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I'm not sure if this is the right place, or if I even belong here. If not I am sorry for wasting your time reading this, but I am very serious. I need help.


Growing up, i've always had a bit of a rocky relationship with God. I grew up in a family where my extended family on one side of the family were very religious, but the other side wasn't and my immediate family never really said much about him. Ive been to church a few times when I was 11-12, but we could never find a church that worked for us.

Anyways, the older I get, the more I begin to question things like religion. Ive always believed in gaurdien angels, and have always believed that there was someone, like god out there...Basically I have found myself, wanting to find a relationship with him...
However, I'm scared.. I have/am doing some things that are defiantly sins. thinga most people would look down upon.
I don't enjoy it, in fact i'm only doing out of necessity. I ask that you please, don't judge.. or if you do at least keep it yourselves.

I was going to lose my place, we were on the verge of being homeless, I couldn't get a loan from anyone, any company and I couldn't get enough hours at work to avoid the eviction notice. I only had 5 days to come up with the money so I ended up escorting myself out. I'm not on drugs, I don't drink in excess... I am a normal girl who just needed to get by. I have a ton of debt that I cant seem to make myself get out of.
When I paid my rent I told myself I was going to stop... but when I saw how much I could make in a short amount of time, without dealing with a boss. I told myself that I would keep on just until I got out of debt.
I work a parttime job, but It doesnt pay my bills.. I got my boyfriend out of a really bad situation to where he got evicted because of his roommates, so he was homeless by putting myself in a ridicolous amount of debt. I ended up getting multiple payday loans on small paycheques to feed, and keep clothes on his back and gas money.
Anyways thats neither here nor there.

I could easily find another job, sure. I actually had a dream of going to school but I can't even get a loan for that right now. I have to deal with a family thing and need to actually take a month and a half off for that. my current job is allowing me to do that without pay which is great..

Anyways, i want to finally have a relationship with him.

I need prayer to make it through this month. Some of my past debt, took my entire paycheque out of my account and I can't pay my bills.. but of course, the bank or the company doesn't really care. I cant even renew my license until I pay back what I owe the car insurance company, so it's really put a damper on 'business'. Maybe I should look at it like a blessing, like i'm not supposed to do this. I know i'm not supposed to do this. I dont want to do this. I hate this. I can barely handle meeting someone new, I have to force myself into working because I am so scared if something happens.

Sorry if this is really jumbled. I can't seem to put thoughts together when i'm upset.

I just want help through this hard time, but I don't know if god will listen to a lost soul like me.

I want to find peace with myself, I need to find a way out of this all..

please,

thank you for reading,
 

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In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Glory to thee, our God, glory to thee.

O heavenly King, O Comforter, the Spirit of truth, who art in all places and fillest all things; Treasury of good things and Giver of life: Come and dwell in us and cleanse us from every stain, and save our souls, O gracious Lord.

Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal: have mercy on us. (Thrice)

Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit: now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.

All-holy Trinity, have mercy on us. Lord, cleanse us from our sins. Master, pardon our iniquities. Holy God, visit and heal our infirmities for thy Name's sake.

Lord, have mercy. (Thrice)

Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit: now and ever, and unto ages of ages. Amen.

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy Name; thy kingdom come; thy will be done on earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Through the prayers of our holy Fathers, Lord Jesus Christ our God, have mercy on us and save us. Amen.

Easter Lent (Eastern Orthodox) - Open To Me The Doors Of Repentance - YouTube
 
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I think that you need to see a debt counsellor, why on earth did you get in more debt to help your boyfriend that is not realistic to you or him, you were looking for the easy ways out and there are none. You just have to buckle down and chose how you want to live, responsibly or minute by minute not giving a thought to tomorrow as that is how you seem to be living your life right now.
You must be young as a mother to a young woman I urge you to face your responsibilities, this escorting can you face getting beat up or getting hooked on drugs as that is usually where that lifestyle leads. You really should have gone to a used clothes place for your boyfriend and limited yourself to how much you could spare, it sounds as it you just splashed out. God may help you with money but more likely he will not as you have lessons to learn.
 
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lostangelwings,

Let me start by saying, I truly believe you are moving in the right direction. Why do I believe that?
1. You are asking the right things, and looking for answers in the right place.
2. This is the 3rd time I have tried to post something to you and the first 2 times simply vanished. No sign of them anywhere. You, and I are fighting in the age old battle of soul warfare.

I have been trying to reach you for over an hour, I don't know if it will work this time, but I feel it is very important to send you these ideas.

Here is what I think you should do to start with.

Pray. Nothing fancy, no secret words. Only one phrase at the end. "In Jesus' name, Amen" This part is important. Jesus is the bridge between God and us. Without him, you are relying on your own deeds to earn God's ear, so to speak. None of us can do that. Only Jesus lived a perfect life, so He's the one we need.

Pray to God. Talk to God. Tell Him everything. Let Him know you need Him, let Him know the things you have done. Tell Him your desires, your fears, your needs, your need nots. Open up to Him, and you will start healing your soul.

Read the bible. Don't rely on someone else's ideas and opinions, make your own. Get it online, or find it at a church. The NIV (New International Version) is pretty easy to read. You wouln't feel like your reading a language 800 years old.

Financially, look up Dave Ramsey. He has a lot of good ideas and suggestions for getting out of debt. He does have a lot of things for sale on his web site, but find his radio show first and tune in. Maybe even try to call his show and tell him your situation. He may even give you a copy of a book, or enroll you in a Money Makover class.

Don't get discouraged. If things are getting tougher, it's because you are trying to change. Change is hard, and turning from sin can be dificult. Don't be surprised if old temptations come back around once you start building your relationship with God. God is real. So is Satan. They both want you, only Satan doesn't play fair.

If you are having troubles, find a church. Keep looking if you don't feel comfortable. But don't expect angels to sing when you walk through the doors. We are still on earth. The angels come later. There is no perfect church, but many of them can help you out. Don't get discouraged, come back here as often as you like.

I am not sure this place constitutes a church, but we are here for you. I love you, and want to see you happy. I may not be in your local church, but as far as website churches, I am your brother who loves you. Notice how I used "love" a couple of times? Love is pretty important to God. It's the greatest gift he gives. If you find yourself in a church without abounding love, you may be in a church without God.

Be strong, pray, read, love. Tell me, and the rest of us what you are going through. We are here for you.

RCF
 
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I don't know if you have looked at this since your first post, but I know you will. And when you do, please know that we are still here thinking about you and your situation. You are still in our prayers, and you are still going to make it.

You will find your angel wings again. They may not be like they were when you lost them, but they will fit just right when they are back in place.

RCF
 
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Lord, have mercy!

I would suggest contacting a Christian charitable group for help. Do not be ashamed, they are there to help you & offer the Gospel if you want it. A group like the Salvation Army for ex.
 
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Bless yer heart. Praying dear one for God to intervene and minister as only He can, and for Him to make a way when it appears there is no way. Father may it be so, in the name of Jesus, amen.
 
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