Please forgive me, I am not sure where this would go, so I put it here.
I am in need of some suggestions for this Christmas and how to handle a situation. I thought maybe someone could help me.
I come from a small family. My husband and I host the family Christmas on Christmas Eve. I am an only child, so there are just my aunt, uncle, mom, dad and my husband, myself and 2 kids.
My cousin (who was also an only child and 6 yrs older than me) passed away last Feb 25th. Of course he and his wife were always here for Christmas also. His wife recently moved across the country with her boyfriend, so she will not be here. Anyhow, my aunt is having a particularly bad time still over my cousin's passing. I know she is going to have a hard time this year at the holidays. I would like to do something special to memorialize my cousin. The thing is, I don't know what.
I don't want to upset my aunt anymore than she is already going to be upset, but I also fear that if we don't say anything, it will also upset her (esp. with his wife having gotten involved in a new relationship just 6 wks after his passing and then her moving), I don't want her to feel like my cousin has been forgotten.
My question is this.... what are some ideas on something we could do to remember him at our family gathering? We don't want some big ceremonial thing, just something to say we remember and we miss him.
I thank you in advance for your ideas.
Thanks!!!!
I am in need of some suggestions for this Christmas and how to handle a situation. I thought maybe someone could help me.
I come from a small family. My husband and I host the family Christmas on Christmas Eve. I am an only child, so there are just my aunt, uncle, mom, dad and my husband, myself and 2 kids.
My cousin (who was also an only child and 6 yrs older than me) passed away last Feb 25th. Of course he and his wife were always here for Christmas also. His wife recently moved across the country with her boyfriend, so she will not be here. Anyhow, my aunt is having a particularly bad time still over my cousin's passing. I know she is going to have a hard time this year at the holidays. I would like to do something special to memorialize my cousin. The thing is, I don't know what.
I don't want to upset my aunt anymore than she is already going to be upset, but I also fear that if we don't say anything, it will also upset her (esp. with his wife having gotten involved in a new relationship just 6 wks after his passing and then her moving), I don't want her to feel like my cousin has been forgotten.
My question is this.... what are some ideas on something we could do to remember him at our family gathering? We don't want some big ceremonial thing, just something to say we remember and we miss him.
I thank you in advance for your ideas.
Thanks!!!!
