I just have to know...

[ByLoveAndGrace]

Did you....?










Keep gifts, mementos, letters, cards, stuffed animals, pictures, etc. from previous relationships? If so, why?

I was inspired to ask this, because I was under the impression that most guys kept stuff, and girls tend to throw everything that reminds them of the last guy away... but I wanted to see what the general consensus was!!

 

[peanutbutter12]

*wishes there was a "use the search" smiley*

We had a big discussion about this only a few weeks ago. Check it out, should't be too far back.

CJ

 

[scruffy1986]

*wishes there was a "use the search" smiley*

We had a big discussion about this only a few weeks ago. Check it out, should't be too far back.

CJ

well discussions have a habbit of rotating in forums.

 

[f U z ! o N]

i found the thread!
i started that discussion so maybe it can help you out.
http://www.christianforums.com/t3270947-breakups-and-memories.html

 

[sherri]

Yeah, I got rid of most things. They hold too many memories.
I had a necklace from my first b/f that was beautiful and I hated to get rid of it because it meant so much to me. He went to a lot of effort over it and I wore it all the time and never took it off etc.

But when we broke up I felt God say 'get rid of it, it's holding you back'. So I did. And it was.

 

[Chaan Stines]

My ex-gf gave me a camera bag, since I was into photography at the time. After we broke up, I kept it anyway, even though it was a bad reminder. It's a perfectly good bag.

 

[barefeetonholyground]

I kept it, until I started a new relationship. Then I took all the pictures of us together and burned them. I still have the stuffed animals and a few pieces of jewelry, but I don't think of them when I look at them.

 

[heatherq17]

I did keep things but now that I have been with my bf for almost 3 years I since throw them away a long time ago. But I still have some of the stuff John got me when we first started dating

 

[Arclight610]

I torched everything, except for the things I found remotely useful.

-TJ-

 

[mebby02]

l have kept a stuffed animal my bf gave me and some pictures he gave me l have them on my wall. And pictures of us together l keep them in my photo book hidden my bf knows about it. He doesn't seem to mind Just as long as he doesn't see it. l keep it for memories so l will always remember them. l just keep so l can show my kids who l dated. And everything seems alright when l keep it. Somethings l threw away and some clothes he gave me l kept too

 

[Wadsworth]

I have a items / pictures from my past relationships. I think they are very important. They each hold memories of different times and loves. My ram doesn't work as well as I would like, and the pictures help spark forgotten things.

But, I still have love for all of the people in my past. I could see how it would be very hard to keep things like that if you were severely hurt by the person.

Love is lovely!!

 

[lunalinda]

Well, I haven't been given much of anything from my exes to really be torn over them. There's just the burned Braveheart CD from my first boyfriend, and there's no way I'm throwing THAT away. Too beautiful of music and I still love soundtracks. And besides, I have no bitter feelings towards him anyway. We had good closure.

Then there's the necklace from my 2nd boyfriend, which at the time was oh so beautiful. (gag). Currently, I don't wear it, nor think about it. I forget I even have it. Wait...I take that back. I did at one point wanted to breake it up chain link by chain link and put it in an envelope to mail back to him with a note that reads something like, "I have no more use for this piece of junk" or "I never liked it anyway" or the like. But the fact that such a thing wouldn't faze him stopped me.

Anyway, other than those 2 items, all I have are a few informal pics of them. I sometimes still do want to rip them up (or delete them), but eh...I don't like to forget what people looked like I guess.

 

[princessellie]

i kept stuff for a while but its all gone now, well except for the odd pai of ear rings and stuff like that