I need help...what do I do about her?

[SimplyUnique]

Let me tell you about my friend...lets call her Amy...

Amy may seem like a normal girl, but if you get on her badside you might as well leave the room. One day she may seem like the nicest sweetest girl you know, the next day she'll be in your face telling you that if you make her mad she will tear you shreds, and that she can and will beat you up. Sometimes she's a really good friend, she's there for you when you need to cry and let it all out. Other times, if you even just touch her she will dig her nails into your skin, glare, and growl at you. Somedays she doesnt want to be noitced at all...on other days she will pretend that she is about to cut her wrist with siccors. Everyone is nice to her because either A) They feel sorry for her or B) They are afraid if they arent they will experince her anger. Now another thing that is not as important...she was going out with a guy her cared deeply about her, he treated her like a princess and loved her dearly...the whole time HE was doing this SHE was off talking about how much she loved this other guy. I felt really bad for her boyfriend so I told him, he told me he had been thinking about breaking up with her anyways because he had been noticing that to. So...my question is...how do I deal with her? She is getting medical help (I think she has ADHD and Chronic Lying Dissorder) but I want to know how I should deal with her personally...please help me if you can!

 

[SimplyUnique]

anyone?

 

[Bevlina]

I think she is either a chronic attention seeker, or she needs serious medical help Babydoll! There seems to be a big problem there somewhere and whichever way it goes, she is more than fortunate to have you as her friend.
Her pretending to cut herself is a sign of attention seeking in itself. I think her boyfriend is wise to break up with her. And I would suggest she have help.

 

[SimplyUnique]

she does have help, she goes to counciling in germany like every monday or so...but today she was really depressed and the reason why she told me was because she pulled a knife on her little brother and scared the snot out of him. she said she feels so terrible and doesnt even know why she did it.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

There's only so much you can do for her. If she is making you're situation worse... or if she's hurting you to the point where it's getting in the way of your recovery... you may have to cut her off for awhile. I know that souns horrible. And I won't say that it's not going to hurt to have to do so... But if it's getting in the way of your recovery... you have to. It's what's best, hun. Good luck sweetie.

-Jo.

 

[SimplyUnique]

thanks Jo, actually no she was helping me with recovery...she's doing better now though...but pleez pray

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Ok. Well I'm glad to hear that, hunni. I'll definetly be praying. You're loved.

-Jo.

 

[SimplyUnique]

thanks JO! ur the greatest...oh, and i found out that my BF used to SI before he and i went out the first time, then he stopped when we did, then started again when we broke up, then stopped this time again...so i gess thts good in away. he and i have made promises to each other that when he moves away we wont SI

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

thanks JO! ur the greatest...

aww...

oh, and i found out that my BF used to SI before he and i went out the first time, then he stopped when we did, then started again when we broke up, then stopped this time again...so i gess thts good in away. he and i have made promises to each other that when he moves away we wont SI

I really hope you both stick to those promises. You both can do it. Greatest of luck to both of you.

You're loved.

-Jo.

 

[SimplyUnique]

we are both gonna really try. well i know i am, but since he's had it really rough, i dont know how easy it'll be for him....but maybe since he and i will be together it will be easier

 

[TheMainException]

You need to get her help from the school or her (sadly enough...and this may not be the best idea actually) her parents...but she needs help...and it seems to me...that you won't be able to be the one to do it...she needs to see a medical doctor and then a counselor of some sort too.

 

[ArmouredSaint]

had a friend like this and let him go.was destroying my life along with his.for me,I don't hang around other people that SI anymore.I feel to get my own self under control it's best as they promise and commit to non injury but continue to trigger and fail.I'm 2 friends less right now and thats cool with me.hope it all works out.

 

[SimplyUnique]

Like i've said before, she does get help, she goes to councilling like every monday