I need some advice please.

[maidenoftruth]

I have just got married and we have been married for a week now. I have been a little ill and have been unable to sleep and a collapsed last night my husband must have carried me to bed. I have just woken up to find that he has slept in the spare room. I have been going to bed but not sleeping he has slept in the spare room now for three days and I am worried that I have done something wrong. I also recenntly discoverd that he had had a taxi waiting outside the church on our wedding day he said that it was because he was nervous but now I'm really worried. What should I do?

 

[Johnnz]

Some real talking with him seems in order.

John
NZ

 

[madison1101]

Talk to him and find out what is going on.

 

[UnitynLove]

Talk to him

 

[saraharms1]

Talk to him. You guys are married now. Communitcation is one of the most important things in a marrige.

 

[If Not For Grace]

If you collapsed and your husband has not said anything to you, (like asked you what happened) it is not likely he is up for real communication. How old is he? Did he demonstrate maturity prior to marriage? Is he a christian? What is it you want from marriage?

Answer these questions for yourself, then ask yourself what you do next. In the meantime pray and seek God's Will, and we will pray for you.

 

[maidenoftruth]

I misunderstood I collapsed due to lack of sleep I hadn't slept in 6 days. And he hadn't slept next to me because of the fact that I had a virus. I have akos taken all of your advice and I have talked to him and he was really nervous and the taxi was there becaus ehe thought I wasn't going to turn up. Thank you alll very much for your advice and God bless you for trying to help me in my time of need!

 

[If Not For Grace]

Something seems amiss---here

 

[mom_one]

hummmmmm ?

 

[vespasia]

You are only just married. No matter how much prepearation you thought you had done the reality can still come as a horrific shock.
The best thing to do is leave the doors of communication wide open and take things at the speed you both need to go.

Not all married couples share a bed to sleep in because their sleep patterns differ so much. Lack of sleep eventually messes up peoples heads and makes them behave badly so sleeping apart when exhausted for a decent nights sleep is not so strange.

Your flag says your in the UK. If you have other concerns as you get to know each other as husband and wife have a look at the RELATE (note it IS a secular website) as this discusses common problems OR you can also contact Care for the Family they offer a huge range of resources