I, myself am not pregnant... but my friend is.

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

I need some advice for my friend. She's 15 and she's pregnant... she wants an abortion because she doesnt want to tell her parents. This is her 2nd child. She lost the other one to a mis-carriage a few years ago... I really dont want her to kill her baby. I would be willing to take the baby if she had no other options... but I, myself am too young to take care of a child... let alone myself. I'm scared... i dont want her to kill this baby. The baby deserves a life... what should i do?

Jo.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

Well you can pray for her Jo, and let her know that you care about what she is going through. It is a really hard thing to go through with out support. I think I told you about my BIL and his now wife. She was pregnant at 15 and gave birth to a beautiful little girl this year. It was hard for her, even after she told her parents, they kicked her out of the house after Natalie was born.

But really, let her know that there are other options out there for her, adpotion is a great alternative to abortion.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Thanks Peg. I have been praying... i just dont want her to give up the baby... Thank you.

Jo.

 

[katelyn]

A good website to check out is www.optionline.org. They can help your friend realize she is not limited in her options and help her find places she can turn for help. They also give honest facts about the various procedures used to do an abortion.

Another site is www.silentnomoreawareness.org, that has testimonies of women who have had abortions and regret what they did.

Also, if you know how far along she is, you could check out a site like www.babycenter.com that has a weekly timeline of fetal development. Even though in the early stages it doesn't look much like a baby, when you realize how all the little organs are already forming (including the brain) it makes you realize that it's not just a blob of tissue like many people would have you believe.

But I think the most important thing you can do is make sure your friend realizes that you care about HER just as much as you care about her little baby. I'm sure she feels very stressed, confused, and pressured right now, and what she needs is someone to care about her, not to be adding to the pressure. Love her and give her the support she needs. You don't have to hide your feelings about how you will grieve if she ends the life of her child, but be loving to her.

 

[Why?]

She only 15 and she had a miscarriage a few years ago??? Wow... this is one troubled child. Sounds like she's looking for love (in all the wrong places). She needs to be reminded that this baby deserves a chance at life and love also. And there are places that would help her if her parents refuse to take care of her while she is pregnant. (If you need help finding them, let me know. I will help you look for agencies.)

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Katelyn, Thank you very much for the web-sites... i think they will help alot. I know that at he early stages of pregancy it doesnt look much like a baby. But i also know what abortion agencies try to tell young women as well as older women about how "its not technically a baby yet" They're lies... Its just sad that some women believe it...

Why?- Yes, she had a misscarraige a few years ago. She is VERY troubled... and she's under alot of stress. I dont think its so much she's looking for love... i think its attention and ways to let out the stress and things... But i dont know for sure... it could be that she's looking for love...i cant judge that because i dont know what she's feeling. See... she's driven alot of her close friends away because of her sleeping around... ex. she called my best friend in the waking hours of the morning drunk and said "Oh my God Kaci (not her real name) I just had the best sex with this guy i met at the mall..." And my best friend said "Oh really... and his name was??" She replied... "I dont know." She doesnt know who the father is of her 2 babies... its sad... and it hurts to se my friend go through this.

I support my friend... but I wont support her decision if she decides to abort this baby. I'll be there for her throughout the pregancy... but it will hurt me deeply if she aborts the baby. I love my friend and her unborn child... i care about both of them deeply... im scared... i dont want anything to happen to either of them.

Thank you for all of your help... it is greatly appreciated. God Bless all of you and your babies. I wish the best for you.

Jo.

 

[katelyn]

I know that at he early stages of pregancy it doesnt look much like a baby. But i also know what abortion agencies try to tell young women as well as older women about how "its not technically a baby yet" They're lies... Its just sad that some women believe it...

Yes, it is sad...sad that they want to make it so easy and convenient to have an abortion. But I think women have the right to know about the development of their unborn child, not just to have the issue glossed over so they can feel okay about going through an abortion (at least until afterward...).

For example, the heart starts beating in the 5th week. Generally the earliest a woman finds out she's pregnant is at 4 weeks, so chances are the heart is beating by the time they get an abortion. And sometime in the 6th week (which is when I found out I was pregnant), the baby starts to move it's paddle-like little limbs with it's webbed fingers and toes. It may not look like a newborn, but there's no doubt that life exists there!

Oh, and www.americanbaby.com has some good photos that show that the baby is more than just a blob of tissue. They have an annoying ad that pops up when you first go to their site, but once you close that if you look on the left under "Calendar Tools" they have the "Fetal Development Timeline."

Praying for you and your friend and her baby!

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Thank you very much.

Jo.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

She's decided to get the abortion. I am so heart broken for that unborn baby...

Jo.

 

[katelyn]

I'm so sorry.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I am sorry to hear that as well Jo.

 

[alaskamolly]

That is so sad (for them both).

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

my friend hates me... she mad at me for not supporting her abortion... I'm sorry... but i wont support her in killing her baby. I mean think of it this way:

If she had the baby, and lets say the baby was 4 years old... and all of a sudden she couldnt support her anymore... would she kill her? No. Of course not. So what's the difference? i dont know... she's not listening to me now... it hurts...

Jo.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

How can she do this? She made that baby... why? I am seriously in tears right now.. this hurts so much.... i just looked at pictures of aborted babies... and one of the pictures was a baby aborted on GOOD FRIDAY! The parents actually had the nerve to put a crusufix (SP?) next to the body parts of their unborn child.

this picture was the first to bring me to tears... i cant belive she's doing this... im so hurt...

jo.

 

[Leanna]

A person under 18 can't get an abortion without parent's consent.... so her parents are okay with it?

I haven't heard anything about the adoption option. There are so many couples out there that can't have children but want them! She could make them very happy. Have you tried that approach?

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

No, she's using "The Kill Pill" So she doesnt need her parents consent.

And yes, i already tried that approach, her words were, "I am not gonna carry a baby for 9 months, then go through hell to have the baby if im not gonna keep it..."

Jo.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

I got her to change her mind.... she's not getting the abortion.

Jo.

 

[katelyn]

I got her to change her mind.... she's not getting the abortion.

Praise the Lord! Thank God she has a friend like you to be supportive of her.

 

[sara elizabeth]

WOW!!!

 

[Ailanthus]

That is so sad. Is that the kind of guilt she really wants to live with for the rest of her life?

Well, if she carries through, at least that child will be in the comforting arms of Christ.
I will pray for you and your friend.

**edit**
Hooray! I was typing my reply to finding out she was having an abortion.... talk about a fast answer to prayer! Thank God for that child's life!