I just recently moved to a new state, and I met someone and had sex. Then later found myself to be pregnant, and just yesterday had an abortion. At this point I feel horrible, but at the same time it hasn't really sunk in yet. I kind of feel numb by the whole thing. I know I messed up, and part of me doesn't want to face it, yet the other part wants to make right with God. I just need to vent and maybe get some responses, I suppose. Thanks.
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ephraimanesti
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MY DEAR SISTER,
Yes, you indeed made a serious mistake. WELCOME TO THE HUMAN RACE! You must face it on the one hand, and on the other hand make it right with God.
God is your loving, forgiving, and understanding Heavenly Father--turn to Him in your pain, confess your sorrow and regret for what you did, and accept His forgiveness--WHICH HE HAS PROMISED TO GIVE--and let your burden be lifted. God has forgiven you as soon as you ask Him to--you must also forgive yourself!
You will need some serious counseling to get through this, because when the numbness wears off you are going to have a lot of pain to deal with--even though you know that God has forgiven you. Hopefully, your Church has this service or can refer you to a provider, but do not neglect to take care of yourself--mentally, emotionally, and spiritual--by getting the help you need.
MAY GOD BLESS YOU, KEEP YOU IN HIS ARMS, AND HEAL YOUR PAIN!
A BOND-SLAVE OF CHRIST,
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from the wee bit of tale you have told us, it looks to me as though you fell in to a hole and then dug yourself deeper in an attempt to escape. saying that it now looks as though you have a choice (much as you all ways did). on one hand you can choose not to face the reality and concequences of your actions, how you will do that or where it might take you i do not know (thats the keep on digging solution to my mind). or on the other hand you can turn around and run to the lord.
i hope and pray your pain doesnt consume you
i hope and pray your pain doesnt consume you
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HEAVENLY FATHER,
RIGHT NOW IN THIS MOMENT I PRAY FOR jerilulu
FATHER I KNOW ALL TOO WELL THE HEARTACHE AND HEARTBEAK THAT ABORTION CAUSES...LORD WE RECOGNIZE THIS WASN'T YOUR PLAN, BUT LORD YOUR WORD SAYS THAT ALL THING WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD TO THOSE WHO ARE IN CHRIST JESUS, FATHER WE ASK FOR FORGIVNESS WE ASK FOR HEALING GOD WE ASK TO BE RESTORED UNTO YOU. SHE IS ALIVE THIS DAY GOD, AND CRYS OUT TO YOU FOR YOUR MERCY AND GRACE. FATHER WRAP YOUR LOVING ARMS AROUND HER, SHOW HER THAT YOU ARE LOVE...AND THAT LOVE IS UNFAILING. FATHER WE BELIEVE THAT CHILD IS WITH YOU TODAY, SO SPECIAL TO YOU, STILL WITH A PURPOSE, STILL PRAISING YOU. HELP THIS YOUNG LADY FORGIVE HERSELF AND TO MOVE ON IN YOU, DOING WHAT IS PLEASING IN YOUR SIGHT.
IN JESUS PRECIOUS NAME I PRAY AND THANK YOU LORD!!!
YOU ARE FORGIVNESS, IF YOU WEREN'T WHERE WOULD ANY OF US BE....WE ARE ETERNALLY GRATEFUL GOD. AMEN
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my heart goes out to you. after asking God for forgiveness... which He is eager to give... I would definately recomind getting counsiling to deal with the emotions that are bound to turn up sooner or later in relation to this. I pray that God gives you peace, and holds you strongly in His loving arms to comfort you.
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I have made a terrible mistake
I just recently moved to a new state, and I met someone and had sex. Then later found myself to be pregnant, and just yesterday had an abortion. At this point I feel horrible, but at the same time it hasn't really sunk in yet. I kind of feel numb by the whole thing. I know I messed up, and part of me doesn't want to face it, yet the other part wants to make right with God. I just need to vent and maybe get some responses, I suppose. Thanks.
jerelulu, You poor dear. I understand. My situation was different, I was married to the father. I was the "babymaker", "just having babies to keep you". You know Hon, it doesn't matter what people say, this is something between you and the Lord. You will never forget it, you will always wonder "what if". Honey, your child is with God and that is one thing you can NEVER forget. God knew what you were going to do, before you did it...He knew! He still loves you, you are the one that will punsih you. Counseling is a good idea, I didn't have it, it would've cost something and according to everyone else, I did the right thing. According to me, I didn't. But, I DID make the choice, the DR asked me, what do you want me to do, under my breath I said "do it". No one, is responsible, but me. God still loves me, I am still a Christian, I am still going to Heaven. There will just be someone there to greet me that I never really met.
