I like a guy, how do I get to know him better?

JeremiahJ said:

Take a step back in your thinking. That's what I would do. I don't think you're to the point yet where you should think about it as "pursuing" him (if you're using the term how it is often used). Pursue a friendship with him. There's nothing wrong or abnormal about a girl and a guy spending time together as friends. Ask him out for coffee. Not like a date. Like going out for coffee. Don't worry about letting him know you're interested. Just be interested in being his friend, and see where things go. It's dangerous to start off being interested in dating eachother. At least, many people have been burned by that. Anyway, this post felt like a huge ramble... hope there was something of use in it!

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sweetmercy said:

Someone help, I need some dating advice!

I work as a receptionist, and there's a client at work that I've developed a little bit of a crush on. We chat quite a bit whenever he comes in (I usually see him about twice a week) and he seems like a very nice guy (and yes, he's a Christian ). Some of my coworkers think he's interested in me too. I'd really like to get to know him better, but I won't ask him out because 1) I'm at work and 2) I'd rather be pursued than to do the pursuing. He's quite shy and seems like he's the type of guy who would find it hard to ask a girl out. Actually, I don't even want a "date", I just want to go for coffee to get to know him better and see if he's someone I'd be interested in (okay, maybe that's a date, but I'm not talking in a romantic sense since I hardly know him) So, what can I do to let him know I'm interested? How obvious should I be? Should I just go for it and nonchalantly ask him to go for coffee? Ahh, these things are so complicated
Thanks a bunch!
Jen

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