You'll still struggle with the desire occassionally, but we all do with many things. It's natural and okay and you can get through it.
Don't kick yourself for slipping up...if you do that, you'll just keep on feeling rotten, and there's never a need for that. I used to beat myself up so bad when I would make mistakes, do something dumb, whatever...and then I'd be down and out for the whole day...and it just wasn't worth it. I've learned to just ease through the crap I do and learn from it without the miserable after party in my head.
And it doesn't hurt to say this: Everybody slips up. We are HUMAN. If we're perfect, it's because we're dead. The only perfect people on earth...are...well...not. No one's perfect and we are only perfected once we leave this world. But lean on God and keep going, it gets easier and the time between slipups will keep increasing until you don't slip up in this area ever again. You'll still struggle with the desire occassionally, but we all do with many things. It's natural and okay and you can get through it.
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How long has it been since you last cut? Were the cuts deep? When you say that your parents sent you away, what do you mean? Were you admitted to a hospital?
It's difficult to answer your question without those specific details. First of all you need to know that healing is a process, not a destination. Don't beat yourself up over this re-occurence. Unwarrented guilt leads to duress and it's the duress that usually leads to SI so it becomes a vicious circle. You did the best you could with what you had available and what you knew at the time. Remember, you're a child of God and He has a special place in His heart for the broken.
Now if you have specific plans to injure yourself again and you don't feel strong enough to fight it, by all means put aside your fears and tell someone so you can get some help. It's just not practical to try to fight this alone. You need support. Hey, I've been hospitalized several times for this very reason and while it's no fun, sometimes we need the extra care and support that you just can't get from an hour's session at the therapist.
God bless you. My prayers are with you bud!
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Crimson,
Relapse is a part of recovery. Its expected for any addiction. You've admitted you have a problem, and not to go "12 step" on you, but really that's the first step to finding a solution. The next thing you need to do is to understand that self-injury is an addiction like drugs and alcohol. You become powerless over it after a while.
A lot of times, parents don't fully understand what self-injury is. It's a coping-mechanism, and although it's an unhealthy one, it does help the person doing it. In most situations parents go about the problem in unconvenient, drastic ways. For example, when my parents found out, the first thing they did was take me to the emergency room. The physician that treated me said that there wasn't anything he could do but bandage my cuts and make them heal properly. My parents weren't satisfied with this answer, in fact, they were pretty fuming.
You need to have a nice sit down conversation with your parents. You're 17 years old, and you're close to becomming an adult. Explain to them that you realize you need help with the situation you're in and that you have discovered you have no control over it; but you don't think that it'll be in YOUR best intrest if they send you away again.
God bless, you're in my prayers.
Take Care and STAY SAFE!
-Amanda
Relapse is a part of recovery. Its expected for any addiction. You've admitted you have a problem, and not to go "12 step" on you, but really that's the first step to finding a solution. The next thing you need to do is to understand that self-injury is an addiction like drugs and alcohol. You become powerless over it after a while.
A lot of times, parents don't fully understand what self-injury is. It's a coping-mechanism, and although it's an unhealthy one, it does help the person doing it. In most situations parents go about the problem in unconvenient, drastic ways. For example, when my parents found out, the first thing they did was take me to the emergency room. The physician that treated me said that there wasn't anything he could do but bandage my cuts and make them heal properly. My parents weren't satisfied with this answer, in fact, they were pretty fuming.
You need to have a nice sit down conversation with your parents. You're 17 years old, and you're close to becomming an adult. Explain to them that you realize you need help with the situation you're in and that you have discovered you have no control over it; but you don't think that it'll be in YOUR best intrest if they send you away again.
God bless, you're in my prayers.
Take Care and STAY SAFE!
-Amanda
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