My husband and I have only been married for a few months and he left me and our unborn child almost a month ago. For the past month I have been bending over backwards and accepting heartless, callous treatment for the sake of my vows. Well, last night he started talking about divorce and I am already reeling from the lack of security he is offering me and my unborn daughter. So, I told him that it was over. He then began to try to manipulate me into changing my mind even to the point of threatening suicide and comparing me to the parents who abandoned him when he was a baby. I now see what other people tried to tell me about him trying to manipulate and control me and that his actions aren't love. I have been making excuses for his behavior. I'm done making excuses and accepting treatment I don't deserve.
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not perfect. I have major emotional issues that would probably warrent medication and I have actually hit him a few times. I have repented to him and to God for that and it hasn't happened since. I am truly trying to overcome my sin and I think that is where he and I differ.
We have both been sinning in the recent past and I am the only one repentant and trying to get back to God. He claims he believes, but I have NEVER seen him do anything even slightly "christian" other than always praying over his meals. I couldn't even get him to go to church with me or anything like that.
Anywayz... The issue I'm having now is that I don't know if I should just be content to be separated or if I should assume that he'll never change and seek a divorce. See, we don't have the power to change without God and he's claimed to be proud of who he is, so I can't imagine him turning to God to help him change his ways.
Also, there is a scripture in which Jesus said that on the day of judgement many will call out "Lord, Lord!" and he will say, "Depart. I knew you not." To me that means that there are people who might claim that they are christian and if they are bearing NO righteous fruit and they are bearing sinful fruit is that the same thing as being a non-believer. And if so, aren't I free to leave and remarry since I was abandoned by a non-believer?
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not perfect. I have major emotional issues that would probably warrent medication and I have actually hit him a few times. I have repented to him and to God for that and it hasn't happened since. I am truly trying to overcome my sin and I think that is where he and I differ.
We have both been sinning in the recent past and I am the only one repentant and trying to get back to God. He claims he believes, but I have NEVER seen him do anything even slightly "christian" other than always praying over his meals. I couldn't even get him to go to church with me or anything like that.
Anywayz... The issue I'm having now is that I don't know if I should just be content to be separated or if I should assume that he'll never change and seek a divorce. See, we don't have the power to change without God and he's claimed to be proud of who he is, so I can't imagine him turning to God to help him change his ways.
Also, there is a scripture in which Jesus said that on the day of judgement many will call out "Lord, Lord!" and he will say, "Depart. I knew you not." To me that means that there are people who might claim that they are christian and if they are bearing NO righteous fruit and they are bearing sinful fruit is that the same thing as being a non-believer. And if so, aren't I free to leave and remarry since I was abandoned by a non-believer?