My advise is to get counseling, if you can, and please do not let this happen again. I do have a question, does your mother know? Mine doesn't, at least she thinks I lost the baby.....I couldn't tell her.
I just recently moved to a new state, and I met someone and had sex. Then later found myself to be pregnant, and just yesterday had an abortion. At this point I feel horrible, but at the same time it hasn't really sunk in yet. I kind of feel numb by the whole thing. I know I messed up, and part of me doesn't want to face it, yet the other part wants to make right with God. I just need to vent and maybe get some responses, I suppose. Thanks.
jerelulu, You poor dear. I understand. My situation was different, I was married to the father. I was the "babymaker", "just having babies to keep you". You know Hon, it doesn't matter what people say, this is something between you and the Lord. You will never forget it, you will always wonder "what if". Honey, your child is with God and that is one thing you can NEVER forget. God knew what you were going to do, before you did it...He knew! He still loves you, you are the one that will punsih you. Counseling is a good idea, I didn't have it, it would've cost something and according to everyone else, I did the right thing. According to me, I didn't. But, I DID make the choice, the DR asked me, what do you want me to do, under my breath I said "do it". No one, is responsible, but me. God still loves me, I am still a Christian, I am still going to Heaven. There will just be someone there to greet me that I never really met.
My advise is to get counseling, if you can, and please do not let this happen again. I do have a question, does your mother know? Mine doesn't, at least she thinks I lost the baby.....I couldn't tell her.
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I am so sorry. I am praying for you.
May you feel His presence and healing grace.
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My heart goes out to you. God loves you and has already forgiven you. I do hope you seek some help, and find peace. I know that God will work everything out, and you'll be fine. I'm praying for you, God bless
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Man I wish I could help you, I am giving you a cyber hug and love. This is going to be a tough road to travel No doubt. It is something that you can never change, but our God is a forgiving God.
1John 1:9 "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purifies us from all unrighteousness"
I really feel for you, when the numbness wears off, I do hope you have someone you can share this with, a real person, counselling does sound like a good idea. But maybe someone at church might help you too. Definitely get some support or help from someone.
I hope you run to Jesus and allow Him to comfort you, this is a terrible burden to carry, give it to Him, He will accept you with open arms.
I am going to pray for you, I pray that the Lord will comfort you and give you peace.
God Bless You jerilulu and whatever it is that you need in life, the Lord Jesus can provide. He will give you all the love that you need.
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Jesus, we ask that these prayers may reach up to You. This woman has done a grievous thing and this sin and pain will be with her for her whole lifetime. Lord, Jesus, Your life, Passion and Death are all that she has to give her comfort, forgiveness and the free gift of salvation. Help her turn away from the world's wicked standards and their ways of handling unwanted life, help her to never do this again. I ask this in Your name and for Your glory. Amen.
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Project Rachel will give you amazing help, which you really do need right now. They will give you a lot of support and love to work through this, that is what they are there for, women who have been hurt by abortion and want to reconcile themselves with God and themsleves too! You are loved very much by God and He wants you to go to Him, please seek the help you need to get there!!
You are in my prayers!!
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Please look into these:
http://www.pregnancycenters.org/
http://www.marysshelter.com/
http://www.frtl.org/
They can refer you to people in your area. Through prayer and opening your heart to Jesus and put this in His hands, You can walk with Him through this mess and let it make you stronger and help in stopping other to go through it.
I think that was one of the most powerful messages in the March this year was all the women who cme out that had abortions and then stood up there and declared it wrong and they got the support and love of hundreds of thousands present at the march.
http://www.pregnancycenters.org/
http://www.marysshelter.com/
http://www.frtl.org/
They can refer you to people in your area. Through prayer and opening your heart to Jesus and put this in His hands, You can walk with Him through this mess and let it make you stronger and help in stopping other to go through it.
I think that was one of the most powerful messages in the March this year was all the women who cme out that had abortions and then stood up there and declared it wrong and they got the support and love of hundreds of thousands present at the march.
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My favorite Bible verse:
"I, even I, am the one who wipes out your transgressions for My own sake, and I will not remember your sins."
Isaiah 43:2
Isaiah 43:2
God is loving, caring, forgiving, amazing!!! He knows the choices you will make and He knew the choices you WOULD make before you did. He still loves you, He will NEVER turn his back on you! Pray to Him, repent your sin, and take comfort in God's everlasting love!
I used to be on birth control and I used to have sex. I found out that birth control pills CAN cause unwanted abortions. This broke my heart. I wept and prayed for forgiveness and I vowed to never take birth control again. I know it is different than wanting to have the procedure, but an abortion is an abortion and there is a chance (small I hope, but nonetheless) that I have had one, too. We all make mistakes- huge mistakes and we don't even realize the repercussions of our actions until later! Remember, everything happens for a reason. No, this was not God's plan, but take this loss and grief as a chance to turn to God and give your life to Him. I promise it is more fulfilling than ANY worldly life could ever be!
