I need help in this.....

[Lostlamba]

I do not know where to post this, I got sexual abuse in childhood, later did a lot crazy sex in youth time,involved in nightclub people etc, now when i trying so hard to get settle down and i find i can not....
i find i can not love anymore it seems, i can love a little, but most part in me is only sex.
I keep seeking high feelings from sex, even fantasy can satisfy me, and I need this high feelings so much to calm me down.....

and I keep seeking guys younger than me, partly cuz of their energy and sexual i guess, partly cuz i lack a real childhood and teenager times....

and those self masturbation really not good for my mental to progress, and i must have to keep doing masturbation until climax. It actually hurts my health now, cuz i m v weak in health.

Deep down i know i need to find a suitable guy who is loving and spiritual , but once i start to talk to any guys, my feelings r blocked, i can not have normal chat with them.

 

[Lostlamba]

and God knows it is even the way for me to drive away fear, frustration, when i feel desperately lonely of my sickness etc, i also use this method...

but i know it is not real me, i m eaten by this...

 

[tapero]

Hi Lostlamba,

I saw your post and just wanted to remind you that God loves you very much, and is a comfort in our time of need. Try to get involved in a woman's bible study if you aren't already. You need to be washed in love by the love of God; I mean by that your cup of love filled, and by sisters in Christ.

There is a forum here called Struggles with Sexuality, all posts are hidden until approve, but it may be a place of help for you also. It's located here:

http://www.christianforums.com/f389-struggles-with-sexuality.html

God bless you friend, Love, Tapero

 

[rocklife]

it probably is not so good right now to focus on getting married or boyfriend.

it may be best to let God heal you and just spend time with Him. and I hope he is giving you a loving family to help. do you have other christian friends/ family around you?

also continue in bible times, like reading bible, listening to bible tapes, that kind of thing has helped me. also prayers

am praying for you

 

[Johnnz]

It is hard stuggling with your past on your own. Loving support would be so helpful. Counselling could benefit you but you probably don't have the money.

John
NZ

 

[chloeobrien]

huge hugs to you my friend! yes counseling would help, but if you can't do that then find someone who you know cares about you and ask them if they will listen to you and try to help you with your problems. or maybe if you feel like you can elaborate more on here in detail, shoot me a PM or IM or e-mail with all thats goin gon with you, and all that happened to you in the past... and maybe together you and I can work some of this out... don't feel you have to talk to me but I'm here if you need me.

 

[Amin]

Hi,
It almost sounds like you feel responsible in some way for what happened. I hope you know deep in your heart that isn't true.
It seems like you want to keep punishing yourself for something you didn;'t do. I was molested when i was 6, or 7, Even tho iknow it wasn't my fault, and i had no control over the situation. It often makes me feel like a bad person.
I try and remember the fact that i
trusted people with a child like trust, because iwas a child. That can't be a fault. Which means iwas taken advantage of, and so were you.
You're a good person worthy of a saviour that died for you. That should say something. I wish i could take your past away so you could see just how good you are. Think about that for a minute. If it never happened what would i be like??
God loves you and so do i.
Bless you and remember we care for you here, and God wants you to be happy.
Take Care.
Chuck.

 

[BigToe]

People who have experienced frequent sexual abuse can often turn to sex over love. It's what is known and it's the examples we have to live by. Seeing a therapist of some sort can help us understand why we do these things and offer suggestions on how to break unhealthy behaviors and habits.

Try not placing so much importance on being in a relationship right not. It might be easier to heal when you're not wanting a man all the time. Learn to love yourself for who you are. See who it is God wants you to be. Then you can worry about meeting a husband.

It might be worth your while to find a womens support group and talk with other women who have had similar experiences.

 

[LazeyWinde]

*Hugs Lost*
I agree counseling, can help you a lot. If you don't have the money for it you can always try financial aid.
In the meantime pray, be patient and take your time. You aint ready to find your man just yet... after you heal you'll find the right guy for you.

 

[JoyforJESUS]

Friends, you can also go to a pastor or minister, a trusted one, one that also has been trained in counselling. If your own pastor is not someone you would talks to, call around talk to pastors find out if they are able to help.

The pastor at my Chruch is also a trained counsellor. If you don't have money they wont turn you away.
joy