Now by forgiving him I don't mean "forgetting" and I don't mean getting back together with him either. You don't need to talk to him again to forgive him. But forgiving him is letting go of the anger in your heart associated with what he did. Carrying around your anger is going to hurt you more then it hurts him in the long run. So letting go of it is the best thing for you.
I know that. It is really hard though. I have my moments where I feel really good about things and then I feel a lot of anger and as if my heart literally hurts. I feel I have made pretty good decisions but I have my moments like telling all of my friends what happened and then feeling bad because I think...what if he really is trying to change and get closer to God? That shouldn't hang over his head if he is. But then I get that anger and wonder why it should bother me because he made his decisions and this isn't the first time that he's lied to me about other women. People tell me not to lie for him but I have bouts of guilt about it and I feel immature for how I handle it in those times...
It is also hard because he really was the "nice guy" and nobody would ever have expected this out of him. He wasn't always like this. I don't know. It messes with my head. I also feel guilty for announcing it because I don't want my friends who don't go to Church to think that's how most Church people are. They already think it is weird that I started going in the first place although they respect it.
He was my best friend. We had good times and minus this cheating thing(That's a big thing. I am aware I cannot go back after that) he was a great boyfriend by all standards. He wants to be friends eventually and I am confused on how I feel about that. I also miss his family they were already like in laws and they considered me a daughter in law without the ring haha they miss me too. He just created one big mess with a moment of weakness...
P.S. What is your opinion on staying friends with the ex's mother and sister? He says it doesn't bother him, but what his opinion aside. Is it smart?
That sounds like a pretty good answer.Thats a hard one, its really difficult because contact with them is going to indirectly lead to contact with him. But at the same time they have been supportive of you and havn't done anything to you.
Its hard for me to answer that. I would say if you are going to do that you should try to keep some amount of distance between you and them. At least intially speaking. Like you might want to keep in touch with them via E-mail or phone, but I wouldn't be running out and hanging out with his sister right away.
Could I also suggest letting his pastor and the leader of the praise and worship team know, because that kind of hypocrisy shouldn't be allowed in any setting.
all said and done he's a good guy that got himself in a bad place. Crazy for me to say that, I know. I shocked myself.
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