i need help.....

[ryo88]

I've started cutting a couple of days ago and i can't stop now. I want to tell my youth pastor, but I'm scared and i don't want my parents finding out at all. please help

 

[tams67]

If you can't talk to your parents PLEASE go to your youth pastor. Don't keep this to yourself. This is something you don't need to mess with. Meanwhile I am praying for you and what ever is causing you to cut. God bless you.

 

[livingforGod135]

u need to talk 2 someone... its not nice keeping this secret to urself, and the longer u keep it the harder it is to tell

 

[Heldinhishands]

Hi Ryo, I just want to reiterate what all the others have said. Im so sorry you are struggling so hard with life at the moment. *hugs* You must be going through something really difficult. But please please try to talk to your youth pastor, or an adult that you trust. Its gonna be difficult, but as has been previously said, it gets sooo much harder to speak to someone the longer it has gone on. and you really want to break this cycle before you get too deep into it to be able to stop. Its not gonna be easy to give up maybe even now but it gets sooo much harder as cutting becomes a way of life. thre are better coping mechanisms and talking to soeone who can help you share the burden of what you are going through will really help make your battle a little easier.

I wanted to share this video from youtube with you. I cant post links yet but if you search "lf-injury: One Thing Leads To The Next" on youtube you will find it. It talks about the cycle of self-injry and how it progresses to take control of your life.. well worth a wathc and it may help remind you why you really want to break the pattern before you get too deep, and help give you the courage to talk to someone.

Im gonna pray for you. You can do it. Please keep us informed of what happens and how we may better pray for you. all the best

 

[brokenwings27]

hey ryo.
i know exactly where you are coming from
when i started cutting i couldnt stop
it was an instant addiction
and first and foremost i never ever wanted my parents to find out, so i was seriously deathly afraid to tell anybody
and the truth is.. 7 months later.. i still havent told anyone.. and honestly its really hard to live with it.
currently i havent cut in over 9 weeks, but its not to say that strong urges wont come again, because in those 9 weeks i came as close as you could get to starting over again without actually doing it, more than once... if u can even understand what i just said cuz i dont think i do.... i didnt type that very well

but listen.. i cant even begin to describe how difficult it was to go through those 7 months without being able to talk to someone about it. but i will say that i found people who you can talk to hear about it, and it did help, but actually telling someone in person is probably a thousand times better...
but listen if you ever need to talk, please dont hesitate to pm me. i try to get on here as often as i can, and if you need to email me. if you dont want to.. thats fine
just know that it did help me to talk here..
i hope i have been a help, even though i actually havent told anyone myself.. pm me anytime..

take care.. and im praying for you

 

[HolyOne87]

Definitely talk to your Youth Pastor about it. I am sure he or she will keep the confidentiality and try and help you as best as they can. It's best to get help early, before the SIing gets carried away into more destructive behaviors.

 

[berry2000]

Definitely talk to your Youth Pastor about it. I am sure he or she will keep the confidentiality and try and help you as best as they can. It's best to get help early, before the SIing gets carried away into more destructive behaviors.

Can be a very addictive very hard cycle to break. I've done it for 9 years. I wish i would have told someone soon. As long as you feel your youth paster is a "safe person" and won't overreact I say confide in him but tell him you are not in danger of suicide and you need him to keep your confidence for now until you are ready to take further steps towards healing. Truly there are other issues causing this which can be worked out with good therapy.

 

[katylees]

I;ve been in exactly the same position. Try to relax. Maybe you could write your youth pastor a letter explaining everything? that's what i did, and i was terrified but it went down okay

Remember to take care of yourself, and try to stop before it becomes an addiction.

*hugs*