I recommend counseling as well. A Christian counselor would be wonderful, but any counseling will hopefully be able to help you. God bless you in this hard time you're going through.
Praise God for HE IS LOVE!!!!
I used to be on birth control and I used to have sex. I found out that birth control pills CAN cause unwanted abortions. This broke my heart. I wept and prayed for forgiveness and I vowed to never take birth control again. I know it is different than wanting to have the procedure, but an abortion is an abortion and there is a chance (small I hope, but nonetheless) that I have had one, too. We all make mistakes- huge mistakes and we don't even realize the repercussions of our actions until later! Remember, everything happens for a reason. No, this was not God's plan, but take this loss and grief as a chance to turn to God and give your life to Him. I promise it is more fulfilling than ANY worldly life could ever be!
I recommend counseling as well. A Christian counselor would be wonderful, but any counseling will hopefully be able to help you. God bless you in this hard time you're going through.
Praise God for HE IS LOVE!!!!
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That is very sad. God forgives. Repent of your sins and ask for forgiveness and he will grant it.
"Lord Jesus, please help jerilulu, our sister in Christ, overcome this part of her life that Satan has brought unto her. Please show her you love and forgiveness. In Jesus name, Amen"
"Lord Jesus, please help jerilulu, our sister in Christ, overcome this part of her life that Satan has brought unto her. Please show her you love and forgiveness. In Jesus name, Amen"
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I to have felt the pain you are going through only from the male side of the story. You will never forget the decision that was made and will often wonder what if. My "tramua" didn't begin until 6 months after the fact. I did not know God at that time in my life and did not have a good support group. When I came to Christ about 2 years ago I was able to find a small group and talk about that event from almost 10 years ago. God is in the business of forgiving. But he is also the greatest teacher we could ever have. My prayer is that you will take from this experience what wisdom and insight that God has given you. My prayers are with you. May God be with you in your time of need. God Bless!!
P.S.-- counseling is a great idea.
P.S.-- counseling is a great idea.
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MY DEAR SISTER,
i pray and trust that all is well with you. Could you perhaps fill us in on what God has been doing in your heart since your first post. You have received a lot of good advice of various kinds, and i know that many--myself included--are praying for you, but how are YOU doing with all this.
i hope that you have forgiven yourself for your wrongful choice--in the same way that God has indeed forgiven you for your mistake. i also hope that you are trusting in His Love and His guidance to get your live back on track and heal the pain of all that has happened. JUST REMEMBER HIS GREAT LOVE FOR YOU AND ALL WILL BE WELL!
A BOND-SLAVE OF CHRIST,
ephraim
i pray and trust that all is well with you. Could you perhaps fill us in on what God has been doing in your heart since your first post. You have received a lot of good advice of various kinds, and i know that many--myself included--are praying for you, but how are YOU doing with all this.
i hope that you have forgiven yourself for your wrongful choice--in the same way that God has indeed forgiven you for your mistake. i also hope that you are trusting in His Love and His guidance to get your live back on track and heal the pain of all that has happened. JUST REMEMBER HIS GREAT LOVE FOR YOU AND ALL WILL BE WELL!
A BOND-SLAVE OF CHRIST,
ephraim
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Thank you all so much for your responses. I was so surprised to see so many of them, and that really made me feel good. Through all of this, I really see the one common denominator, and that's the Lord. I admit my wrongs, and ask for forgiveness. As you as my witnesses.... I pray Lord that you would forgive me of my tresspasses, deliver me from evil and come into my life, that my heart would be changed. I pray GOOD LORD that you would direct me where to turn, so that I may carry out your will for me. I love you and I praise your Heavenly Name, Lord!
Thank you Lord for your forgiveness, your love, and your grace. Thank you Lord for my kind and loving brothers and sisters who have prayed for me, and counseled me. I ask Lord that you bless them in return for their Godly love.
Always be with me and I with you!
In Jesus' Amazing name I pray, Amen.
I pray Lord that you would forgive me of my tresspasses, deliver me from evil and come into my life, that my heart would be changed. I pray GOOD LORD that you would direct me where to turn, so that I may carry out your will for me. I love you and I praise your Heavenly Name, Lord! Thank you Lord for your forgiveness, your love, and your grace. Thank you Lord for my kind and loving brothers and sisters who have prayed for me, and counseled me. I ask Lord that you bless them in return for their Godly love.
Always be with me and I with you!
In Jesus' Amazing name I pray, Amen.
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