I need Godly advice . . .

[C.A.B.L]

Greetings Friends,

Recently I have come upon a situation that is really bothering me. I don't know what to do about so maybe you all could give me some insight or perhaps a new perspective. My sister has been "seeing" this guy for a little over a year now, but she's only been around him for half that time (since he was in Iraq). I don't think she is a christian because she never wants to come to church but my parents force her to. And I don't think he is a christian either. He now lives with us (which I objected to) but my parents decided to allow it till he could find another place to live. Well almost 7 months have gone by, and my parents are wanting to throw him out, but my sister is threatening to leave with him. I love my sister and I want the best for her. He hasn't had a job since he got back from Iraq which was 6 months ago, so my sister has to pay his bills and hers. I try to talk to her about him and she always screams at me and tells me it's none of my business, and my parents and I just don't know what to do. He is wanting to marry her, but my Dad won't allow it until he can prove to him that he can provide for her. I don't know if I should just keep my mouth shut or keep trying to talk to her. I appreciate your advice, and any advice is welcome.

In Christ,
Matt

 

[bornagain-053184]

my suggestion to you hun is hang in there and try to talk to her.. thats what i woudl do,, id also pray to god that he will help her listen to you and understand your side of it..i will pray for you aswell and hope she comes around sounds to me she is just being stubborn.. how old is she?

 

[C.A.B.L]

That's what I thought at first, but I don't know. She's 24

 

[zay]

Hi Matt,

This is a messy situation, I've had a few situations like this in my family as well. I think that you should try to be there for your sister, I think that she's probably feeling a lot of different emotions at once, fear, confusion, as well as other possible things. I'd just talk to her and tell her my concerns, and then after that comfort her by telling her while you're not happy with the situation, you love her as your sister and you'll be there for her. Right now I think she's answering insecurities and emotions from all ends, from your parents, you, this guy, and ultimately herself.

While I know you don't like this one bit, sometimes we really just have to turn it over to God and let it go. When we can see family members heading for trouble, sometimes words won't get through and we have to let it go and give it to God. And pray that He'll get the victory through it all, and that He'll keep those that we love. That's what I've had to do in situations like this, just love them by letting them go, but praying for them at the same time. Even when you don't support what they're doing, continue to love them and support them.

But that's what I would do. I would tell her that while you don't like the situation or its circumstances, you still love her and you respect her, and you'll be there for her through it all. I know that it's hard, but sometimes loving people means letting them go so they can learn on their own; and what ever happens afterwards being there when no one else will. I'm praying for you, her and your family, and I hope that this helps.

zay

 

[Evie]

Greetings Friends,

Recently I have come upon a situation that is really bothering me. I don't know what to do about so maybe you all could give me some insight or perhaps a new perspective. My sister has been "seeing" this guy for a little over a year now, but she's only been around him for half that time (since he was in Iraq). I don't think she is a christian because she never wants to come to church but my parents force her to. And I don't think he is a christian either. He now lives with us (which I objected to) but my parents decided to allow it till he could find another place to live. Well almost 7 months have gone by, and my parents are wanting to throw him out, but my sister is threatening to leave with him. I love my sister and I want the best for her. He hasn't had a job since he got back from Iraq which was 6 months ago, so my sister has to pay his bills and hers. I try to talk to her about him and she always screams at me and tells me it's none of my business, and my parents and I just don't know what to do. He is wanting to marry her, but my Dad won't allow it until he can prove to him that he can provide for her. I don't know if I should just keep my mouth shut or keep trying to talk to her. I appreciate your advice, and any advice is welcome.

In Christ,
Matt

well, sounds to me like she may be not telling you,but maybe she's feeling a bit uncertain these days. I will pray that her eyes would be opened and that she would have a deeper love to go back to church. God can change any situation. Sounds like you're a very caring brother also.

 

[TheMainException]

My brother....I would keep my mouth shut...but subtly let her know that you don't agree. But most importantly...PRAY...That's all I can say...I know nothing else.

 

[traviscatholic12]

This sounds like a very tough situation. I can only tell you what I would do. I would just keep trying to talk to my parents and my sister. I might even try to talk to the boyfriend also. One thing I would do is talk to God. Do alot of praying, the Lord will figure it out.