I need guidance badly, Christians help :((

[WilsonHunter]

This regards a girl. I lied about something to a girl. I was stupid and thought I would never be in any kind of a serious relationship with her. Well...over time, we did become closer and closer, and eventually we were serious.

We've been together a while now, but it is bothering me to no end that I hadn't been honest with her. Since it started bothering me, I've not been at peace. All I feel is anxiety. I keep wondering if God has forgiven me.

In addition I had been doing bad things for a while, like giving in to lust and reading antisemitic political material which has negatively affected me spiritually.

I want to be free of all negativity.

I want to tell the truth, but doing so could bring serious consequences to my family, who are already going through a hard time.

So what do I do? Am I supposed to confess in order to ever have peace again, or am I supposed to not say anything yet to protect my family?

Help (
I want to be right with God and have his blessing.

 

[Alienated]

Well... I don't know, you haven't given much info. it's your only post. Are you young/ old.
Is it REAL DEAL BREAKER ? Like used to be porn star, or KKK member or something big.

God will forgive anything, but you Have to repent (change your mind) for the reason of your sinning against God, not for selfish reasons like consequences. And confess them to God with true sorrow of disobedience to God, and your disrespect to her.

Ask yourself this... How would you like to be treated ? You weren't respectful of her from the beginning, (Didn't think it would go anywhere). Remember she's somebody's daughter, how would you want your daughter treated by a guy. She's a person too, and if you really think it's going to go further ??? You better tell her, the tricky part is how.. Right?
Put yourself in her shoes, how would you want to be told ? And remember if you haven't figured this out yet..... Girl's are different dude !! You got to learn the most complex thing God ever Created, the girl's feelings !! GROOOWN............

I got a question 1st that bugging me....."giving in to lust and reading antisemitic political material ????" Are those at the same time ? If they are I CAN"T HELP YOU !!! You would need some SERIOUS ATTENTION !!

We all want to be rid of all negativity, that isn't going to happen soon. Ask what your motives are, on that one. And be HONEST !!!! Is it because you don't like how it feels, or the consequences of your decisions, your attitude towards life and your bummed ? My ? is... Is it because of a selfish reason ? Or do you only want to be pleasing to God, so you can be a better servant. That's the only reason God accepts... and will grant. That's why we live in a NEGETIVE world, selfish motives.. You get your motives right with God and He will do miracles in your life. But He's NOT going to help you self serve, NO WAY

START THERE ask for His help getting your motives right, because you said it would bring serious consequences to your family. If that really mattered to you, you wouldn't have done it in the first place. That's self denial to avoid your responsibility, and that's NOT humble, that's pride ! And God HATES the proud heart. God loves TRUTH and sincerity !!

You got 1 real good thing going for you... You want to be right with GOD !!! But don't do it to have His Blessing, (MOTIVES again) Do it because you want to be pleasing to Him. Think about it HE'S GOD !!! If you saw Him it would kill you, from SHOCK !! He is the KING... remember movies about Egyptian Pharos watch how someone approaches him...
They bowed to him and feared him... God just want's your respect, and He demands it !! He loves you, but how do you show your love for him ?? It's that simple... He don't want to hear give me, give me, give me. It's how may I serve you....that's right with God.

So for your answer that's not simple, God's got to do some molding on you. But you got to submit to Him to do it, and that's all up to you. FREE CHOICE !! How bad do you want it ? And it starts with motives. is it about you, or God ?

Go to a topical Bible web site.... And search for Humble, Motive, Reverence for God, God's promises.

Just remember 1 rule.. Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all these things will be added onto you !

I hope that helps.......

 

[Spunkn]

It seems to be eating you up, so I would say until you get the truth out, it's just going to get worse. The longer you go on lying, the worse it's going to bother you and the worse it will get.

In order to move on, you need to start with truth. It's never fun to admit to lying, but at some point you're going to have to deal with it and start being honest with God and others.

 

[If Not For Grace]

When you say harm to your family...I would have to examine that. I belong to a 12-step program called Al-Anon that is a spiritual self help program that puts a goodly amount of emphasis on making amends for wrongs we have done to others-the application of this principle goes as follows:

"Made direct amends to such people whenever possible Except when to do so would injure THEM or OTHERS"

Two wrongs will never make a right. You must weigh "coming clean" at least in detail against this harm you mention. A general confession might be suitable something along the lines of:

"I have sometimes found it difficult to be honest at the onset of new relationships, due to fear I sometimes present ideas/facts in a light that I thought might make me more favorable..looking back I can see I did this when we first meet" from here forward I want you to know I am on a new path and will strive for total honestly in all my relationships, I have asked God for forgiveness and ask you as well"

Just a suggestion, may or may not apply to your situation

 

[Joshua0]

So what do I do? Am I supposed to confess in order to ever have peace again, or am I supposed to not say anything yet to protect my family?

As a general rule you do not confess so you feel better if it is going to hurt others. Perhaps this is something you need to pray about and handle with God's help. He can guide us and lead us in the way of righteousness and show us what we need to know. If you want to feel better then you need the peace of God that surpasses all understanding. That is a work of the Holy Spirit of God in our life. As they say, we enter into His presence through thanksgiving and praise.