I really need opinions so thank you so much for reading this. I just turned 25 last month and have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now.
For some quick backstory, in 2012 I became deathly ill for 6 months, in and out of the hospital. My, now ex, broke up with me over this. My current boyfriend (who was a friend during all this) swept in and wanted to be with me. But I was so sick and bound to a wheelchair that he made him wait til I could walk a little on my own, and he patiently waited for me; however, present time now, I relapsed in October returning to the hospital. I once again cannot go out without my wheelchair and even then it's a lot on me. I also have dysphonia so my speech is very difficult to understand. Well, we've been having problems. He's a major gamer and dedicates most of his time to playing (he's almost 28). He's kind of always put games as his major priority and would just stop texting me w/o notice because he was playing and not reply back until the next morning. I've tried talking to him about it and he'll get better for a while and then slip right back into that routine again leave me hardly speaking to him thoughout the day. I thought maybe this was normal, I'm not a clingy girlfriend so I tried to roll with it; however, it's just getting worse. My parents would ask me his days off or when he was off so he could come to dinner or when I was going out with him ( it was once a week) and I found I never knew these answers, he never kept me updated on his schedule but again, I excused it and rolled with it. But the month of November has been worse than ever. Earlier this month he went almost 2 days without talking to me at all. When he finally did text me I decided to be very blunt and honest on how that makes me feel less than wanted. He worked on it for a bit but started slipping again. Last Thursday I decided to have yet another chat, really inform him that I'm feeling lonely and more like a duty to him than a girlfriend. He promised he'd give me the attention I deserve (keep in mind I'm not asking for 24/7 attention but I would say an hour a day of communication and a visit once a week). Well, since October 12, Sunday has been our day. Every Sunday since The Walking Dead premiered this season he's come over to watch it with me because he loves it, I love it, my family loves it; it was our day to see each other since I don't feel up to going out. Well, Sunday before last he was too sick to come, I was suspicious at his reason but didn't say anything about it, even kept the episode so we could watch it again since he doesn't have cable but he later said he found it online and bought it to watch so I was like cool. But last Sunday, I asked him to come over again and he said no, he already had plans to play Halo with a friend online. Now, I got mad. It's been 2 weeks since he's seen me, his gf, and he makes plans to play games instead?? He claims to be in such love with me but I have to have two talks with him to talk to me and now 2 weeks of not seeing me and he makes plans on our day?? After I get mad at him he's like well I may not have Internet anyway so I'll go ahead and come. Well that makes me plan b so I uninvited him. I'm mad. We've been going back and fourth since Sunday, he's begging for another chance but I'm not sure if I should? If someone loves you then they shouldn't need to make an effort to talk and see you right, they should just naturally want to, right? My parents don't think he's right for me, either and find his disrespect for me during this hard time with my health a sign of anything but love. He's swearing he'll make me top priority and admits that his games were his first priority because he didn't think I'd leave, said he "wanted his cake and to eat it too" but swears he's changed and he loves me and will go insane without me. I don't know what to do, I don't know if I can get passed someone saying they put games above me. My parents think he's wrong for me and too immature for a relationship based on his actions and disrespect towards them as well, but feel that I will beat myself up if I don't give a chance (because I feel guilty hurting people and have a hard time breaking up with people) but say they would end it if they were me because it's too early in the relationship to not want to see each other more than wanting to do anything else. What do you guys think? Thanks
For some quick backstory, in 2012 I became deathly ill for 6 months, in and out of the hospital. My, now ex, broke up with me over this. My current boyfriend (who was a friend during all this) swept in and wanted to be with me. But I was so sick and bound to a wheelchair that he made him wait til I could walk a little on my own, and he patiently waited for me; however, present time now, I relapsed in October returning to the hospital. I once again cannot go out without my wheelchair and even then it's a lot on me. I also have dysphonia so my speech is very difficult to understand. Well, we've been having problems. He's a major gamer and dedicates most of his time to playing (he's almost 28). He's kind of always put games as his major priority and would just stop texting me w/o notice because he was playing and not reply back until the next morning. I've tried talking to him about it and he'll get better for a while and then slip right back into that routine again leave me hardly speaking to him thoughout the day. I thought maybe this was normal, I'm not a clingy girlfriend so I tried to roll with it; however, it's just getting worse. My parents would ask me his days off or when he was off so he could come to dinner or when I was going out with him ( it was once a week) and I found I never knew these answers, he never kept me updated on his schedule but again, I excused it and rolled with it. But the month of November has been worse than ever. Earlier this month he went almost 2 days without talking to me at all. When he finally did text me I decided to be very blunt and honest on how that makes me feel less than wanted. He worked on it for a bit but started slipping again. Last Thursday I decided to have yet another chat, really inform him that I'm feeling lonely and more like a duty to him than a girlfriend. He promised he'd give me the attention I deserve (keep in mind I'm not asking for 24/7 attention but I would say an hour a day of communication and a visit once a week). Well, since October 12, Sunday has been our day. Every Sunday since The Walking Dead premiered this season he's come over to watch it with me because he loves it, I love it, my family loves it; it was our day to see each other since I don't feel up to going out. Well, Sunday before last he was too sick to come, I was suspicious at his reason but didn't say anything about it, even kept the episode so we could watch it again since he doesn't have cable but he later said he found it online and bought it to watch so I was like cool. But last Sunday, I asked him to come over again and he said no, he already had plans to play Halo with a friend online. Now, I got mad. It's been 2 weeks since he's seen me, his gf, and he makes plans to play games instead?? He claims to be in such love with me but I have to have two talks with him to talk to me and now 2 weeks of not seeing me and he makes plans on our day?? After I get mad at him he's like well I may not have Internet anyway so I'll go ahead and come. Well that makes me plan b so I uninvited him. I'm mad. We've been going back and fourth since Sunday, he's begging for another chance but I'm not sure if I should? If someone loves you then they shouldn't need to make an effort to talk and see you right, they should just naturally want to, right? My parents don't think he's right for me, either and find his disrespect for me during this hard time with my health a sign of anything but love. He's swearing he'll make me top priority and admits that his games were his first priority because he didn't think I'd leave, said he "wanted his cake and to eat it too" but swears he's changed and he loves me and will go insane without me. I don't know what to do, I don't know if I can get passed someone saying they put games above me. My parents think he's wrong for me and too immature for a relationship based on his actions and disrespect towards them as well, but feel that I will beat myself up if I don't give a chance (because I feel guilty hurting people and have a hard time breaking up with people) but say they would end it if they were me because it's too early in the relationship to not want to see each other more than wanting to do anything else. What do you guys think? Thanks
