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I need help in dealing with my spouse's faith

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Hey everyone. I could use some help in dealing with my spouse's faith. He is Catholic, like me, but he has doubts about the Catholic Church and sometimes he threatens to leave the Catholic Church when he is angry with me. As for myself, I'm very devout and very hardcore in my beliefs so this bothers me a lot. Could you all please give me some advice?
 

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To clarify: It sounds like you're saying your husband uses the threat to leave the Catholic Church as a weapon against you when he is angry. Is that correct?

If so, that's a messed-up thing for him to do in the marriage, regardless of anybody's theology.
 
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It is hard to give any specific recommendations to you. Other than being a kind and loving spouse and pointing out the positive aspects of the Catholic faith, I guess that just leaves prayer. We are all responsible for our own souls in the final analysis. Yes, most devout members of any faith want their partner to share their faith. This is certainly preferable, but for whatever reason or reasons, such is not always possible. Pray and leave the results to God.
 
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I stayed with my husband who was pretty far from the Faith. I kept in mind 1 Corinthians 7:13-14
If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband.

It's sad when your spouse won't join you in your faith. But, pray for him to grow stronger as a believer. Also pray for strength to continue on in your own faith whether or not you are joined by your spouse. I never could get my husband to grow in the faith (that I could see), but my faith grew very strong despite that.
 
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Show him how great it is to have a personal relationship with God and show your husband that your love for him comes from God. The more he sees how God loves you and takes care of you the more he might be drawn to the faith.

Often times spouses bring their loved one to Christ in prayer. Pray for Him without ceasing and don't force him to be someone he is not but rather let him become envious of your faith life and wants to have that for herself.

My wife was instrumental teaching me the finer things about faith in God. i will always be indebted to her for teaching me what real faith in God was.

It might work like that for you as well. Build your marriage with loving gentleness, showing at all time a deep faith in God and a love for His service, and then there is plenty room for hope.

Peace.
 
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Hey everyone. I could use some help in dealing with my spouse's faith. He is Catholic, like me, but he has doubts about the Catholic Church and sometimes he threatens to leave the Catholic Church when he is angry with me. As for myself, I'm very devout and very hardcore in my beliefs so this bothers me a lot. Could you all please give me some advice?

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Hey everyone. I could use some help in dealing with my spouse's faith. He is Catholic, like me, but he has doubts about the Catholic Church and sometimes he threatens to leave the Catholic Church when he is angry with me. As for myself, I'm very devout and very hardcore in my beliefs so this bothers me a lot. Could you all please give me some advice?

I am hearing this same statement by many. We are over the target and the flak is flying. Ave Maria, when the battle rages go to a private place ( if you can) a sing your favorite song unto the Lord just loud enough so you can hear it. For a gentle answer turns away wrath. Married couples are the strongest warrior in Gods kingdom, that is why the enemy wants to bring in division. I pray, May the Holy Spirit give strength to your soul, in Jesus name. Amen
 
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